r/Perempuan

Hi guys mau tanya dong, ini tuh modus baru apa bukan ya?

Jd kejadiannya tuh saya kan lagi menyewakan rumah pasang iklan di Facebook, lalu ada yang chat, ternyata dia lg cariin rumah buat bosnya trs suruh aku hub lewat WA.

Ok tuh aku hub lewat WA, katanya skrg reside di Singapore, mau pindah ke Indo untuk bisnis. Butuh tempat tinggal dekat Bandara. Baru ke Indo tgl 20an, mau viewing tgl 20. Udh ngomong ttg rumah tbtb tanya ttg personal, nanya udh makan atau belum, pokoknya ke arah personal. Which is... weird?

Trs yaudah aku blg jg ada bbrp org yg sudah atau mau viewing, paling nanti sistemnya cepet2an aja. Dia minta dikabarin kalau udah ada yang mau, krn dia berharapnya dia yg bs tempatin. Trs akhirnya kmrn dia viewing lewat WA video call gitu dan mau kabarin secepatnya jadi sewa atau engga.

But the weird thing is... It just seems odd? The personal detail yang dia share dan tbtb dari ngomong ttg rumah mau sewa dia steer the convo into more personal stuff gitu, nanya udh makan atau belum, pokoknya mengarah ke personal bgt, takut scam?

The info he shared about himself jg cukup questionable? Dia bilang dia RM di Bank di Singapore, tapi tinggalnya di Holland Village dan dapet mobil dr kantor which.. is it possible? doesn't seem like it adds up krn biasanya VP up yg dpt mobil dr kantor ga siii di SG. Pokoknya its very sus. Ini modus atau bkn sih? Ada yang pernah encounter?

Tktnya scam2 kayak love scam or mafia tanah or something. I'm just a girl who wants to rent out her house for moneeeey 😭 🙏🏻

Yang orangnya ga korupsi, jujur, fair, ga curang, bisa dipercaya, akuntabel (ngaku kalo salah)? Boleh minta tolong untuk dibagi ceritanya? Terima kasih

Hi Puans! I need recommendations untuk tempat jualan barang preloved yang bukan carousell dan threads (udah coba dua-duanya).

Long story short, aku di PHK dua bulan yang lalu dan sampai skrg masih unemployed. I really am trying my best, somehow I still haven't landed a new job. Ada satu yang lagi nunggu kabar, semoga yang datang kabar baik yah~

Anyway, aku bener bener BU banget. Aku harus kirim uang untuk mama dan tabungan ku sudah menipis (concerning amount). Jadi, aku decide untuk jual sepatu Gucci ku.

I posted di reddit jual beli Indonesia, threads, and Carousell tapi no luck. Apa ada rekomendasi platform atau komunitas untuk jual barang preloved selain those I mentioned?

I don't know disini boleh jualan atau tidak, I thought this is exactly the market. I promise it's not a spam. I just desperately need some help.

If you're interested, feel free to visit my profile or DM me.

I would really appreciate any help, whether in upvoting my previous post, buying my shoes, rekomendasi tempat jual, or anything at all.

Thank you!

This is just a mere observation as someone who's chronically online. I see way more american and filipino girls wear longer hair but it seems like it's the opposite with indonesian girls. So when white people call a shoulder-length hair as "short" im always a bit confused because it sure as hell doesnt look short to me...

Maybe weather plays a big part here but what about the philippines, vietnam, and latin countries.. They pretty much have the same climate like us yet their girls seem to have much longer hair.

Sebelumnya uda pernah cerita disini soal adek cewe yang gagal nikah dan masuk fase breakup.

Uda hampir 3 bulan sejak mereka putus. I see her go thru the 5 stages of grief. Sekarang, meski dari luar adek gw uda terlihat baek2 aja tapi all signs say otherwise.

Minggu lalu ane sempat liburan ke Mainland China dengan keluarga, tentunya bawa adek cewe gw ini juga. She's perfectly ok and enjoyed the trip bareng kita, except I can tell she also she's not really with us sometimes. Selama liburan dia ngobrol dengan seseorang, or what I think are multiple guys dari dating app. I know kalau diem2 dia selalu beli alkohol tiap kita balik ke hotel, dan tidur paling hanya 2-4 jam sehari (itinerary selalu pagi dan kita sangat banyak jalan/hiking) tapi untungnya dia masih bisa function dan ngga sakit. The last 2 days when we're in Chongqing, she basically went clubbing somewhere till dawn.

