r/evilautism

Besides having your hands in your pockets all the time, how does one keep these arms from writhing about like they have a mind of their own when you’re not paying attention

When autistic kids reach 2 or 3 years old, get quiet and withdrawn, overwhelmed, burnt out, and cope with extra stimming and/or mutism, it is pathologised to fuck and everyone loses their minds as if the kid was suddenly brain damaged.

Meanwhile, NT kids are over here SCREAMING, KICKING, BITING, throwing shit, smashing shit.... all because someone, idk, cut their apple the wrong way and everyone just shrugs and says, "Lol! Terrible Twos amirite!?"

Just my thoughts after observing some kids.

Like, disability is a thing, but also, so are double standards.

My son’s pediatrician wants to have him assessed for autism. Ok fair. But then she starts asking questions. You the doctor, so also fair. Until she gets to empathy. This woman who went to undergrad, passed medical school, and managed to do a pediatric residency then declares that autistic people can’t have empathy and have I seen him be empathetic. No possibility this NT proclamation is insulting or that a highly educated woman should be able to figure that out. No possible way that the mom of a suspected autistic kid is autistic.

She even gives all the vaccines that make us more logical and able to empathize with people who aren’t exactly like us. Maybe the ones she got didn’t have enough preservatives.

Growing up, even my very sheltering mother acknowledged that I should know how to throw a punch in case I needed to defend myself. But insulting people was seen as too much.

Well, fuck that. Some people are awful and can’t be reached through intellectual debate and if you can’t avoid them then making them feel bad about themselves every time they say something vile is the only way to modify their behavior and making them look foolish is the best way to stop their ideas from spreading.

There are self-help books about everything, surely some savant has written a guide to winning verbal confrontations that is geared towards the humble autistic, and not the power-hungry businessman?

From my POV, I've already seen two posts about the r-slur today, and to be me that's two posts too many.

I don't want this sub to just be post after post of people compaining about the r-slur, and I'm scared that this sub will just become "why you should use the r-slur" to "why it's ok to use the r-slur if you use it 'the right way'".

And I know that this post conribiutes to it, but it's been a topic in the past, and frankly I want it in some mega thread, rather then there a bunch post by different people.

I am so tired of seeing people try to "reclaim" a word that was never their word to reclaim. My brother and i are older than a lot of yall. He is diagnosed with mentally ret*rdation along with other things.

We never left the house as kids and teenagers without people calling him r word freak that should be locked away or killed, many threatened to do it themselves. They hated having to look at a disgusting r word. They hated their tax dollars supporting him when he should just be left to die. It was endless. I couldn't be friends with most kids because their parents were afraid of the r word and it being contagious. I was injured more than once trying to protect him from monsters determined to scream that word in his face.

You as an autistic person that was never diagnosed as MR have no right to use the word or to "reclaim" the word. You may have been called the r word, but it was never your diagnosis. The only people that could possibly reclaim the word are folks like my brother. You just want to be an offensive, edgelord. If you disagree please comment so i can block you and never read your mindless, meaningless drivel again.

Do you have a physical habit that is bad for you (such as scratching, hair pulling, etc.) but is sooooooo hard to stop??

*scratches head in nervous anticipation*

A group of teenagers tried to bother me yesterday. Yesterday night, I was outside of Taco Bell. I was in the passenger seat of the family car, studying on my iPad while the rest of my family went inside to order food.

Three teens walked by and they barked at me loudly . I was slightly startled because I was reading my textbook .
They kept laughing for at least 15 seconds like they did something funny. I stared at them with a blank expression as they kept laughing until they walked out of my sight. I don’t know why I was the target for their harassment, maybe they just saw the autism on my face and then decided to mess with me.

While they pulled out of the parking lot, I took photos of their car out of spite. They said “delete those pics” but I rolled up the window and just kept taking more.

Similar things happen to other neurodivergent people constantly. Anyways, I’m just tired of them always bothering us.

This is not even a complaint about capitalism. I know people in my generation that still live with their parents because the economy sucks ass rn and aren't able to afford an apartment. I am not one of those people, the economy could be great and I would still be in my situation because of my disability. I went to college with the misguided expectation I'd be able to live on my own one day but that obviously didn't happen. It's not even like I feel miserable, I have a mostly good life, but it is so disheartening to see my brother, friends, and all (and I mean all) of my cousins advancing further in their careers/lives. Meanwhile I still don't know what it's like to have a childhood room. A lot of the time I feel like a (wo)manchild/lolcow despite being active in my community and having two part-time jobs because I still live with my family and probably always will :(

Now, anybody can be sexist, including neurodivergents. However, sexism is upheld mostly by neurotypicals. Have you ever noticed how when OnlyFans became popular men were hating on the creators? When it was actresses on adult websites they never hated as much. The reason why is because OnlyFans models could set their own rates and made men pay to view their content. They don’t like it because they feel entitled to women’s bodies and want to see them for free. With adult websites they were able to view for free but as soon as women started charging for it they got outraged. The OnlyFans models got so much more hate was because they had more agency over their content!