r/TransHelpingTrans

(MTF) I'm in a really dark place and I have no one...I really need someone to tell me I'm pretty and that it's going to be okay :(

at the current moment dysphoria has been at a debilitating high and im more then messy my hair is all fucked up and knotted and currently taking a shower is off the table because of that dysphoria and I'm close to a sh relapse and just a general panic attack i hate that i cant shower but its currently not a option I've tried to explain that wearing clothes in a shower or showing with the lights off is not going to fix anything

SORRY I MADE A TYPO IN THE TITLE IM MTF

I know probably nobody's gonna see this, but in case you do and in case you want to help, I have an issue, body dysphoria, huge body dysphoria, haven't transitioned yet, i have body hair and I hate it, I want to shave my arms and legs soooo bad, I hate it I hate it I hate it, but my parents won't let me, they're really traditional and think boys are boys and girls are girls and stuff, I just wanna have smooth legs but they are very strict about it, and very stubborn in their ways too, very religious, etcetera, and I don't know what to do because last time I shaved my arms and legs they yelled at me and took my internet away for two whole weeks and warned me "next time the punishment will be worse" I don't know what to do please help I hate my hairy legs and I hate my parents :(

Hi all:) I am 17 (18 in five months, that's important I promise), trans-masc, and have cis parents. I started thinking about going on testosterone 3 years ago but only came out as nonbinary to my parents around 6 months ago. I am in desperate need of hrt. I can't look down at my hips and thighs ever because they are so curvy (I know T doesn't always fix this but sometimes it does) and every time I speak I get slapped in the face with dysphoria. I briefly mentioned hrt in passing to my mom and she immediately shut it down without even having a direct conversation about it. I haven't tried talking to my dad but he tends to be more supportive than she is. I am going on T when I turn 18 either way but I really need his help with insurance and banking and transportation and all that. I want to talk with him soon but I have no clue what to say and how to make sure it comes across as me asking for help, not permission, but in an understanding and not aggressive manner. If any of you have any tips please let me know, I am freaking out.

Hey I’m only 14 so not planning on getting it soon but I just want to know how I would and if there’s anything I can do right now. I live in the uk and to my understanding you can start HRT when you’re 16.

I basically just want to know how you would go about it I’m guessing you can just go to a pharmacy and ask for it so is there special people I need to speak to for it and if so who and how. Pretty sure you’d need parental permission which is fine because luckily my family’s really supportive ✨

I know you can go with either the NHS or private. Is there’s one that’s better what are the pros and cons for them because NHS seems to take longer to my knowledge but is free while private doesn’t take that long but costs quite a bit (which is fine)

So yeah basically if anyone knows what to do or how to do it please do tell✨

It's so shitty lol. Does anybody know anything of help? I rarely wear baggy clothes when I go out, so it's not like I'm drowning in them.

I'd prefer it if I didn't post a picture just for privacy purposes.

I would like to start with the fact I'm a young teen I have felt like I was a girl for as long as I remember and it helped since my older brother was bisexual so in a sense he had not a 1-1 but pretty similar experience to me and I have slowly been coming out to all my friends all with mixed opinions all are supportive but there some taking more time than others to process it but overall that's fine and I'm glad I have friends to talk to about being trans

Now to get the part I need help with I live with my grandma, mom, and sister and my mom has joint custody with my dad he already knows but said he won't tell mom until I do it first but that's the thing I think my mom is homophobic and transphobic same with my grandma and sister they've all made homophobic remarks about my older brother and they also say stuff like if your born a boy your a boy that being trans is a mental illness I really do wanna tell them but I'm afraid I don't want them to hate me but it also feels bad when I hear there transphobic remarks.

Please tell me what I should do

Hello guys,

So I outed myself as trans (ftm) like 4-5 years ago to my family/ friends and at school 3 years ago (I am 18). I talked about changing my name to Luca officially but my parents hated the idea and forbidded it. Therefore, I needed to apply for my voluntary year under my legal name/ deadname because they sure wanna see some ID someday. I got hired. So now they only know me under my deadname and I dont want to out myself there for various reasons. For example I wont be able to take hormones or do any other changes, I do pass on daily basis but as a 14 to 15 year old. And it would just feel weird for me personally and make everything more complicated. Long story short, should I do anything to change my appearance to look like a "real female"? Or do yall have any tipps on how to accept the fact that i will be deadnamed and treated "feminine"? And should I stop wearing my binder?

Hope y'all understood my question and what I was trying to say

without being too specific, my situation is pretty dire as of late, im gonna be kicked out of the house for being trans but the problem is im still in highschool so I somehow need a full time job and attend classes. any advice would be very much appreciated

2mg estradiol oral, supposed to take twice a day, but my doc basically just said morning and night. I'm only on day 2, I've been doing the first one right after breakfast and the second one right before bed. Does it actually matter the exact times? Should I be taking the second does earlier? Like after lunch or a little earlier in the evening?

For context reasons: I am FTM and nearing adulthood(legal age) and come from a somewhat conservative-ish household oh and cant move out once i do!

Basically my dad and mom have been going nuts over everything regarding me and my dressing

They want me to wear feminine things and often force me to wear them. Not complying can result in punishments ranging from yelling, getting sweared at and beaten(sometimes lightly but that doesnt change the fact Im scared shitless of them hitting me)

So whether I like it or not...I have to comply

this is where the problem is, I cant deal with the dysphoria that happens due to this. Like its unbearable.

Ill be bawling my eyes out in a corner and will be ticked off the entire day. Might even lose sleep and just walk in circles(I like to call them holding patterns to feel better about this)

I feel like shit and sometimes feel the overbearing urge to jump off a cliff(wont actually go thru with it...I want to live..just not like this) not to mention it doesnt help that im just really stress in general these days and the dysphoria makes it even worse

I just need some tips on how to deal with it...like just any tip like some mindset thing or something because I dont know how much longer my sanity can take this weird ass pattern of: Be forced to wear feminine stuff -> isolate yourself ->Bawl your eyes out -> get interrupted and ridiculed ->stay up at night -> deal with the situation in a worse way next day -> repeat

So I'm (17FtM) about to move out to UCF in about two months and turn 18 in a month. I want to start on HRT as soon as possible but I just don't know if it's doable. My parents predict I'll need to make about $1,500/month to take care of groceries, gas, going out for fun, and payments to them for phone/car/insurance. This doesn't include money for transition. They believe it's irresponsible of me to try and pursue it in college. I have no job currently, but I have been applying places and I plan to apply to more once I turn 18. I have insurance, but I don't believe it is stable because my parents get it through their job and they've been moving jobs a lot lately. I feel like I would only just barely be able to cover the cost of everything if I worked 30 hours a week, and I don't know if I could handle that. Also, after my first year there I will have to start paying for my own housing. I don't want to keep living like this, I can't pass no matter how hard I try. Do I really have to stay like this for another 3-4 years? I have no one in my life that can help me with this and most places won't give me any information since I'm a minor, I don't even know where I would start to get hormones.

So I know how to tuck however almost every guide I ever seen requires shaving beforehand. I want to tuck but I don't want to have to shave. Whenever I shave every single hair becomes ingrown and hurts so bad the entire week that I have trouble walking. I want to tuck more than once in a while but it takes at least 2 months or so to get rid of all the ingrown hair.

So is there anything I can do either tucking without shaving or a way to not get ingrown hair when I do shave?