r/ChildfreeIndia

A little about me:

- My family is originally from Andhra but I grew up in Bangalore. So I can speak Telugu, Kannada, Hindi and English.

- I was born in to a Hindu family but I'm Agnostic.

- I currently don't have any hobbies of my own, but I really want to learn how to sew and to swim in the near future.

- I'd consider myself to be a Ambivert. Probably an extrovert with low social energy

- I also believe physical attraction is important for any relationship to start off, so I'd prefer we exchange pics early on if the conversation goes well. (I know they don't matter in the long run, but they do set off the initial spark)

Reason for being childfree:

- I don't want to pass down my anxiety-ridden genes.

- The world is in chaos at the moment, I don't want to willing bring another life into it.

- I don't think I have the bandwidth to provide for a child financially. I make enough money for myself, but anything else is an added burden.

What I'm looking for in a partner:

- Growing up I had a checklist of things but once I turned 30, I realised it didn't matter. So I have only one non negotiable, that is being childfree.

- I have a few preferences:

1. Location: I hope you are currently in Bangalore/ Hyderabad or Andhra Pradesh.

2. I hope you are taller than me. (This is only because I'm 177cm/ 5'11, which is quite tall according to Indian standards)

3. Age: Somewhere around my age (-3 years to +5 years)

PS: I just hope my low Reddit karma doesn't make you hesitate to reply.

Child free due to circumstances

Looking to make some healthy friendly connections with like minded

I haven't dated anyone in last 2-3 years (by choice or one can say life happens) and a lot has changed for me since then. I was a college student then. Now I am an independent adult? I don't know how I am still managing but overall things are going alright.

If you are also trying to find your person while navigating through adult life, maybe we can talk and see where it goes.

A few things about me: • I am strictly against smoking and drinking and I am only looking for someone who feels the same. (Don't mind occasional drinking)

• I'm doing alright professionally and academically and I would like someone who is ambitious and reasonably sorted in life.

• I am simple, blunt and straightforward. It would be easier for both of us if you are also like this.

• I am not a spontaneous person. I prefer planning and keeping my life organized.

• And I'm going to stay childfree. (Never going to have a child of my own.)

I'm childfree because the world is really fucked up and I don't want the stress of raising kids in a place like this. It's really difficult to be constantly worried about someone else all the time when I have my own ambitions to work on.

*** I'm not looking for dating or marriage as of right now I need an opinion or thoughts about indian men thank you 😊****

I’m a transgender woman and I haven’t had surgery yet (though I may consider it in the future). I’m also firmly childfree — I don’t want biological or adopted children.

I’m curious to hear from childfree men: would you be open to dating or marrying a trans woman, especially someone who is pre-surgery and doesn’t want kids?

For me, being childfree is a thoughtful decision. I’ve seen how emotionally unhealthy family environments can impact children, and I don’t feel it’s right for me to become a parent.

I’m genuinely interested in honest perspectives from this community about long-term relationships and marriage with trans women.

I am talking in terms of workplace and friends/relatives who voluntell you work or over time or come about unannounced because they assume you have a lot of free time.

Hi everyone!
I'm 31F, born and brought up in Tier 2 city in Telangana. I’ve been working remotely for the past 4 years, so I currently stay in my hometown, though my primary work location is Hyderabad.

I’m here in hopes of finding a serious, long-term relationship.

A bit about me:
Career: Software Dev, remote working
Height: 151 cm
Religion: Hindu
Never married

I’m not someone who opens up instantly but once I’m comfortable, I’m quite talkative and expressive.

Hobbies: Reading web comics, watching anime
Lifestyle-wise: Non-smoker and social drinker.

Why I’m childfree:
My parents love me and adore me, but they also treated me like an investment which should give returns. This made me decide no to have any kids and raise them, because I know I can't be a positive influence and emotionally support them.

What I’m looking for:
Someone between 30–36 who is equally sure about being childfree and not undecided or open to change later.

If this resonates with you, feel free DM.

Hi, 24 M working in one of the AlIMS hospitals (not a doctor).

I have ADPKD (Autosomal Dominant Polycystic Kidney Disease) , which I inherited from my father- unfortunately not the kind of inheritance anyone hopes for. I found out about it incidentally.

Right now, it doesn't affect me in any way. I'm hopeful that with ongoing research and trials, effective treatments will be available in the future.

I had already thought of being childfree even before this diagnosis, but now, at times, I feel that this condition might take a toll on my future partner, especially in the long run.