I personally did asked and somewhat nagged at her for doing all these back in China - but all she can say is "these are all temporary" and "right now she's not in the mood to do much else". She mentioned that breaking up AND losing her job at once makes her feel aimless and unsure what to do. She did mention she's planning to stay in Japan for a month, and then spent a year or so studying in China, altho now I'm not sure if she really meant it.

Now ever since kita uda balik ke Indo, keknya makin ngga ada improvement. My sis lives with my aunt in Jakarta (who is a single woman and is effectively her godmother, altho kind but she also has a lot of personal issues). Baru2 ini our aunt complains to my dad that my sis was pretty much absent from the house - she only came back home to sleep during the day and go out from the evening till next morning. My aunt herself regularly went clubbing so she can tell that my sis right now does the same thing. I chatted her how she's doing and my sis can only say "I'm good, not much to say cos same old same old" even tho all reports say she's wasting away. And it concerns me a lot cos she went from a productive, go-getter woman to this.

Again, I want to think that time will heal but it doesn't show. As a guy and a bro, I'm unsure if I can help anyway at all. I had a female cousin who also went thru a breakup a few months back that also lives in Jakarta, and I'm considering if it may help at all if she can reach out and talk to my sis instead of myself.

stated in the title. tiap kali my bf blg mau travel sama temannya, aku rasa ter-trigger, i can't stop looking at his location. i keep checking my phone for updates. knp aku ter-trigger? krn >!teman dia ada history of cheating (none of them say anything walaupun itu couplean 1 circle dan aku sampe skrg terpikir terus what if kalo itu dia?), ada jg yg prnh random hookup.!< dia reassure aku kalo dia ga ky gitu. i know, tp aku cape bngt terus spiral klo dia sebatas nongki doang sm temannya. aku pernah travel bareng dia dan temannya, dan itu first and the last time.

tahun lalu dia ke iceland sama temannya (ber3 cowo). terus aku rasa ada yg janggal. ber3 doang? masa gada org lain? mungkin sekitaran sebulan sebelum dia pergi aku tny ulang, klian ber3 doang? tiba tiba dia blg oh ada org lain ikut. aku tny cewe? dia iyain. dari situ jg aku lumayan kesal bgt, harus ditny dlu baru ngomong. i don't want to get too much into details. we're in a long distance relationship (ongoing 3 yrs now) sbelumnya pernah living together 3thnan jg. so how do you manage your worries kalo partner kalian travel? please don't come at me. hanya mau insights aja. thanks for reading.

ISTG indonesian incels are hilariously entertaining. Gw punya burner account buat rage baiting mereka, whenever they complained that Indonesian girls are too demanding, standar toktok etc, I replied to them “I agree, mending sama cowo aja yuk daripada sama cewe banyak drama” and they went MAD AS HELL HAHAHAHAHA

I’m a woman from Russia living full-time in Bali for almost 2 years.

Before this, I dated another Russian woman and one of my favourite ways to show affection was lifting her in bridal carry during private romantic moments. I’m quite fit, so it felt natural and loving to me.

Now I’ve been dating an amazing Indonesian woman for three months. Everything is great, but whenever I try to pick her up bridal-style (even for a few seconds), she seems tense or a little scared, like she’s not used to it.

I really want to understand the cultural difference and be a better partner.

So I’m asking: Among Indonesian queer couples, is bridal carry or lifting your girlfriend in romantic private moments common at all?

Have any of you ever done it or experienced it? And how did it feel?

I’d appreciate any honest thoughts, no judgment, just trying to learn. Thank you so much!

What made you look back and think that, "Oh, I'm glad that I'm still here". Not for consolation but genuine question. Although going thru some wave atm

Halo all, sebelumnya maaf kalau pertanyaannya rada ekstrim

Aku mau mendonorkan rahimku kepada wanita yang kurang beruntung dan mau punya anak, tapi gatau apa yang harus aku lakukan untuk pertama kalinya buat donor rahim, karena casenya kayaknya sangat jarang untuk orang yang masih hidup(?)

