r/exchristian

I don't believe there is any possibility that christianity is a true religion. But since my deconstruction, this is the one thing that I still don't have an explanation for, and I was hoping someone here did. How did jesus fulfill about 300 prophecies?

It seems like all of them aren't actually fulfilled, for example, there's a lot of evidence he was actually born in nazareth instead of bethlehem, so maybe people changed the story to fit all these prophecies and it got accepted as truth over time.

That's just an idea, but I would love to hear if anyone has some ideas or information they can share about this!

Would like to hear your stories. What made you finally say youre done? Are you an atheist now or just ex christian?

They say if the Resurrection was a myth, then women wouldn't have been the first to report it since women were considered lesser back in ancient Rome and surely a man would have been first to make it look better. Is this even a good argument?

And speaking of which, what about the rest of the arguments of the Ressurection sounding like an actual historical record more than a myth?

So i studied in a missionary school. And they would read bible everyday(i won't reveal about my religion-i may or maynot be christian). We have studied in Biology that you need both male and female for a child to be born. And they should get physical for that. So one of the sister in my school said "Mary is virgin and she gave birth" . I mean how is that possible? Isn't that illogical? I have always studied you need a male and female and mostly the person who gave birth ,can't possibly be a virgin!

When I started hearing clips from podcasts featuring manosphere influencers, I felt like I was back in a church pew again. Sure, there is more profanity, more cigars, and more supercars, but the core doctrines remain the same. Hearing talk about high value women (code for attractive virgins or low body count “females”), avoiding 403s (slang for hoes), and men needing to lead because they are evolutionarily superior is just more of the same.

With this messaging being so popular in both camps, two things feel unsurprising to me. First, that young men are experiencing a “loneliness epidemic” in secular culture. I can’t imagine many girls grow up hoping to live a life that feels like a cross-over between The Stepford Wives and The Handmaid’s Tale. For many, they’d rather avoid the headache—can you blame them? Second, I am unsurprised that young men are being drawn to religion at a much higher rate than young women. As a former fundie, I can’t help but notice that Gen Z men seem to be drawn to Christianity more for the alpha, aggressive, patriarchal aesthetic of its religious offshoots than they are the teachings of Jesus — a humble and compassionate Savior — himself.

Read now: https://www.playboy.com/read/politics/red-pilled-guys-are-falling-into-a-christian-fundamentalist-trap

Hey, I’ve been struggling a lot with guilt related to Christianity and sexuality, and I honestly don’t know how to deal with it anymore. I grew up with a lot of shame and fear around anything sexual, and even though I don’t really believe in those teachings anymore, the guilt is still stuck in my head I recently got a boyfriend, and we’re in a long distance relationship. He’s sweet, patient, and genuinely makes me feel safe, but I noticed that anything related to intimacy makes me feel horrible afterward. Even small things can trigger this intense shame, anxiety, or disgust with myself, even when I wanted it and felt okay in the moment. It’s like my brain automatically tells me I’m doing something wrong What scares me now is that he’s visiting me next month for the first time, and I’m worried about how I’m gonna react emotionally. I’m scared that if we do anything intimate, I’ll spiral afterward or ruin the moment because of all this guilt and fear I still carry. Logically, I know intimacy is normal and not evil, but emotionally I still react like I’m sinning or “ruining” myself. I hate how deep this conditioning goes. Has anyone else dealt with religious guilt around sexuality after leaving Christianity (or while questioning it)? How did you cope with intimacy and relationships afterward? Does this feeling ever get better? I’d really appreciate hearing other people’s experiences because I feel really alone with this.

They're protesant, but like most protesants, they still believe Catholics are Christian.

In a religoius debate I asked, "why WOULDN'T God interfere with a person's free will? What is virtuous about an all-powerful being who DOESN'T physically stop a priest (or ANYONE) from putting their penis inside of a child's anus?" and they both FLIPPED.

"WE DON'T WANNA HEAR THAT! WE DON'T WANNA HEAR THAT! WE DON'T WANNA HEAR THAT!"

No shit you don't wanna hear it.

I said, "what's worse: it happening, or me saying it happens?" and my mom said, "obviously it happening, but WE DON'T WANNA HEAR IT!"

