r/RecluseIndia

I feel so unhappy, i feel sad and lonely. I feel desperate, i just wants some friends

It's been more than a decade that I'm dealing with depression and other mental health issues. I tried everything. Therapy, psychiatrist, everything but nothing works. I tried to reach out to people but never got any help. All they did was yap toxic positivity. I don't have anyone to talk about this to anyone. Neither my family understands it nor my small group of friends. I'm just living with this monster that is staying inside my mind. Currently I'm just surviving as an artist. However I'm not sure how long I'm gonna live.

Really feeling frustrated nowadays after my best friend left me without any reason. Would appreciate if anyone can be my friend

Same as title. Just wanted to ask what people listen to to get through this.

I did not ask to be born, worst thing that could have happened was to be born in a shit hole like India.

now i can stay in my room with less guilt if there's a lockdown

i don't feel the same anymore. the things that once made me happy don't excite me like they used to. the hobbies i loved, the places i ran to for comfort, even the people who once made me feel alive now feel different. i try to enjoy them, but it feels like i'm only pretending, like i'm just moving through life without the same joy. i miss the old me, the one who laughed easier, who found happiness in little things. sometimes i wonder if that version of me is gone forever, or if one day i'll find my spark again.

but i honestly don't want anyone from my past to come back into my life, whether it's an old love or friendship. i'll always keep the memories we shared, but there's a clear and valid reason why i stopped communicating and removed you from my life. it's not out of anger or hatred. it's simply because i don't want to go back to doors that i already closed for my own peace. choosing to let go allows me to move forward without carrying the weight of people, places, or feelings that no longer belong in my life.

I've graduated in 2025 and have been hikikomori since then.So about a week ago I've started applying for every job possible for graduates. I've done bcom (specialization in accounting and finance).Most of low paying jobs I'm applying for have atleast 9-10 hours shifts? Travelling will cost me for 2 hours going and coming back. So all low paying workers mostly get exploited?

I don't really want to make more excuses about mental health but I'm confused. I don't have any clarity. I guess my choice of choosing commerce was very weak.

I don't think I can function as a normal guy

What work should really be? Or should I just focus on earning a bit of money first?

I (21M) just had a trip with my friend, and I saw him working a little on his phone to earn a few bucks. I ignored it at first, thinking I’d get a good job with the degree I’m pursuing right now. But gradually, when I saw our expenses rising so much, we started using public transport, where we saw frustrated people packed in like garbage. The constant pushing and crowding around us really broke me apart.

The exact moment it hit me was when I was returning to my city alone and decided to rest at a bus stop for a while. Within just 15 minutes, I saw 20–30 buses packed to the brim. It didn’t matter whether they were men or women everyone was being shoved around like garbage, and it affected me deeply.

I don’t want my family to suffer like this. I don’t want to spend my life struggling in overcrowded public transport. I even overheard people talking badly about us and cursing when we asked for a seat. Deep down, it made me feel really depressed, realizing that if I don’t earn well or work hard enough, everything could be lost for the people I’m living with and care about..

I'm severly depressed from the last 8 years and because of that my mind has stopped working and i've lost interest in everything.. The usual reclusive stuff right? well keep it aside just tell me how can i fix this.. because what i think is..

A person can only do a thing or learn a thing if he is "interested" in doing it or he "wants" to do it.. if not then he can only push it to certain point but not enough to make it worth the effort.

Like suppose.. i "want" to pass the JEE mains exam.. so i will try my best even if i fail..
I am "interested" in learning guitar.. so i will try to learn it..
RIGHT??

But as i am not interested in things.. i am doing it with the sense of getting some outcome out of it... which is not good.

Suppose i am reading a book.. not because i like the book.. but because "if i read , then my reading skills will get better , my english will improve bla bla" and it defeats the purpose of just enjoying things.

My point is.. whenever i do anything.. as i am not interested in it.. so i do it with the intention of "Work" .. and i cant do it for long because of that... and because of that i cant put in as much efforts in a thing so that i can become good at it.

Anyways.. this thought just came to my mind because i am learning coding rn.. and i am not at all interested in it.. i'm trying to do it from the past 5 years but i am still at the beginner level because i just cant do it.. if you cant relate its like suppose you suddenly start learning "weilding" , "AC installation".. basically random things.. which you are just not interested to do at all.. HOW WILL YOU FEEL then?

19-22 only

There's a reason for everything, there should be a reason why we all are like this. Why are we socially detached, hard to socialize, lonely, self haters and other similar things?

I was born in dec 1994..that makes me perhaps the oldest recluse here..,most people won't believe I started working at 30...it took me a long time to come out of it and I wasted a lot of time ...bt I wanna say to young ones here people in their teens or early twenties...this is not the path to be taken....there is no end of misery here ...if someone is feeling stuck I can help u..like I wish someone would've helped me...what I can do is offer u a place to live and food to eat...so u can come out of this daily rut and confort zone....I run a small ngo now so u guys can do some work and it will also reflect good on Ur resume...so if someone really wanna break this loop...do comment and I'll do whatever it takes to help