r/vindictapoc

I’m a darker skin woman, and over the years have neglected my feet when it comes to self care and maintenance. I would like to start wearing heels more to elevate my appearance, and i don’t want my feet to look like paws but like feet that belong to a pretty woman lol.

Issues:

1. the colour. They look dull and discoloured. ‘ombre’s’ it gets darker towards my toes. I believe consistent feet masks, scrubs and things could brighten this and reverse the darkening but i want to know what you guys swear by

2. Not soft. (They aren’t rough but i have been doing the Vaseline and socks method which works pretty well)

Any other tips that your mothers, friends or yourself, taught you that you would like to pass on, would be amazing.

I am always FASCINATED by dating behaviors in different cultures because there's so much unspoken information... and people act so different.

I think the only people who walk up and hit one me/compliment me the most are other black people. Especially if I have my natural hair blown out (its long so especially older people like to talk to me about it). However I notice when I do certain hairstyles, white people will start talking to me all of a sudden. It's very interesting. I notice it happens with men a little bit too, like my dad is darkskin and for some reason when he straightens his hair latino/hispanics start trying to talk to him.

I'm overweight atm and I kind of feel like only black people go after me (although culturally we outwardly approach people more) but when I was 30lbs lighter or so more different people seemed interested in talking to me.

To clarify I'm not asking this as dating advice.. I am not really super interested in dating to be honest. I just like sociology.

Hello! For years I’ve always struggled looking super dark/dull especially in photos with other woc. I realized its because I have brown skin with olive undertones, and that somehow mutes my skin color.

I’ve been watching Monica Ravi as shes also brown and has olive undertones, but I feel like the lighting does a lot of heavy lifting for her looks. (just like most influencers)

Are there any ladies struggling with this? Or any advice to give my skin that glow? Is it just proper makeup technique?

I'm 25F, east African. In the past few years I've definitely slightly improved my style and lost a lot of weight. I'm super tall and was always slightly chubby to avg but recently I've dropped to BMI 19 due to health issues. I honestly do not notice any difference in treatment (I live in western Europe). Most I've noticed is ppl at work looking at my body a bit longer, as if they've noticed that I've lost weight and one person asking if I'm ok. Only my ortho doctor commented on my body saying I'm skinny with a sorta large chest(I'm an E cup and this was at bmi 20 or 21 maybe) and to maybe consider a breast reduction if my back issues persist lmao but no one else has ever said I'm skinny or treated me any differently.

I do notice when I put on makeup and nicer clothes ofc I get treated accordingly but nothing crazy at fancier places, but overall I don't notice anything in my day to day or with people I know personally.

When I lived in my home country honestly any drastic change in appearance would mean hearing comments or being treated differently. Where I live now in Europe no one says anything. Ik I don't fit the eurocentric beauty standard bc of race and tbh I don't give as much of a shit about that nor do I want to be white/compare myself to them but I do want to experience a bit more privilege and respect in treatment, especially when it comes to weight loss (body being my main goal bc when I weighed more my body was sexualized and men never looked away from my boobs which disgusted me. I want my now thinner body to be seen as ideal but less sexual even if that won't fully go away)

I'm trying to come up with a new form of exercise , I'm at a loss and want to know what forms of exercise have you been doing and what results have you seen?

I am mixed (brown + east asian) and I have monolids + the most pathetic lashes to ever exist. I do love the shape of my eyes (they are very round and doe like), even with the monolid. But my lack of lashes is making me feel so unfeminine and reptile like lol.

I have tried many lash serums and have seen real results from ones with prostaglandins (my fav was a Japanese brand called emaked). But even then, my lashes were not long by any means and I still needed lots of mascara to make them noticable. So I felt it wasn't worth my money (lash serums are expensive!!)

I've been wearing false lashes (light Japanese ones for everyday and heavy mink ones for full glam) everyday for almost a decade. I use DUO striplash glue which is bulletproof.... but I've noticed blank spots along my lashline get bigger and bigger. Probably from damage caused by the adhesives.

So this past year I've been doing only a lash curler and mascara. Shiseido lash curler and Heroine Make or Diorshow mascara. This combo has been a life saver for me. But even when I take utmost care with my routine, I've noticed my lashes starting to fall and the blank spots come back.... and now I'm scared.

My daily makeup is very eye heavy. I love smokey and cool toned eyeshadow and it is basically part of my personal brand at this point. I rarely ever leave my house without makeup and it just feels weird to me to do my usual heavy look and leave my lashes bare

But I've recently been seeing some content, especially from black girls, about "lashless glam" or "no lash makeup". Basically no mascara, no falsies at all.