Christianity, and how people follow it, and how people accept it, is baffling.

I've recently been going to church with my parents. Really on the fence about Christianity. Lee Strobel was a guest speaker there recently. He had 5 things of "proof" for Jesus, except it was just him yapping about stories and "miracles".

The main 2 that blew my mind in utter obvious bullshit.

1. A pastor prayed over his wife with an eye disease, (macular degeneration) and cured her blindness that shes had for 10 years......even if this was true, at the very least. What about starving, cancer ridden children. I mean really. nothing else needs to be said about this.
2. He used Near death experiences as an example of being able to see Jesus. Yet, the church obviously isn't studied up on this matter. There is no consistent data backing up that all NDE have Jesus in them, and even if they do. Their description of him is not consistent either.

In the middle east they think they see "allah" aswell in their NDEs.

Like this man could have basically yapped about spiderman being real because there's a movie on him or a little boy dreamed about spiderman.

We have cellphones and cameras galore now. Where are his miracles on camera now? If he is real I don't mean to mock him. But now's the time to be performing some shit!!!!

An all knowing God knows exactly what every person on this earth needs to see to have no doubt in his existence, this shit sounds no more than Santa Claus for adults to get them to behave.

I've experienced a lot of loss and death in my life and to just throw a bullshit "Jesus" answer infuriates me.

This is one of many examples that turn me away. in short the others are rich pastors. "Kenneth Copeland" prosperity gospel, Erika Kirk using her husbands death for a grieving campaign, or just knowing people that identify as Christian but are the most racist and judgemental bastards I know.

Lee did state that "something" has to be after we die. and sure NDE can be used to argue that. But nothing is cut and dry or obvious with the data to point the Christian God, or Jesus.

Anyone share the same thoughts or feelings?

EDIT: Last thought, Infinte punishement, for a Finite crime. Life is so short. to be punished for eternity, for that sounds like emotional manipulation. Sounds like a way to get people in the church so they don't experience eternal torcher, That also doesnt sound like "unconditional love" to me either.

I don't know if this is the right tag to use for this but here I go. This is my third or possibly fourth post on this subreddit and I want to say for the ones who commented on my post with advice and support and love. This community is helping me a lot, and I'm happy to be a part of it.

My past posts were about my coming to atheism and the fear that my parents would find out that I don't believe in god and Christianity. Now today (as I'm typing this out) has escalated more. My grandmother specifically. Is who I live with and very very religious me and I have a rocky relationship. She notices that I don't sing in or do the creed thing during church the music doesn't feel right and when I told her that, she looked at me like I spoke blasphemy (which I probably did.) Then she doesn't understand why I listen to other music. This is where the fear-mongering comes in, she was talking about the music I listened to (pop, southern Gothic, heavy metal, indie, etc) and how ' I'm going to burn in hell cause of it cause I could get in a crash'.

Not only that my last birth mother passed away about four years ago and since then my grandmother has been using her death as a warning from god. My mother was a substance addict and died from substance addiction.

Somehow my grandmother sees me (even though I never touched drugs and don't have a plan to touch drugs) that I don't sing in church or get involved or find interest in the church, I'm going down the same path as my mother did.

The way my grandmother things disturb me and somehow doesn't surprise me anymore. Possibly soon she is going to set an appointment to talk to our preacher in my past posts many commentaries told me to lie my way out, which I'm going to do.

Plus my grandmother asked me if I was happy with my life I told her yes (ever since I left Christianity it felt like golden chains fell loose from me. When I almost...let it all go two years ago. Now I'm in good mental health and strive to keep going, I'm not giving up now)

I just wanted to say. I'm done with the null thinking of my parents, the degradation of myself, thinking 'without god im cursed to hell', or if I don't follow God's path I'm doomed for failure. I say no more.

Thank you for reading my post. Any advice on this post or private message is appreciated.

