r/bodylanguage

i say this because some women get insecure that the guy gets attention is that true ?

Did anyone experience being totally reserved around someone you like and avoiding them to hide the nervousness? I feel like I'm missing my chances and then I feel so down when I see them having smooth conversations with others while it could have been me too.

I am 20F and my friends say I am cute, pretty and hot but I don't get the openly expressive body language other attractive people say they do. What I mean is, really friendly people, people hovering or trying to help me out, children complimenting, etc. I don't really get any of that to be honest. Could it be that I am not that attractive or is it me having a bad case of RBF-itis LOLLL. I have also never been asked out if that is relevant. There have been a few times (I can count with one hand) where I had a sneaking suspicion that a guy liked me (sitting near me in the library all the time "by mistake", being caught staring, etc) but I always assume they do that with everyone lmao

Asking for a friend, because 60% of the time

It works every time. But not for him .. is the a hotness requirement to pull it off like.. must be a 7 and above.. but if you’re tall you can start at 4 🤨

How do I stop blushing when I see someone I like? My face goes red and it’s noticeable to everyone and probably the person I have a crush on.

Thank you

A few of my friends are going to play basketball this week and my crush is going to be there. (additional information: he’s mutual friends with the guys in my group and i only see him in group settings) I wanted to subtly flirt with him without making it obvious. I decided that when he’s playing basketball and sitting on the side, i’ll make eye contact with him and - when he catches me looking, i’ll give him a slight smile and look away. Please give me any tips and lmk if i’m being too subtle.

i have the biggest crush on this guy at work and i find myself laughing at things that aren’t even funny to the point that he has called me out for laughing and when i laughed at something another coworker said and they were like why are u laughing the guy i like was like “don’t take it personal she does it all the time” or something like that. ugh

​

hi!! a few weeks ago i was hanging out with some friends and this girl kept touching my hands, playing with me jacket, touching my back...

i was like okay 🧐

i've known her for a while although just as a friend of friends. i don't think i'm her type at least i wasn't when we were teenagers. i'm a nerd and she's your classic popular and into sports girl. i'm not looking for anything serious right now as i've just got out of a very long relationship, but i'll admit having a bit of fun sounds nice.

yesterday we were hanging out again, she was not as touchy as the previous week but there wasn't alcohol involved this time. she still showed me a few times how cold her hands were and we walked home together.

i've always liked flirting and i think i'm good at it at least with my niche of people lol, but i've been on a relationship for so long that i'm not sure if i'm just creating fake signals.

To start I wanna say I mostly avoid women altogether when I go out because I’m scared of being seen as a creep. I think I’m over reading this girl a bit. Bit of a long story. I see this girl at my gym. We’ve never talked but I notice shes the only one that is consistent in coming into the gym (almost every single day) like I am. And I think shes noticed I’m as consistent as her because this has been going on for months. One day I was doing bicep curls facing the mirror in the free weight area. She came right next to me to work out when there was space elsewhere. So she stood to my left side and we are both facing the mirror. I turn to my left to look behind her to see if there’s any benches free and she turns to her right for some unknown reason and now we are face to face body facing each other. I’m avoiding eye contact because I don’t want to be a creep. The next encounters are similar. When I enter the gym her eyes are on me. When I wait for the machines her eyes are on me. And the last thing that happened got me going crazy. Another day I see her working out in the dumbbell section. By the time I go over to the area she’s gone. I go near the spot (no directly but couple of feet away) where she was working out at before she left. She went away for a bit and then came back 5’mins later and grabbed a yoga mat and She put her yoga mat directly right next to me when there’s other spots and starts working out next to me again. I’m doing dumbell curls again and shes on the floor laying down on her stomach on the mat and she’s looking up at me and staring at me. She’s always holding her eyes on me and I catch her doing it and then I look away quickly most of the time because I don’t want to be a creep. I walk behind her and she’s looking over her shoulder at me behind. I walk into the gym and I see her eyes glued on me. What is going on? Is she creeped out?

Why would did he try to push me away when I tried seeing him again then he kept coming to see me a lot of multiple times when I kinda wanted to avoid him again after him yelling at me?(he knows that I don’t like people yelling at me)

Fast forward to this current week we just been making eye contact or glancing or him turning away quick but not really interacting. Till later today I kinda apologized for last week, I thought I did something wrong so i apologized to him or I was just worried something happened between us, he was telling me he hates how I over think, not everything is about me, to focus on myself even tho before I spoke to him it felt like he was acting like the normal like we usually do. Could be been doing the push pull on me after what happened last week? And if so why would he be doing that??

I (28M) used to work with a coworker (same age range, F) in another city. We weren’t close, but we got along fine. When she transferred to my office, I tried to be welcoming—showed her around and made sure she felt comfortable. I was usually the one initiating conversation, and she was responsive but not overly engaged. At one point she mentioned that I “talk a lot” and sometimes prefers quieter interactions so she can focus.

Recently her behavior has shifted. She no longer greets me, avoids eye contact, and keeps her distance even when we cross paths. The only thing I can think of is that I sent her a message via text suggesting she use a neck rest at work since she had mentioned discomfort multiple times to me when sitting beside me. I meant it in a helpful way, but I’m wondering if that might have come across as too personal or inappropriate in some way since shes pregnant and has a husband (I never seen her that way to be honest).

