r/Crush

Genuine interest or just friendly?

I’ve developed a crush on a guy in my social group and I’m not sure if I’m reading things right.

We mostly see each other in groups, but we consistently gravitate toward each other and end up talking one-on-one.

Things he does:

Seeks me out and comes back to me throughout the night

Keeps conversations going even when others try to pull him away

Sits close to me, with physical contact (knees touching, bodies beside each other)

Put his arms around me when I was cold

Did playful things like putting his hat on me

Buys me drinks every time we go out and has brought me food

Remembers small things I’ve said and follows up on them

Complimented me (called me beautiful/photogenic)

Asks me to text him when I get home every time

Suggested an outing and said it would be just the two of us

In person it can feel a bit charged,but over text he’s quite minimal and often just reacts rather than continuing conversation.

What’s confusing me is friends’ input:

One said he’s “just a nice guy”

Another said the outing was an open invite (which contradicts what he told me)

Others have said they noticed clear chemistry / “a fire” between us

I also get the sense a couple of the people giving opinions might have their own interest in me, so I’m unsure how objective they are.

From the outside, does this sound like genuine interest or just friendliness?

I’ve literally never spoken a single word to this girl. We had a class together about a year and a half ago, and back then she showed what felt like very obvious signs of a crush—constant eye contact, smiling, shyly approaching then backing off, even kind of following me around. At the time I wasn’t interested. Then we didn’t see each other for a full year.

About 4 months ago I saw her again in the hallway—she kept looking at me, fixed her hair twice, and smiled during a 3-second eye lock as I walked past, which made me think she might still be into me. Around that time I started developing a small crush on her too.

A month later I saw her at the bus stop talking to a guy for about 20 minutes (figured they just had a class together). I walked past twice and both times she made brief eye contact with me.

To test the waters, I sent her a follow request on Instagram (her account is private). She didn’t accept or reject it for 2 full weeks, so I canceled it.

After that, everything changed. Now she instantly stops smiling when she sees me (even if she’s laughing with friends), avoids eye contact, and gives prolonged, almost intimidating stares or strong side-eyes. One time she completely ignored me while walking with that same guy.

Another time, when my friend pointed her out from far away, she immediately moved behind a tree to block view. In the hallway she’ll stare at me with a surprised or almost rude expression, hold eye contact, then act like I don’t exist when I get closer.

(Also checked—she and that guy don’t even follow each other on IG.) Did the follow request mess things up somehow? And what should I even do now, especially since this semester is mostly online?

note: sorry if this was too long, I'm overthinking currently and I don't do this reddit thing so often

So I’ve talked to a few male friends about this but could maybe used an unbiased third opinion as I fear I might be down bad.

So for context there’s this guy I really like at a youth group we’re apart of but I’m not sure if he’s just shy/ not interested or if he likes me.

Some things I’ve noticed -

- we sometimes make eye contact ( I get nervous and I look away ) but that has happened multiple times.

- He always try’s to talk to me in group settings / stands next to me ( lol we’ve had a lot of 1v1 conversations but when it’s time to leave or shift gears he avoids me like the plague)

- There also told asked him if he would go to x event and he says “maybe” but then he actually comes.

- I also notice he has a bit of a loud behavior around his friends but when we’re both talking he’s definitely more composed.

We don’t really talk outside the youth group ( I don’t have his number TT) so my plan is just to get to know him for now anyways as we don’t know each other for very long either (around 3/4 months)….

Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

I'm in speech and debate there is this girl I met in October I thought she was really cute. during a tournament out of town she came up to me and asked for my name then she said that I'd be going against her. we had a short conversation but it was nice I thought she was funny. after we talked I rested until my round. before my round i was waiting outside she sat by me and we talked a little bit then our round started. it went rough and we almost got in a screaming match and she called me a racist. after it I insulted her on her lack of evidence and my coach over heard it. a few minutes after I felt bad and I apologized to her amd she ignored me. on day 2 I was sitting alone and she apologized to me and we talked a little I felt great knowing that she apologized then it ended and I didn't see her for weeks. weeks later at a different tournament I was waiting outside the room where my round would be and there was a round going on in there. when I showed up there were these very loud kids and they got yelled at by a judge twice. after the kids left I sat down and was scrolling on my phone, then the door where the judge yelled at the kids opened and I saw her the girl I liked. she looked at me and said "I hope you know you talking out here was very disrespectful" then i stood up and tried to explain myself but then she said "idc you're a jerk" then she stormed off. I felt very upset I'm not an emotional person but I almost cried, on day 2 I was sitting in the hall with my friend and she walked by I pretended I didn't see her and didn't look up. after she left my friend turned to me and said "she was staring at you". later that day I was by myself listening to music and I saw her. she looked at me walked towards my direction then she hesitated and walked away I think she wanted to talk to me but got scared. a week later we are at a new tournament and I was talking to my friend then she came up to me and made a funny comment I stood up and we talked she apologized for yelling at me and said she was very stressed and just yelled at the first person she saw but she heard my explanation and apologized after we talked she had to go to round and I felt great. later I was talking to her partner and he said that they weren't doing so well then I asked as a joke in a joking tone "did your partner sell?" then she looked at me got mad and told me to fuck off. I apologized but she was mad so I left. a week later it's the final tournament and I was messing around with my friends and I made a stupid joke the girl I like over heard it and got mad but she didn't say anything until later where she told me to leave because of what I said I left and ger friend who is also my friend said that she wasn't actually mad she was just trolling which made scene because she's said similar stuff before. later I'm with a bunch of my friends and we were talking to the friend who is friends with her and she was nearby and she told me to leave but my friends can stay so I swallowed my pride and started to leave then one if my friends repeated the joke and she got very upset they started arguing and I dragged my friends away after about 20 minutes I went back to apologize 1 last time amd she put her hand in my face so I left.

I haven't seen her scene and I won't see her for a few months I still think about her I'm not in love with her looks I like her as a person and I feel like if we talk about it then we can become friends but I'm not sure I need advice on what to do

I really like this guy but the problem is he is in college and I'm not. I know that might seem weird but we have known each other for many years and we did/are a part of all the same clubs. We both are in band, power lifting, nhs, etc. and have connected through those activities and we are good friends. I just really love being around him and we talk sooo much together, after my winter concert we talked for over an hour. Last winter, he drove 5 hours to help my classmate and I with our area audition music, and he just seems like he cares about me because not everyone would come all that way just to help me yk?

Later, I visted his college because I'm actually thinking about going there (it's not because he goes there I swear) and his brother gave me a tour of the school. When I saw my crush that morning his face kinda seemed to light up and he seemed happy to see me, he even joked around with me and talked a little bit to my parents. After the tour before we left he asked us how it went and things like that. We also went to his concert that night and I got to talk to him more.

He is just a good person and doesn't judge me for anything, but I think that is just how he is or if he actually likes me in some way. We always talk at band events and I'm not sure if he really likes me or if he is just being nice to me.

I feel like I'm always crushing on someone but he is a good guy but I'm a little worried because he is 3 years older than me and that gap seems a little large for me right now. I've been thinking about it and I might just focus on myself and just cherish the friendship and not wish for anything more unless it happens

Okay so this is kinda long but pleaseee bare with me. So basically theres this guy at my school and we kinda have this thing going in but im so confused. Its all so weird but just hear me out. It all started like this: me and this guy would both come to school at the same time ( we both come by car with our parents dropping us off) and honestly it was literally nothing at first but then it kinda turned into this thing. He started like waiting in the car and specifically getting out when i came. And so now it was like i guess we both know that like “hey youre the guy/girl that i always come to school at the same time as” type thing. And now that we like both “know” i guess it just continued like this and gradually got more acknowledged (?) between us. So then this turned into like regularr eye contact at the halls and etc and i was kinda like damnnn. Mind you he kinda cute too. And this just went on like this and one time I specifically remember like i was at our ict building for my lesson and he was also there for his mechanics lesson and we saw each other in the hallway and he kinda like made a confused expression with his brows in a sort of “i didnt know you came here” type of way bc this was the first time we saw each other in that building and very less people go there so you know that kinda made my delulu ahh be like gosshhh. Whatever, like i said this went on and then he made a friend ( mind you he had no friends as he was new to the school) and it was this random girl. So now it became a thing between the three of us ( like just “KNOWING” each other) and our eye contact thing is still going on with him, and not only that but i always catch him staring at me likeee, even when he’s with his girl friend which is like damnn. Whatever am i delulu or is there something between us. And i swear i might be delusional bc i have never in my life talked to him like we both just “know” but dont have the guts to talk to each other like just as friends/getting to know each other. And i didnt even know his name for quite a long while lmao i learnt it later on by somebody else

Hi reddit.

