If you’re wondering why I entertained it for so long, it’s because I was genuinely curious with how desperate this man is for some puss. Also, if you let me know that you don’t want your time wasted because I asked the bare minimum, I’m definitely about to waste your time. It’s my day off, I don’t have anything better to do.
I used to have crippling emetophobia (the fear of throwing up) so I do surf the subreddits from time to time, came across this gem and had to share.
When I was younger I dated a lot of men I wasn’t attracted to and It was the worst experience I ever . I never wanted the men to touch me and I felt irritated all the time. I want a proper sex life . I want to actually kiss the man. I want to feel real chemistry . I’m not attracted to dad bods or beer bellies . Now of course this doesn’t mean I’m going to excuse a horrible personality but I thought it would be a given that I like kind men.
She’s talking about I don’t talk enough about personality . I’m like duh I thought it was obvious I don’t want some jerk
She sent me a picture of a man she wanted to set me up with and I wasn’t attracted at all. She called me shallow
I love a man with strong arms and biceps . He doesn’t have to be too tall. Just taller than me. I’m 5.8
Was doing my last uber ride for the night and it turned out to be these 3 stoners from chicago who were hella chill. Decided to smoke my blunt with them as i took them to their destination and got one of their numbers to sell some tree to them the next mornin for their trip back. I missed em unfortunately. But then dude texted me the messages above. I aint never had someone tell me im attractive much less another guy and im not gay. It really suprised me cuz he did not come off as gay in the slightest. I aint freak out on him, i actually thought it was funny how the first person who ever told me i was attractive out the blue was a guy hahaha.
he randomly added me on snap so i told him I'm 14 and he said he's 32😭
I know how this sounds already but would like to know if I should have been more sympathetic.. So I met this girl at a concert and we hit it off. We spent lots of time texting back and forth for the next week. Things seemed to be off to a great start.
Later we spent a day fishing (her idea). We both had one catch it was really chill and fun. Later that night we went out to see some live music with her girlfriends. It all went really well until the end..
I was her ride. At the end of the night her friend came up to me and asked if I’d be okay with her stealing her friend for a girls night, sure.. Then when we linked back up with the girl. Her friend says to her “hey I want to steal you away for a girls night, to which my date replied “yeah I wanna have a girls night”.
So now I get the feeling they had this conversation already and was a save me kind of deal.. so I go “alright I guess I’ll get out of here”. She gives me a side hug and says “see ya’”. Oooooof…. I say “see ya’” and leave..
The next morning she texted me the image for this post. I was a little upset at how that was handled the night before..
Anyways I ran into her at the dog park a few days later and it was awkward to say the least.. I saw her walk by and said “is that (name)?”. She said hi, waved and kept walking
So my question to you.. is how could I have handled that differently? Is there anything I can do from here lol. I question myself if I should have shared my understanding with her, because I do know what that’s like. But at the same time I feel like girls just say that stuff so they don’t feel bad.
I'm Eetu (23m) and my girlfriend Ivy (18f) posted a cute selfie of herself on Instagram and some random guy DM:d her and said this. I have no words...
EDIT: Because some people are asking me, I started dating her when I was 22 and she was 18. I would not date someone under 18 obviously. She is at the same maturity level and we are both students. There's nothing weird about that.
He randomly asked me if he thinks I could marry someone with money one day and I said yes because I would prefer a partner in a similar financial bracket. He proceeded to freak out.
Mind you, we barely know each other. He was in the outer friend group in my early 20s and we are all almost 30 now so even if it’s supposed to be jokingly this is not it 😭💀 the audacity. I was busy all day at the lake with my best friend. And we don’t even talk like that. 😅🤣
background info: a while back I was married, it was a bad marriage and I was trying to get out of it. my then husband and I had agreed on an open marriage near the end of everything. in my pursuits, I met this dude who I hit it off with really well. I wasnt trying to get emotionally involved with anyone so I kept some walls up to prevent emotional attachment. through our short few months together the fwb side piece would say stuff here and there about us dating one day. he'd also joke about me taking his roommates place when he moves out. eventually tho down the line, he broke things off with me cuz he started dating another girl. I was upset of course, it was both realizing I definitely could never have this person I really wanted and I had lost my oasis I was able to escape to.
flash forward a couple years and I was finally out of my marriage and single. I saw on his IG he kept alluding to breaking up with that girl. I decided to shoot my shot and reached out to him to let him know no hard feelings about breaking it off and sorry I didn't take it well, etc. we stayed texting here and there for a while after that, friendly and slightly flirty. I was in my casual sex era so I was definitely interested in hooking up with him again but my heart had been hardened to anything close to love/emotions/feelings. so I was prepared for it to be another small quick tryst. by the time he had officially ended things with that girl and made his move, I was in a semi-serious thing with another guy. that other guy was super not into us having multiple partners so out of respect to him (because he was kind and good) I cut off my other sexual partners.
and once again me and this dude had missed each other's open windows. I just know I could have fallen in love with him if we had dated.
anyways. over the next few years we stayed in touch on IG. he started dating someone else. our interactions have always been casual, never crossed any lines. but I have always had this feeling he misses me like I miss him. or miss what could have been.
cut to waking up this morning to this text from him. we haven't texted in close to 6 years. he said it was a drunk text. so how. how out of his list of people to text did he find my name and message me. it would have been starting a new conversation but this looks like a reply to someone.
maybe im over thinking it and I probably am. but like I said, I just wanted to talk it out with someone. im not trying to make any moves.
Context: I take care of my home bound grandfather. He's still living alone for now and someone just bought the place next door. After about a month, I was outside when his new neighbor was and we talked and I told him the situation. I told him to come over later when we are on the porch as my grandfather wanted to meet him.
He came over and talked for awhile. He asked for my number so he can keep an eye on my grandfather or atleast watch out and let me know if something happen. I work full time of course so I was happy to give it to him.
The neighbor is new to the area so I told him a good place to eat and later that day he texted me it was good. Then asked about other places then was trying to ask me out without doing it and I shut it down without saying anything. Then yesterday he was texting me saying he hasn't seen my grandpa. He then just came out and asked if I would go. I ignored it then hours later asked him if I could ask him a question.
I want to ask him why he would even ask me that because 1 he's almost twice my age and 2 he's married. This happens to me all the time I feel like. I'm just being a nice human and don't even date men. I'm actually kinda offended at this. I just think it's low to now the situation I'm in and try to use that to cheat on his wife. So my question is how do I word it? It's like I want to be so rude but also want someone to keep an eye on my grandfather. Advice please