I need a help (MTF)
I would like to start with the fact I'm a young teen I have felt like I was a girl for as long as I remember and it helped since my older brother was bisexual so in a sense he had not a 1-1 but pretty similar experience to me and I have slowly been coming out to all my friends all with mixed opinions all are supportive but there some taking more time than others to process it but overall that's fine and I'm glad I have friends to talk to about being trans
Now to get the part I need help with I live with my grandma, mom, and sister and my mom has joint custody with my dad he already knows but said he won't tell mom until I do it first but that's the thing I think my mom is homophobic and transphobic same with my grandma and sister they've all made homophobic remarks about my older brother and they also say stuff like if your born a boy your a boy that being trans is a mental illness I really do wanna tell them but I'm afraid I don't want them to hate me but it also feels bad when I hear there transphobic remarks.
Please tell me what I should do