u/anon_throwaway234

I'm a 26 year old woman but I've had both older and younger people saying to me I look 17. I've been trying to do makeup on and off for a year now to solve this issue but it's still not working. I just look like a 17 year old with makeup, 18 if I do well lol. When guys approach me I'm always wondering if they genuinely think I'm in my 20s or if they're creeps.

Does anyone have specific make up tutorial recs or other advice? I was thinking of getting a nose ring or visible tattoos though I do kinda have commitment issues when it comes to altering my body permanently. Thanks for any replies!

edit: thanks for the advice guys, I'll definitely start doing meth and get pregnant asap!

Hello! unfortunately the stalking sub disappeared a while ago so I'm posting here even though I'm not a huge fan of some posts, but I still want to share some good news. I've not been contacted in any way in almost 3 years.

2018 I briefly dated someone with bpd and quickly broke it off after a month or two. The last stalker account follow request was at the end of 2023 (there was a 2024 account but I'm not convinced it was actually him). 2019 I tried to give him a chance for friendship but he still wasn't being honest to his therapist so he fell back into his old patterns and accused of the wildest shit, overstepped clear boundaries, and kept trying to force a second chance romantically. I broke it off again, more accounts appeared, most I ignored. 2020 was the last time I messaged back. I never actually did anything restraining order wise though I really hope whoever reads this has enough strength and support to do so. I had the opportunity to get one but at the time I was too exhausted to re-explain all the bs he did to me.

I still have over 500 screenshots saved of almost every interaction/stalker account post breakup just in case. I am no longer scared of taking the bus (stops at his old town). I am no longer scared of going to the city he lives in now to visit my other friends, though I do occasionally check if he is sitting in the same train as me, but the fear is gone. I am no longer on the brink of a panic attack everytime I get an instagram or twitter notification. I am no longer scared when my friends mention me in their ig stories cause he would end up begging them to convince me to talk to him. I am not ready for public profiles again but maybe one day.

it took 8 years to finally find peace. 3 to finally know it stopped. and if he does end up messaging me now, I am sure I'd be able to handle it.

If someone is in this situation right now, please document every single thing. when they show up at your house, when they create a new account to harass you, when they send you gifts, when they "happen" to be at the same place as you, when they try to contact you through friends. all of it. if they tend to post about you, please don't look at it. I know you want to gather as much evidence as possible for a restraining order but please know it does more damage to you. if you feel like you need to document all of those posts, ask a friend to do it for you and to not show it to you. If you have some stuff that belongs to your ex partner or friend, please return them immediately so they don't have any reason to contact you again. You can wait it out like I did but I regret not trying for a restraining order. I just wanted to say, even if you do decide to wait it out, there is an end in sight. It's been almost 3 years of zero contact attempts now and it finally settled into my body and brain. I am free. It seems like he got the help he needed cause I haven't seen any crash out posts about his other exes either and I'm very proud of him for that.