Hey there r/exchristian :)
Someone over here told me I should do an AMA - so here I am!
I was a Christian for 20+ years, was homeschooled k-12, went to Bethel School of Supernatural Ministry, and my family still has a large ministry they all run together. After I stopped believing, I was happy to just move on and live my life away from religion but then January 6th happened and I realized I couldn’t be quiet. I’ve been publicly speaking about my experience with evangelical extremism ever since then in hopes to expose the harm it causes while also offering support to those looking to escape and start thinking for themselves.
I’m really excited to be putting out my first book which I’m describing as sort of a handbook that I wish I had when I first started questioning. The goal of my writing isn’t to tell others *what* to think but rather empower them to think for themselves and feel confident addressing a lot of evangelical Christian rhetoric. I also hope the book is something exchristians may feel comfortable sharing with a family member that wants to understand their position better.
Anyways! The book is out May 26 and is available for preorder now…happy to answer questions about it but also any questions in general ☺️

I need tips to traumatize a group of people back…

In my city, there’s a small group of Christian whackos who go to any and all public events with their megaphones and scream fire and brimstone, call people names, call women whores, etc….you get the idea. These are primarily family events where there are many with small kids.

I already have an ultra loud, amplified megaphone. I’ve got some loud portable speakers. What can I do, legally, to really get under their skin in a way that:

1 - makes them look even more ridiculous than they already make themselves look?

2 - keep it family friendly?

I’m a big dude and, as such, not afraid of physical intimidation. I live in a stand your ground state, so I’m in my right to defend myself from any physical assault.

One thought I had was to get a donation jar with price list on it that outlines how much and to which nonprofit organization I’ll donate to for each time they threaten someone with eternal damnation, say a prayer in public, etc.

Any input is welcome and appreciated!

First, they come with intent that they wanna prove you wrong, but when they have no evidences to back their claims, they leave! :D and use argument like: "You just wanna win"... SO FUGGIN WHAT IF YOU WIN WITH GOOD ARGUMENTS AND GOOD LINKS! Is it wrong to win an argument if you have links to back your arguments? And when that fundamentalist isn't even ready to include links or even good explanations to back their claims... that's not very fresh!

I’ve been deconstructing for a while now, but one thing that’s really been bothering me lately is how consistently the New Testament treats women as spiritually weaker and in need of male control.
Peter calls women the “weaker vessel” and tells husbands to live with them in an understanding way because they’re weaker. Paul says man is the image and glory of God, while woman is the glory of man. Multiple passages hammer the idea that women should submit because they’re the weaker party.
The worst part is when Christians try to spiritualize it. I’ve heard elders say God intentionally made women emotionally and spiritually weaker so the husband/wife relationship would better represent Christ and the church.
That’s actually vile when you think about it. They’re claiming the Creator deliberately handicapped half the human race emotionally and spiritually just to make His metaphor work better.
This isn’t just outdated sexism. It’s a fundamentally degrading view of women that treats them as morally and spiritually defective by design.
Once you see it, it’s hard to unsee. The entire framework feels like ancient patriarchal men writing their cultural assumptions into “God’s word.”
Anyone else get stuck on this during deconstruction?

I’m 48m, I left the faith 10 years ago. I was indoctrinated into the Non Denominational Christian faith since three years old when my late mother watched CBN and Pat Robertson and got saved. My father wasn’t around and me being the oldest boy, I felt called to abide by my mother’s wishes and fully commit to this bullshit called Christianity

I am African-American and my mother pulled us about out of our black neighborhood public school In Louisiana and sacrificed to send us to majority white Christian schools. The more I’ve deconstructed the more resentful I’ve gotten. Now watching this MAGA movement placing white nationalism and their abhorrent politics in one coffin together makes me so pissed off about the years I wasted being in this Jesus movement or whatever the fuck it was. Years I’ll never get back. The cognitive dissonance I am going through right now is so overwhelming I just want to curse every white evangelical MAGA Christian out.

So much of my humanity I suppressed in service to this evangelical bullshit. Years I’ll never get back.

The fact that my mother thought “white Jesus” was somehow the savior is beyond me. Honestly I’m done with all of it - no matter what race spews its pathetic garbage. Until proven otherwise Christianity is a fraud. My ancestors learned it from their white slave owners.

I still have so much deconstruction to do and probably will never fully separate - my brain is just fucked up. Watching this MAGA lawlessness just makes it worse.