I am really curious if any of you here incorperate these no lash looks into your regular routine and can give me advice or point me to your favourite influencers or tutorials for this kind of look?

I am a high glam girl in my fashion and grooming and feel like many of these no lash looks are too natural/colorless for my taste. If you know anybody with a glamourous style that I can use for no lash inspiration, I would really appreciate it!!

Also if any of you can give tips on how to heal lash damage or do eye makeup without lash damage that would be really good

I don't know what I'm doing wrong,
I dont if I'm too old or at the wrong places,
But I've tried to improve my looks so I can get things like better jobs, or connections.
But for the past few years, I've only gotten catcalling and men being creeps with, “my pretty privilege.”

I feel like I’ve interpreted this wrong,
I thought if I’ve polish myself up I could get a better job or lifestyle but it didn’t plan out the way I’ve intended.

Have any of you truly received a better opportunity for being attractive?
Edit: Thank you for all your advice, you’ll reminded me that personality still counts.

I’m currently a few months into my braces to fix my teeth, as well as a year into my locs journey. Earlier this year my skin also started breaking out and I had issues with my brows. I’ve since met with my derm and tried to do some research on better products. And fixing my brows as well.

But I genuinely don’t look the best? Im 26 and sometimes I get down on not looking more put together and whatnot. But I’ve actively been trying to work on myself. For anyone in a similar situation. How do have confidence even in the middle of a glow up season?

ok so my friend is going to the states and has very kindly offered to bring me back a beauty haul.

what are your best beauty product recommendations for a woc. anything hyperpigmentation focused, shade inclusive, skincare, body care, makeup !!

I was just thinking about this because I've been having alot of fun with makeup recently and I've realised there were many things about my natural face I used to hate before I started playing with how to style them.

I've gotten so much compliments from people once I started adopting my own style of doing makeup, inspired by my own face. I really feel like a customised look adds so much aura and makes your face really memorable.

The self love has also been off the charts as a result. I can't recommend it more.

Here are some examples

My pigmented, two tone lips: I have natural lips that basically ombre from grey brown to fleshy pink. The top color is very cool toned (literally a shade match to Stone by MAC) and the bottom is warm peachy pink.

Used to hate how the brown parts peak out when I wear a sheer lip or light colors.

Now I actually accutuate the melanin with dark lip liner to create the same ombre color pattern with every lipstick I wear. Black or dark red liner with a red lip and cool tone brown liner with pink or gloss.

So much more diamensional than a single color lip, and so chic.

My round monolids: Used to struggle so much with winged liner, and trying to copy white people's eye looks. I can't describe how much I hated my eye shape in the 2010s beauty guru era of graphic liner + cut creases.

Now I just tightline my eyes with kohl. I use alot alot of eyeshadow and get creative with colors but I embrace my natural shape. This really accentuates the roundness and gives my makeup a timeless vintage quality.

I find that eyeliner shapes really give away what time period you come from but following your natural shape avoids that

As I tend to wear cool tone eyeshadow and have skinny brows, I've been told I have a 90s supermodel energy since I started doing my eyeliner the old school way.

has anybody has anybody tried it? I have some skin and hair growth goals and it seems promising but not a lot of information out there mainly interested in copper peptides. people are purchasing from a china supplier.

I am trying to heal my hyperpigmentation that PCOS caused and I recently brought a bar of raw black African soap from Amazon and some rice milk toner (Beauty of Joseon , to help with my skin barrier). I wanted to know has anyone ever had any good experiences with this soap?

anyone else feel like the stress of the last year is just... sitting on their skin? I feel like i aged five years in six months because of work stress and just the general weight of everything lately. it’s so frustrating because as a WOC, when I get tired, I don't just look "sleepy" I look completely grey and sallow

I am honestly so over teh "glow up" culture on social media that expects you to have a 15-step routine every morning. who has the energy for that? and don't even get me started on the price of high-end skincare now. it feels like every "holy grail" product for aging is $100+ and half the time they don't even formulate with melanin-rich skin in mind. its just greedy industry standards at this point, gatekeeping looking decent behind a massive paywall

Ive been trying to simplify because I just can't deal with the complexity anymore. I started just keeping a big pack of Lululun in my nightstand for when Im too exhausted to even stand at the sink. I found this specific anti aging face mask set that’s actually affordable and doesn't feel like a whole production to use. I just slap one on, lie in the dark, and let it sink in while I try to decompress

its not a miracle cure for teh soul or anything but at least I don't look like a zombie when I wake up for my 8am. kindof feels like the only "maxxing" I have the mental capacity for right now is just staying hydrated and trying to keep my cortisol levels down before my skin just gives up entirely.