What really bothered me was what happened today. Today, a coworker asked me a question and asked if I could come to her desk, when I came over, I saw the the pregnant coworker sitting beside her (mind you, she usually avoids sitting near the new hires) and I didnt say or do anything to her but she was hiding her face with her hand. I only noticed because I was standing.

My question is how would you interpret this behavior? Like I havent spoken to hear for over a week (we went from talking all the time in the office to absolute radio silence)

Hello, I’m Amrita, a 52-year-old working professional, happily married and a proud mother of two.

Lately, life has been revolving around a very structured routine, and I’m simply here to step out of that monotony and engage in some meaningful conversations. I value genuine connections, respectful communication, and a positive vibe above everything else.

If you’re someone who enjoys thoughtful chats and good company, feel free to connect. Let’s start with a conversation and see where it naturally leads.

Just to be clear, I’m here for authentic interaction — not for any transactional or paid engagement. Mutual respect and understanding are key for me.

So I’ve talked to a few male friends about this but could maybe used an unbiased third opinion as I fear I might be down bad.

So for context there’s this guy I really like at a youth group we’re apart of but I’m not sure if he’s just shy/ not interested or if he likes me.

Some things I’ve noticed -

- we sometimes make eye contact ( I get nervous and I look away ) but that has happened multiple times.

- He always try’s to talk to me in group settings / stands next to me ( lol we’ve had a lot of 1v1 conversations but when it’s time to leave or shift gears he avoids me like the plague)

- There also told asked him if he would go to x event and he says “maybe” but then he actually comes.

- I also notice he has a bit of a loud behavior around his friends but when we’re both talking he’s definitely more composed.

We don’t really talk outside the youth group ( I don’t have his number TT) so my plan is just to get to know him for now anyways as we don’t know each other for very long either (around 3/4 months)….

Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

I’m interested in how we use body language to attract and seduce. Is anybody else in this community interested in talking about body language to increase skill with seduction?

So this is a weird one but please stick with me!

I’m F20, the guy I’m talking about he is m21!

We have had a very weird relationship for the last 11 months, we started seeing each other as fwb. When we first started seeing each other we would just smoke weed, talk and have sex.

He told me early on that he was done extremely dirty in his previous relationship hence why he doesn’t want anything serious (trust issues).

So I didn’t rlly open up to him abt much bcs he’s a f buddy rlly, and no point in telling him my whole life story if he isn’t gonna be around for long.

I ended up admitting that I caught feelings for him a few months after we met and wanted smthn serious but he claims the he still hasn’t healed from what his ex has done so he can’t get into smthn serious. So I told him that I can’t keep talking to him bcs I realised I wanted something serious!

This has happened I wanna say like at least 3 times, during those times we say hurtful things to each other but nothing extremely nasty and rude. Everytime one of us ends up leaving we just go back to each other! I’ve realised that I don’t want a relationship with anyone else unless it’s him

Now recently though I’ve seen a difference in his actions, he will come around and see me 9/10 times we end up smoking and spend hours on end talking abt the most random Shi. He also will help me with anything and offer without me asking, for example; yesterday night he wanted to hangout so he asked me what I was doing and I said cleaning and that if he’s bored he mind as well help me clean. His response; I can, what do you need help with”. He knows I love surfing and today he offered to take me surfing in the next few days, I didn’t ask him for that or mention surfing in the conversation. He takes me anywhere anytime too, like I will text him if I can get a lift to a certain place and he just tells me when he’s coming.

I’ve never been in a relationship before so Idk what are the early signs ig.

This is gonna sound kind of weird, but this happens all the time with men.

Whenever I approach or ask a guy something (coworker, classmate, or sometimes in public) they kind of just go silent for a few seconds, while looking at me, and then responding. even if it's just a hey.

i can't find anything abt this on reddit but it happens so often to me surely someone else must experience this? pls lmk

My mind is constantly going. It ceases to chill, and loves to relive embarrassing, awkward, or even cherished memories that will never happen again. When this happens, I start getting anxious and fidgety. I bite my lips, my eyebrows raise, my forehead wrinkles, I put my hands inside my pockets, I’m restless– unable to stand still.

I have tried breathing exercises with some success, but I’m curious how some of you calmer individuals deal with the brain doing bad brain things such as this.

Disclaimer: I’m not totally clueless, but I love to stir the pot on here from time to time. I’ll start: When you go through some real shit, the small day-to-day becomes trivial.

Hi guys.

I've seen a lot of body language posts online about what it means to have your hands in your pockets. But this is different. This is like, a guy with his hands in his pockets, but fidgeting, like, moving his hands back and forth quickly. While smiling. I've never seen anyone do this gesture before - it feels slightly flirty (drawing attention to that area?), or like a weird energy, almost challenging, excited, nervous (?), and like... it happens in a moment of pause in the conversation.

Well, it's only happened twice - once after we got too close while talking and he stepped back, and we looked at each other and he did this, and once after an invitation to an event, where he did this gesture while also just smiling enormously (although he later did not attend the event, which was public, though I don't know why). I find myself thinking about this gesture a lot, because I cannot figure out what it means. We are both men. I am gay, but I don't know if he is or not, at least not for sure. Hah. Help.