Apakah perlu vaksin HPV dulu sebelum donor? Atau ada hal lain yang harus aku lakukan selain tentunya mengecek kesehatan rahim secara berkala dan menjaga kebersihan dan kesehatan rahim.

Alasanku mau mendonorkan rahimku karena aku udah ga perawan lagi setelah habis dipakai lekas dibuang oleh mantanku, dan aku merasa harga diriku sangat hancur karena itu.

Daripada aku terus menyalahkan diri sendiri selama ini, aku mau setidaknya berguna buat orang yang membutuhkan, untuk wanita yang mau punya anak tapi terhalang karena mungkin mereka mandul.

Kalau itu bisa menolong mereka, i'll be gladly to help.

TIA and have a good day for you all.

So gw grinding 3 kerjaan (self employed, full time, freelance) pekerjaan yg most making money itu freelance.

gw skrg ngerantau dan udah gak dapet uang dr ortu sejak SMA, gw mulai kerja dari SMA buat bayar spp dan biaya hidup ngekos.

dan gw lost client freelance (gak lost cuman akan dilanjut Juli) bc my client said i was underperformed (padahal KPI gw udah oke, udah ada bukti) so i don’t know what’s wrong, but my guess client gw lg gaada budget jd alesan gw underperformed.

So i only have my full time and self employed job, tp sebagai orang yg selalu ngerasa in danger akan kekurangan, gw skrg ngerasa on the rock bottom banget.

Thank God gw ada pasangan yg bantu gue dalam finansial dan tempat tinggal, tp gw ngerasa jadi beban, gw mau nangis tp gabisa, gw cuma bisa tidur terus sampe kepala sakit, that’s where i know gw udah parah bgt depresi nya, gw mau balik ke rumah kakak jg gw gamau jadi beban buat siapa-siapa… i feel like i was failing in life and i just couldn’t take it anymore.

anyone yang tau gimana cara dapet klien freelance or remote working please help me :’

Throwaway account from my main for obv reasons.

I can say to myself that I'm a well adjusted 31yo adult. But now I'm not sure.

I met this guy during a few years ago on Bumble. Sufficed to say he caught my heart - he's charming on the text, he was there when I was at my lowest, he's always kind and always listen to my woes. Nobody ever in my life left such a big mark in my heart. We met a few times (we both are closet weebs) and from what I know and see he's such a green flag. Tbh he's not even that good looking or tall or anything, but I liked him back then. It never went anywhere tho cos religion issues - he's chindo totok and I'm a muslim with strict parents. He's mature enough to also kept his distance since he knew it's something I also will never compromise. It broke my heart a bit as to why God gave me a chance to meet such a good guy but destined to never marry. But I moved on and never talked to him again - we just blocked each other. Or so I thought.

Early this year I finally got my new job and it's as if destiny is mocking me: I met him again, as my coworker/senior. To say that it got very awkward is an understatement, and a part of me wants to just leave the job to get away from him. But I really needed the job after almost a year spent jobless, so I try to be as professional as possible.

He's as kind and professional, and most of all, considerate as ever. He taught me what I need to know, and be as professional while keeping his distance as much as possible from me. I never felt so motivated in my life - simply because I'm working with him. And my heart was so conflicted. I realised I'm still in love with him. And soon that love also turned to lust - I started to masturbate with his pictures, I had all kind of imaginations with him sometimes during lunch break or sholjum. I'm obssesed with him, something I didn't know even possible. I never even chatted him outside of work. I dont want to make a move and change things, and I'm scared he might even have a family already.

This satnight after the extra hours, I went drinking with my girlmates and got drunk. One of them told me that he is still single, and that she is going to drop a work laptop at his apartment tommorow morning. I don't know what got into me - I offered to take the laptop to his place saying that it's close to my kost (it's not) and immediately went to his place that very night. I can tell he is very confused when he opened the door. I did something unimaginable - I seduced him. It was the best night of my life.

