r/OlderThanYouThinkIAm

So this was a surprise.
A man asked me out, I’ve gotten better at telling ages and figured he was 5-7 years older which is reasonable.

He asked me out, at first I said no but then he tried again and made me laugh so I said yes.

He said he wanted to take me to a restaurant, sent me the location. Insanely expensive and very dark sexy type restaurant. I said no, let’s do coffee.

So he meets me, we grab coffee, he starts hinting at his money. Jokes about having an envelope of cash since he’s traveling and doesn’t know what to do with it. He mentions wanting to go to the nearby (luxury) hotel to use the bathroom, suddenly getting close to me and touching my back. I’m annoyed but it all goes over my head.

Later he asks if I’m in school. I say no and I ask his age, find out it’s 40. He asked my age which is 33. He is stunned. I asked and he said he thought I was 22/23…. It got awkward and he started being a little more formal.

It all clicks, continually talking about the cash he had with him… the hotel.. I’m thinking I’m on a normal date with a guy reasonably close to my age… he thinks he’s on idk what with someone nearly 20 years younger then him.

Btw Im wearing a loose blue skirt that goes to my calves and a loose white sweater. This is the outfit I’ve worn to church. No skin showing. Just the age difference made him think this I guess.

I’ve posted in this sub a few times about my struggles with looking young, and without fail I always get a few comments that are clearly from people who don’t understand this sub. I’m talking about the comments that are like, “I would love to be told I look 12!” or “Why is it a big deal to be told you look young, I wish someone would tell me that!” So, what do you guys think the difference is? I think most of us in this sub are offended by these comments, but there are obviously some people who welcome it. It makes me think of a post my mom made on Facebook recently where she posted some selfies with my kids and my aunt commented “Wow Laura, you look so young… seriously you look like a little kid! So beautiful!” I would’ve hated that, but my mom didn’t mind it.

Both me and my dad popped into the liquor store to pick up a couple bottles and cans for the weekend, and as usual I was in charge of the buggy. So we go through the check out and the guy working the register lets my dad know that I shouldn't be pushing the cart because I'm underage.

I'm 20

I actually ended up showing the guy my id, at least we all got a laugh out of it!

He hasn’t said it bothers him, but his friends have mentioned the rumors. My partner is well known in a certain industry and we go to many events and meet lots of people together. The consensus is they all think he’s twice my age. I get looked over often in conversations and even the other wives avoid me. It’s starting to get to me but I don’t really know how to feel about it? Does anyone here have a similar situation with their partner? How do you manage?

For context, I'm roughly 4'10" and I was wearing cosplay that may make me look shorter. I was also with a friend who's taller than me despite being younger.

Somehow, I got the tickets without the cashier asking my age. When it was time to go to the cinema, the guy who's was handling the entrance to the movie asked my age. Iron Lung was rated R-13. I'm eighteen. So somehow, the guy thought I was younger than 13...

Mind you, my friend who was youger than me did not even get asked... I hate this.

But at least both of us were able to watch the movie :D

I see lots of posts coming from women and I feel you. Just wanted to say that I am a 28 year old man and oh boy it’s rough out here for men. Not trying to say women have it easier but just wanted to vent that as a man this baby face thing makes no one take you seriously. And forget dating for the most part. Women don’t want to date an almost thirty year old that looks like a child at first glance. Thoughts?

So I (19f) been getting mistaken for a litteral kid so many times that im starting to think i must actually look like one. The first time i just laughed about it but its just been happening so much that its just not funny anymore.

For context, im 4'11 and 85lbs, so i get that i might look a bit younger because of it. But ELEVEN???

So it happened multiple times, but these two times really shocked me the most. I was with my dad to go buy food at a takeout restaurant or whatever you call it. And the guy started talking with my dad, about his daughter and all, and my dad asked how old is daughter was. And this man points and me and says "around the same as yours, first year of middle school"....and that really shocked me, because i seriously don't think i look THIS much like a child.