I would like to know that any of you guys who would not really mind this condition in choosing the future partner exist here

I am 28 F working women from Mumbai |

Height - 5'4.

I am a vegetarian - I can have eggs occasionally (don't prefer much)

I like watching anime. I love big bang theory.

▫️Looking for a partner who is also residing in Mumbai - particularly western area.

▫️His height - 5'5 or above.

▫️I generally like skinny or fit guy.

▫️Would prefer a vegetarian partner.

▫️I'd like to live seperately with my partner if I get married not with in-laws - ( I don't want a debate over this pls, hence ..kindly don't DM if you're not willing to, no pressure)

Thanks.

I’m 29 and my husband is 32. We’ve been married for about 1.5 years. Growing up, I never really had a strong desire to become a mother. I do like kids, I love my niece nephew and friends’ babies but I never felt that desire to have one of my own.

Before marriage, I assumed maybe after 2 years of marriage I’d feel ready and will plan for one, and that desire would come naturally. But as time passes, I actually feel the opposite. The more I see the reality of parenting, the constant attention, lack of rest, emotional and physical demands, the more I feel like it’s not something I truly want.

Recently, I spent time with close family friends who have 2 kids under 2. They were clearly struggling, both kids crying, no proper rest, constant chaos. Even a short trip with them felt exhausting instead of relaxing for me. It made me realize how difficult it really is, and honestly, I don’t think I have the patience or energy for that kind of responsibility.

What worries me most is the idea of bringing a child into the world without genuinely wanting it. That doesn’t feel fair to the child. I’d rather be honest with myself than regret such a huge decision later.

I’ve tried telling my husband that I don’t want kids, but I’m not sure he takes it seriously he may think I’m just saying it casually. He likes kids, but I also don’t feel confident that he would be equally involved in taking care of the baby other than financially.

Is it normal to feel this way after marriage? Has anyone else shifted toward wanting to be child-free, even if you once thought you’d have kids?

Hi :) I’m a 33-year-old woman based in Bangalore, hoping to meet a kind, emotionally mature man who is looking for something real — the kind of connection that starts with intention, grows with care, and leads to marriage.

I’m at a stage in life where I value depth over drama, consistency over confusion, and companionship that feels warm, safe, and effortless. I’d love a relationship where we are lovers, best friends, teammates, and each other’s soft place to land.

A little about me:

Educated, independent, and doing well professionally

Warm, thoughtful, affectionate, and emotionally aware

Liberal in outlook and believe in mutual respect

Love reading, movies, travel, long conversations, and laughter

Enjoy holidays, discovering new places, and creating memories

Ambitious, but equally value tenderness and quality time

Calm by nature, loyal in love, and appreciate genuine people

What I’m hoping to find:

32–40, educated, stable, and doing well in life

Kind-hearted, emotionally mature, and secure in himself

Looking to date to marry and build a real partnership

Believes relationships are about teamwork, effort, and care

Communicates openly and values consistency

Enjoys travel, little adventures, cozy nights, movies, and shared experiences

Someone I can admire, laugh with, grow with, and come home to

The life I imagine together:

A peaceful, loving home filled with warmth and laughter

Supporting each other’s goals while building shared dreams

Taking trips together, from weekend getaways to bigger adventures

Being each other’s safe space through life’s ups and downs

I don’t have a pet yet, but I’d absolutely love to become a dog parent with my partner one day

What likely won’t work:

Casual dating or unclear intentions

Hot-cold behavior / poor communication

Emotional unavailability

Rigid or disrespectful mindset

Not ready for commitment

I’m not looking for perfect. Just someone genuine, emotionally steady, loving, and ready to build something beautiful together.

If this resonates, send me a message and tell me a little about yourself :)

I’m 30, still figuring out my career, and not financially stable yet. It might take me a few more years to get there — and I’m okay with that. Life doesn’t run on one fixed timeline, and I genuinely believe things can change anytime.

Because of where I currently stand, I often feel like people judge me — especially when they ask about marriage or kids, as if those are the only markers of a meaningful life. I’ve also noticed that in this phase, people tend to misunderstand me more easily, and honestly, that has made me a bit distant. I used to be more open, but now I prefer protecting my peace.

I don’t have a very active social life either. I don’t have a long list of friends or exciting weekend stories to share, and sometimes even simple questions like “What did you do this weekend?” feel uncomfortable — not because I’m doing something wrong, but because I don’t fit into what people expect.