I (17M, almsot 18) have a hard crush on my coworker (18F) at my part time job.

We both work in private robotics and programming school - me as a teacher(assistant) and she as a manager. But we are on the same level of hierarchy, so we are cool. She joined our team about month and a half ago, and oh boy was that interesting time for me.

At first, I haven't realised what I was feeling, I was just feeling good. Really good around her. For the record, I was in bad depression from the stressful first semester at college. Like the one when you just want to dissappear from the world. But as we met more and more on the lesson breaks, I started feeling... light. Happy even. To be honest, I forgot I had depression. I was giggling around her, smiling, but at the same time feeling nervous. Though the last is probably me just being shy person and all. And finally, after two weeks, lying in bed and thinking about her, I realised I got my first crush in my life.

She is beautiful, atleast in my eyes but that totaly enough, kind, funny and sweet. Of course butterflies started flying inside and chest was filling with warmth each time I thought about her. It is pretty intense, cause I'm thinking about her a lot. Like, A LOT. So much I'd lay until 4am sometimes, starring at the ceiling, replaying each interaction with her, like how she looked at me or giggled from my joke, and smiling to myself. But the best part is... she doesn't have a boyfriend yet).

I got her Telegram few days ago from my coworker friend (who is a long friend of hers and invited her to us). So, after convincing myself to text her, I asked her out yesturday. I didn't confess, I suggested to simply meet on the weekend somewhere and chat or spend time. She replied "I'd love to, but you know I'm busy working without weekends.". And it's truth, she has two part time jobs and education of course. As person in the same situation, I totaly get it. And she did add she'll write when she'll have time. Though I can't decide whether it was her way to politely decline or she just actually busy, but hope is still there!

My dilema is next: am I doing the right thing? I mean, I think I do, but that's not always the truth of course. I just worry that my "love" comes from this weird coincidence of me being in depression before she showed up or maybe just teenage hormone's stuff or probably both. I'm ready for rejection (I think?). But if she will agree, I just don't want to hurt her because of my rushed actions. I'm just that kind of person that cares about everyone, and especially her. I want her to be happy, but I also want her to be happy beside me... It's kinda selfish, but guess that just how it is.

So, to sum up, if she'll agree to a "date", should I try to make friends with her first and get to know her or be direct about my feelings? I just don't want to scare her off, that's all.

Also, sorry if I'm jumping all over the place, tried to structurize as much as I could. And I suspect even though I wrote everything as objectively as I could, some things might have gone through that pink filter of mine)

Would really appreciate to hear your advices and opinions!

so,I met this girl on roblox,1 year younger than me,and we were best friends until chat got banned in my country so I don't talk with her anymore,I was depressed crushing on her so hard damnit,but today I saw my mom's friends daughter,and my mind went just like the picture of this subreddit. she was just amazing. cute voice, brunette,white,brownish amber eyes,I think I won't get over it lol😭

I’m trying to get an outside perspective on a situation with a girl I know.

We have mutual friends but we’re not really in the same core friend group. Her roommate is actually one of my close friends. Over the past couple months we started texting more. She would send me Instagram reels that reminded her of me, food pics, and sometimes photos from trips she was on. She initiated a decent amount of the conversations too.

We’ve mostly only seen each other in group settings before, but we’ve talked a lot there and even did a couple TikTok dances together. She’s also remembered small details about me before which made me feel like she was paying attention.

Because of that, I asked her if she wanted to go for a walk one day. She said she was down, but then also asked something like “just to clarify this is as friends right?” I said yes.

When we actually met up she said she couldn’t really walk much because she wasn’t feeling great that day, so we just sat and talked instead. We ended up talking for about 2 hours and 45 minutes about all kinds of things (travel, work, school, food, random life stuff). I eventually ended the hangout because I had to go.

For context, this was the first time we’ve hung out one-on-one. Before that it was always in group settings.

One small thing I noticed is she showed up looking pretty put together (makeup, nice clothes), but I’m not sure if that’s just how she normally dresses.

So my question is: did I likely misread the earlier signals and she just sees me as a friend, or does this situation still seem ambiguous?

I love a girl, but I don’t know whether she feels the same way about me. We often share a lot of eye contact. In the evening, when I’m in the garden, her terrace is right in front of me. We look at each other, but we never say anything because I don’t know how to react in that situation.

She often comes to the terrace at the exact same time as me. Yesterday, when she was returning home with her family, I went outside just to see her. She noticed me, and after a while, she came to the terrace again.