And i tried everything! Cutting my hair shorter, wearing revealing clothes, but all i get is weird stares as if im a kid wearing a lowcut. And it makes me uncomfortable. One time i was out eating at a restaurant with my family, and the waitress asked if i would like the kids menu...💀

My family says its okay and that i'll be glad to look younger in a few years, but its really hurting me to get comments like that so often, its been making me feel more and more insecure each time.

I just spent 12 hours as a second shooter/photographer’s assistant at a wedding i’m 18 in 3 weeks, i’m 4’11 and have a horrendous baby face. People ALWAYS assume and treat me younger than I actually am.

Today multiple people thought I was the photographer’s kid tagging along instead of someone actually working. I was literally doing my job properly the entire time—calm, organised, not fidgeting (which was hard after that many hours), following instructions, staying professional even when I was getting attitude from the people & the photographer. Multiple adults were laughing when i was chasing after the photographer with a bag full of lenses, and talking to me in a “baby voice”, when i was stood with the 200 sheets I had to check off the bride’s dad said “are you rating her photos out of 10? 🥺”
And the bride at the end of the day said “Thank you for helping! 🥺”, meanwhile the photographer was spoken to normally, it’s actually humiliating, it really upsets me, i’m an adult in 3 weeks and people still speak to me in the baby voice, because who doesn’t love having their job invalidated?

At one point I was talking to a group of girls my age and one of them said she thought I was 14. I awkwardly laughed and said I get that a lot because of my height, and she literally scoffed and said “it isn’t the height” and kind of glared at me.

Like… okay? That was just rude for no reason.

The worst part is I couldn’t even say anything back because I was working and it would’ve been “unprofessional,” but at the same time no one was even perceiving me as professional anyway.

It’s so frustrating putting effort into acting professional and still being treated like you don’t belong there or like you’re a kid tagging along. It genuinely gets in your head.

At the end of the day, i’m getting paid £100, which is a lot, but honestly for the constant hassle I face daily it doesn’t feel like it was worth it, I was so embarrassed.

Hello vampire friends! Do any of you have favorite things to say in the moment when this happens to you? I was at an event the other day and having a nice chat with someone about my injured arm and he was sharing about an injury that he was nursing, when his wife cut in and told me that when I’m older I will understand that healing takes a lot longer. I got annoyed and said something like that I am old and the conversation was killed and I walked away.

I have my line about being a very young vampire, but sometimes I don’t really feel like having to give my age to someone I just met, not that I care about people knowing but it feels lately like it’s required of me while other people don’t have to do that. Any good one-liners to quickly say that just relay that you are older than they are assuming?

So my mom is a middle school teacher. She works with children who are on the spectrum in a Montessori type of school. One of her students, 11yo boy, recently told her: “Miss X, why do your hands look like you are 50 yrs old?” 😂😂😂 Mind you, she’s 56!

(tbh her hands have always looked like that for as much as I’m alive lol)

Anyway, I told my mom that she got a compliment because the kid didn’t expect her to be in her 50-s 😆

I was on the plane, and I was sitting next to a couple. The man started putting his arm around the woman and it was as if he was having a romantic moment. He said, "Do you remember when we met?" She was visibly tense, so he turned to me because he realized she was uncomfortable because there were other people. He glanced at me and then turned back to her and said, "Who cares about a little girl?" I was 28. And I am 5.5 so no that petite

I'm a 26 year old woman but I've had both older and younger people saying to me I look 17. I've been trying to do makeup on and off for a year now to solve this issue but it's still not working. I just look like a 17 year old with makeup, 18 if I do well lol. When guys approach me I'm always wondering if they genuinely think I'm in my 20s or if they're creeps.

Does anyone have specific make up tutorial recs or other advice? I was thinking of getting a nose ring or visible tattoos though I do kinda have commitment issues when it comes to altering my body permanently. Thanks for any replies!

edit: thanks for the advice guys, I'll definitely start doing meth and get pregnant asap!

