r/LesbianActually

I'm just gonna ask bluntly. My girlfriend does not prefer me fresh out of the shower. She likes a day's worth of work on me if that makes sense.The word she uses is "seasoned".

I just cannot with that word but we also cannot come up with another word that best describes that preference. What word do you ladies use?

For the longest time they would keep asking if every was okay with me & my wife and it was confusing as hell.

Like, yeahh!? eventually little things like that stopped and now there's so much hostility from the men I work with because I'm a lesbian and it's honestly really annoying.

My supervisor even gets pissed and sarcastic whenever I mention my wife! I'm a traveling phlebotomist and there isn't really an HR for me to go to at my job. I've already filed complaints in the past with the national complaint system thing because men keep mistreating me. I won't name it.

One guy yelled at me the other week and took everything off the work van that I had just loaded up with medical supplies after a drive and he said that's NOT how you load it and I was like, I'm the driver I can load it how I want! I've also been here for about a year so I know what I'm doing.. he then got an attitude and made me cry in front of everyone and I just let him load it how he wanted it loaded.. took me 30 minutes to hit the road because I was so upset. my makeup was ruined and I cried all night 😭. he's in his 40s and I'm only 28 so I guess on top of everything else i guess he thinks I don't know anything because I'm 'young'.

I could go on and on with little stories like that about the mistreatment I get from men. I was never treated like this before I came out and before people knew I had a wife.

Mods if this violates any rules you can take my post down. I just needed to vent.

There’s this girl I keep seeing at the gym and we always seem to lock eyes. At first, I thought I was just being delusional but it kept happening. She’d glance at me more than once and when I caught her looking, she wouldn’t immediately break eye contact. One time, I even noticed her and her friend looking at me at the same time. Lately, she’s been using machines right next to mine which makes it feel less like coincidence. To top it all off she is completely my type: tan, shaggy black hair, fit, and just a naturally pretty face. I’ve been dying to talk to her. The only thing holding me back is that I’m 17. She looks around 19-20. I know that could be a dealbreaker for her and honestly I’d understand if she rejected me because of my age. I personally think the age gap isn’t that big of a deal but I’m too scared to find out. What do you guys think?

In my country, homosexuality is banned by law, and any expression of love is considered LGBT propaganda, so people who love the same sex have to stay closeted. I don’t want to live like this my whole life, but I also don’t want to conform to society’s expectations, date a man, and hurt him with my coldness (I’m not a bad person after all :> ). So I think I should choose a country I could move to.

On an alt, just in case, although she doesn't use reddit I believe she knows my main.

Anyways, we had the conversation early on that she wanted to be the one to propose, and I was perfectly content with that. I recently found a ring, and she bought it, so now I'm just (im)patiently waiting, lol

What she doesn't know, however, is that I have my OWN plans to propose back to her, after she has...

My beautiful GF and love of my life doesn't wear jewelry, and has a very practical type of job. I went back and forth on maybe a keychain or something, because I was still wanting to get something that she COULD have/wear every day, if she wanted to... And then, I stumbled across the most glorious of options-

Y'all. There's a carabiner knife. All of her keys and everything are attached to a carabiner now, and she always has a knife on her. She has a really lovely collection that she'll pick one from, and swap out from time to time, but also a lot of those are very sentimental and expensive and some of them have gotten lost so she's been a lot more hesitant...

SO I'm getting her a customized one, that says "Will you marry me?" on it, and putting it in a lil fancy necklace box that looks like an elongated ring box, and I. am. SO. excited!!

I'm not going to plan a "setup" or anything, I don't want her to feel like I'm taking over something that she was promised. I'll just find a quiet lil evening when we're together and whip it out over chinese takeout or something. I more care that I'm able to give her a daily wear item for our engagement period, before she gets her wedding ring :3

Heeeyyyy so I feel like I’m going crazy

This married 59yo lady at the bar was stroking my arm and calling me “so cute” and told me where her house was and said “I just really wanted you to know where it was, not like I’m dropping hints or anything.” She was full of compliments and spent a lot of time with me gazing into my eyes. Her husband even moved and said “I wouldn’t want to get in the way of your connection.”

I’m assuming she’s in an open marriage? I haven’t stopped thinking about it. She laughed when she found out I was 30 and said “I have kids your age.” I’m not sure if she lost interest then or was just being playful.

I added her to Facebook and she commented on a poem I shared and also liked my profile picture. What should I do? Should I message her and ask her out for a coffee? I lost a whole nights sleep obsessing over this pull I felt towards her but I can’t tell if I’m being delusional or not

sorry, this is basically a rant post... So I'm 25, about to turn 26 in 2 months... love life has been so weird and lacking.

I live in a small town and y'all know what that means: crushing on straight women, hiding lesbians, toxic lesbians, dating app lesbians that live about 3000 km from my town, the everybody mingles eachother lesbians... *sigh* thing is, now about 3 years i stopped looking and while yeah, i forgot about the subject— every now and then i feel like i wish for that feeling of being secure and in love with someone since i never really experienced such thing.

moving out of home feels like a concept so far it edges on becoming just a concept.

i have dreams of women. of women i once met, women i felt for, women my mind makes up. when i wake up i see the empty side of my bed and the clenching feeling in my chest that's a telltale of this immense yearn i have in me.

so, yeah... that's me. sorry.