u/CupcakePelle2906

From my POV, I've already seen two posts about the r-slur today, and to be me that's two posts too many.

I don't want this sub to just be post after post of people compaining about the r-slur, and I'm scared that this sub will just become "why you should use the r-slur" to "why it's ok to use the r-slur if you use it 'the right way'".

And I know that this post conribiutes to it, but it's been a topic in the past, and frankly I want it in some mega thread, rather then there a bunch post by different people.

Title.

Sorry if this has already been asked.

Anyway, I've been reading about the experance of trans fems, who according to them were conifdent they they where attracted to women (and maybe some fem enbies), but after starting HRT they suddenly started feeling attracted to men.

I haven't seen this experiance in trans mascs (not saying this doesn't happen to trans mascs, but anytime I read about this experice, all come from trans fems), but I want to know whether if it's the HRT or something else that doing this.

So, on one of the other TADC subreddits I saw a comment saying that the trans fem Jax theory/headcanon is "transphobic". This is their responce:

Keep in mind I am ONLY referring to the Jax theory here and not a general overview of the trans experience.

Because taking the traits of toxic masculinity+abusive and antisocial behavior and wrapping ALL of that in the “solution” of “oh this character is actually trans!” is both misogynistic and transphobic. It implies that pre-MTF trans people are incapable of finding peace before they transition and that their toxic relationships can be absolved post-transition. It also takes away the autonomy of being a cis person who needs to work their own toxic masculinity for self-improvement.

Long story short, I don’t like that it makes transitioning a “cure” for Jax’s problematic behaviors. Every Daisy comic is about him softening up after transitioning and I just find that to be an absolute misreading of the character and his flaws.

(end of original comment)

Now after seeing this post (as the title says) I feel stumped!

I don't know how to responed to it! And I would like to see a counter agrument to this, becaue I'm too stupid to come up with one, even though I disargee with the clam (I'm terrible at putting my own thoughts in text).