He took me for lunch the next day and then drove me home to my kost. He said he was sorry that he was weak and didn't be the adult and pushed me away when I did what I did. I got angry that he's still trying to push me away but touched that he's still considerate. Inside my room alone I got anxious and flustered and all the memories since last night just flooded in as I realised what I just really had done.

This morning I cant concentrate much on work. I feel anxious, horny, and frustrated all at once. I don't even know how I will react when I see him. He didn't come to the office today. And I'm scared to know why. But now I had this thoughts in my head:

I want to be friends with benefits with him. I feel alive when I was with him, especially when we are intimate and connected like that night. I don't even care if we never get married. Who wants to marry a slutty, ugly, fat, black and crazy girl like me anyway. At least I'll be happy and I want this to be forever. But I know it isn't gonna be forever. He warned me himself, and part of me already know it but I felt better denying it. I got thinking that maybe God made me connect with him again meant something, or maybe my heart cant take the dopamine and now I'm just crazy. Everything feels wrong but it feels so right. I don't know who else to talk about this, I'm too embarassed.

What should I do puans?

girls and gays (and guys).... i have this problem, my hobbies are too expensive lol (tennis, travel, yoga, eat good food). i genuinely think my hobbies are the only things keeping me sane and happy. kyk diem dikit lgsg sedih mellow nangis terus. it's like i'm in this neverending loop. is it just purely that i enjoy these hobbies or am i impulsively trying to run away from the sadness in me

Mau tanya tips ke puans untuk proteksi dan ... ngobatin... kulit yang lagi sering kena matahari 😭 aku bakal 11 days straight kerja lapangan kena debu kena matahari BEKASI...

aku pastinya pake sunscreen, pake yg spray buat reapply krn biasanya susah akses air bersih jd gabisa cuci tangan/muka di tengah hari, pake topi, jaket uv, masker... Cm kulit muka tuh keliatan bgt jd jelek T-T pori-pori jd gede, terlihat kasar, deket idung sm bibir kering pecah perih... Tapi bukan sunburn sih... Cm kerasa aja kulit tuh jd gak sehat

Aku baru hari ini mulai minum vit E (dan ada kandungan apa lg gitu, lupa, buat nangkal radikal bebas), semoga sih membaik ya...

idk but my heart isn't in it anymore. I also don't pray 5 times a day anymore. But i have big boobs and i want to keep them covered up.

if any of you can share what it's like to have worn the hijab and then take it off later in life, pls share here. I'm still considering. Thanks :)

Hi puans. My mother had just been diagnosed with brain tumor. The doctor said that it’s still small so they’re currently scheduling her for a surgery appointment.

My mother didn’t tell me whether it’s benign or cancerous. However, I lost a friend due to a brain tumor in the past (she lives in the US, access to healthcare is heavily limited for her due to financial reason).

My mother worked in a field that has a relations to treatment for cancer though she’s not a direct healthcare worker, that’s why she’s mostly calm at handling the diagnosis. However due to a history in the past, I’m rather worried.

Kiranya, puans ada tidak ya yang punya pengalaman terkait dengan procedure tersebut atau the illness itself? How safe is the procedure, what complications are there possible to have, what’s the success rate here in Indonesia, how can I support her?

Any response is deeply appreciated! Much loves, puans!

Hari ketujuh dari 13 hari kerja lapangan nonstop tanpa libur; masih dikasih tugas clerical sama atasan dan PM lain; posisi gue cuma anak magang dengan gaji gak sampe 1.5 juta; nyokap ceramah terus suruh bersyukur tiap gue ngeluh kerjaan kayak gini; pacar gue ilang-ilangan, ada satu hari gak ngabarin sama sekali; he's not online so i cant really dump my emotions and i will just bottle it up again because the next time we talk it wont feel like the right time; i bought a novel that turns out to be trashy and written by a fucking youtuber

Everything's awful and im spiraling hard and i've never been this way since few years ago. im back to wishing i fall sick or get hit by the truck i pass by on the way to work. thankfully this time i know these thoughts are my own doing, theyre my coping mechanism, and not some sort of wrong wiring that i cant escape. I can just Not Think About It.

Also sending bf's chat room to WA archive is not enough i need to send it into mariana trench

i need to get off my computer because i want to punch my monitor so bad