r/LesbianActually

with the SOLE exception of butch and femme, wtf is up with our community and our obsession with labels. every girl i’ve ever pursued romantically is all like oh what are you a doc martens lesbian, granola, chapstick. idk the list goes on. like can we stop assigning people labels. im femme and thats honestly my gender too and that’s it. idk over it

I’m just a hopeless romantic wanting to be in a healthy relationship. I’m pretty independent and I enjoy being alone but damn sometimes I just want to talk away and be in love and just shower someone with gifts, art, poems and food. I can’t wait to cook for someone again. I can’t wait to be in love again. Does anyone feel the same?

“I’m not gay but I would want a gf to try it out”.. women are not toys.. as a woman to say that, that’s gross. Us lesbians are not toys, not an experiment. Well I’m not an experiment or a toy, I’ve fought so hard to get to where I am as a lesbian, so for another woman to see my sexual orientation as “fun”, “experiment”,etc. I’m not with that!

So I started talking to this girl i met on my colleges yikyak page. After few weeks of not knowing who the other person was we traded instas. Before we traded I admitted to her I was a little nervous about it because I didn’t want her to think I was ugly. She promised she thinks all people are beautiful. We traded, I messaged her and she never messaged me back. I don’t even know why I’m sharing this because it’s so stupid and I’m so embarrassed but I just feel so ugly 😭 so much for putting myself out there

I 26F, dating a 24F.
We’ve been together for quite a while now, but we’re having relationship problems.

First, I am always adjusting for her. Second, she doesn’t want to eat where I want to eat so we eat on the same place everyday. Third, recently she always play mobile game with someone, she reasoned that I cannot join because of my rank. I don’t feel well that time but I didn’t tell her because I thought she’s busy studying, but I learned that she’s only playing mobile games. Fourth, we have different environment growing up. She was raised by gentle parents, I was raised with constant spanking, and raising of voices.

Recently I have been experiencing some kind of bullying, when I told her about it she just said she doesn’t want to be involved. She also told me to stop ranting about the same things again and again because it will not change the facts about the situation. When I told her I don’t feel her support she said sorry.

I can’t tell anyone what I felt, so any advice?

Thanks!

Whether it’s with a certain toy or a routine that you have! I personally just love to finger

I've recently noticed a frequent commenter in lesbian and queer subs who is impersonating someone using stolen photos. Yes, "many such cases," etc., but please indulge me. They claim to be bisexual, 24, and a single mother of two. A simple reverse image search shows the photos actually belong to a woman who is straight, 30, married with three children, and living in a completely different location from what the impersonator claims. I shudder to think they may also be using photos of the minors and presenting them as their own. I’ve reported them to Reddit, but I can see they are still very active.

Users like this are posting and commenting on topics such as dating, relationships, and intimacy. They distort our discourses and spread falsehoods and ridiculous misconceptions. They assume that by accumulating a post and comment history, they can build a façade of legitimacy to slide into DMs more convincingly.

Please be careful.

I feel a bit pathetic knowing I’m almost 18 and I still don’t really know how to have or what to do in a relationship. I dated a few girls in middle school, but that doesn’t really count. I’m not actively searching for a relationship right now, but I wonder what I’d do when the time comes and whether I’d be able to handle it. Most of my past “relationships” were just fooling around, cuddling, and making out. Looking back, that feels very adolescent and empty. I also feel a bit like a bum because I don’t have a job yet and pretty much all I do is art, journaling, chores, school, and hanging out with friends. I know there’s no universal guide to this, but I’m curious how other people think a good relationship should be and what makes a good partner.