I put in my bios:

• I like older

• Into older

• My age or older

Still getting hit up by "18" year olds. Not hard to notice how virtually nobody's 19. Aaaaalways 18. When I was underage, everyone picked 21 so they could drink, but ig drinking's passé here/now.

I don't even want to be around anyone anymore who isn't at least visibly mid-twenties. Thought one was an adult last summer. He came after me, wouldn't stop, and was waiting for me when I came back. I caved. Flirted back. We almost kissed. Dude flipped, went gay panic, jumped me, cops were called, and everyone figured out the age part halfway through.

NEITHER. OF. US. KNEW!

Worst nightmare come to life.

I keep editing this post, and it keeps coming out weird, because I'm still so fucked up by that situation, I don't even know how to talk about it. Haven't been back to the local swimming spot since. Probably need therapy.

Everyone seems to think looking weirdly young's a good thing, but they never consider this part. Babyface's a really mixed bag.

Have yall dealt with it too?

I am 45f and I look 35 and act 25. My heart is young and I always will be open to explore life. Most of my friends are younger than me and my boyfriend is 25. People forget how old I am physically sometimes and it's surprising. I can surely keep up tho

Hear me out! I’m like you, I swear.

Ive always looked young for my age and was (and sometimes still am) often on the receiving end of comments like “you’re too young to remember x” and “I’m old enough to be your mother!” etc. (it didn’t help that I was a waitress for a really long time which people perceive as a young person’s job).

Even when they were reading my age correctly, these comments were super annoying, not funny, unhelpful, and condescending. If you’re reading this you can probably relate.

However, now that I’m officially an old and some of my colleagues are quite literally young enough to be my children, I find myself tempted to make comments like this.

I consciously stop myself from making them, or I reframe them as something like “it’s weird to realize how old you’ve gotten” instead of “you’re the one who’s weird for being young,” but I’m honestly so surprised how often the urge to make these comments comes up! It makes me have a little more empathy for the people who made these comments to me (a *little* more).

I’m wondering if anyone else here:

a) Has made the conscious decision to not make these comments when the time comes because you were on the receiving end so often, and

b) Also finds themselves tempted to make these comments way more often than you expected.

Let me know please

So I’m now in my late 30s. I’ve always been tall and slim, small butt and boobs, I’m also trans so its puts me in this weird gray zone where some people just.cant.figure.me.out. both when it comes to my gender but also my age. I’ve had people think I was every age, gender, and sexual orientation out there.

A few years ago my wife and I are going for a hike on a trail that has an access fee. Nice older lady is taking the fee. We‘re both wearing hiking gear. Ive got some shorts, backpack, wide brim hat, sunglasses. My wife is wearing the same, she’s about my age but 8 inches shorter. Also looks young for her age.

The fee structure at this park is $5 if youre 13 and up, free if you’re 12 and under.

“Hello! Beautiful morning for a hike!”

”Yes ! Welcome!”

She then looks at me, looks to my wife and addressing her, points to me and says.

”How old is he?“

We are both confused for a second.

i then just hand her my credit card and say “I’m 32.”

She not only read me as a boy, but a 5’10” 12 year old boy with his mom. She was so flabbergasted and apologetic. We laughed for the whole hike .

In hindsight I should have played dumb and gotten in for free.

Being androgynous has given me many stories like this. haha.

Do you guys constantly get called 'kid' or other names that make you feel awful? It's gotten to the point where if I hear mumbled voices, I immediately get paranoid that people are talking about me, even when they're probably talking about something completely unrelated. Whenever I'm alone with my thoughts, just thinking about how having a baby face has ruined my life makes me feel so miserable, devastated, and like everything is incredibly unfair. It even spirals into some really extreme thoughts. I start having suicidal thoughts or urges to do something drastic. I know how terrifying this sounds, and I'm genuinely scared that one day I might actually act on it.