And somewhere along the way, I’ve started disliking people more than I used to — not out of bitterness, but out of repeated experiences that made me more guarded and self-aware. Right now, I’m choosing to focus on building my life at my own pace — mentally, financially, and emotionally. And that includes being childfree, at least for now. It’s not a decision coming from fear or failure, but from clarity about where I stand and what I need.

Also, just to be clear-I may be open and honest. But I am not naive. If you're someone who takes advantage of vulnerability, this won't work.

I’m not trying to justify my life to anyone anymore. I’m just trying to live it honestly.

If you're someone who understands growth, patience and real connection, we'll get along.

Hello, I'm a guy in mid20s working here, was looking fwd to connect with young folks and make friends, but dont see any CF meetups happening.

Hope sunday is better. I get through my days the way most people do - alarms, work, conversations that don’t really say much, repeat. From the outside it probably looks stable enough. But there are moments, usually late at night or in between things, where it hits me how little of it actually feels.. real.

I guess I am finding someone who knows that feeling too. Honestly feeling alone and fucked up in life.

You’re the one who says “it’s okay” before anyone even asks. The one who learned how to downplay things so well that now even you believe it half the time. People think you’re easygoing, low maintenance, chill… but really you just got used to not expecting much back.

You check in on people. You notice when their tone shifts, when something’s off, when they need space or comfort. But when it’s you? You kinda just…deal with it. Push it down, distract yourself, tell yourself it’s not a big deal. Even when it is.

I’m not looking for perfect conversations or someone who has it all figured out. Honestly I think those are the most boring kind. I want the pauses, the half-finished thoughts, the idk how to explain this but… kind of honesty. Like.. what actually drains you these days?

What’s something small that shouldn’t bother you but somehow does?

When do you feel most like yourself, and when do you feel like you’re just playing a role to get through the day?

I’m someone who listens more than he talks at first, but not in a distant way. Just I pay attention. I remember things. I show up. Not perfectly all the time, but I try in a real way, not the performative kind.

I don’t want you to impress me. I want you to be comfortable enough to not even think about that.

Maybe you’re not used to being asked real questions without some expectation behind it. Maybe you are, and you’re just tired of surface-level answers. Either way.. I get it more than I probably should.

So tell me something you don’t usually say. Not the polished version. The slightly messy, maybe doesn’t-make-sense version. I’ll be here for that.

Edit/Update: Reposting with a few additions to my last week's post, added more context on relocation openness, habits, and tightened up a few sections from the original. Updates are highlighted in bold for convenience.

I'm 29, born, raised and living in Bengaluru , and genuinely looking for something long term ,something that starts organically, grows naturally, and eventually leads to marriage. I'm not here for casual conversations that go nowhere. I want depth, effort, and clarity from both sides.

A bit about me

I grew up in Bengaluru with my grandparents. Looking back, that shaped a lot of who I am ,I learned early to build the life I wanted mostly on my own, and that's still very much how I move through the world. I'm an ambivert and selectively social, I connect well with people who are extroverts and can go deep in conversation rather than staying at the surface.

I'm a social drinker, mostly with close friends or at after-work gatherings, and I know my limits. I was a smoker until about a year ago and have been smoke-free since. Not into drugs, I've tried recreationally a handful of times over the years, usually when travelling to countries where it's legal, but it's never been a habit or anything regular.

I work in data management and data governance for an EU-based retailer. I genuinely love what I do and have a clear sense of where I want to go with it. Outside of work, I'm usually at the gym, out on a hike, or planning the next trip. I've travelled to over ten countries so far and it's still one of my favourite things to do.

Culturally Hindu, but agnostic at heart. Faith isn't something I push on anyone, including myself. 

Why I’m Child Free

I've known since I was 18. A mix of reasons, the state of the world we're living in, watching two of my aunts go through repeated miscarriages only to be pushed harder by family for an heir, and knowing that I'm ambitious and want a partner who is too. A child changes that equation in ways I'm not willing to shortchange either of us over. I've also played a big part in raising my two cousins, I like kids, but I'm done with parenting. It's a considered, permanent decision. Happy to talk more about it if we connect.

Who I’m hoping to call it a home

1. Age-wise, I would like to connect with someone who is between 26 to 33, though a little outside that is fine if the connection feels right.
2. Preferably someone who is living in Bangalore or can relocate to Bangalore, I have desire to move to Europe/Australia to live three for some years and open to move to these countries for my partner as well. 
3. Someone who is outgoing, adventurous and into exploring different parts of world.
4. Someone who is sure about being childfree,  not sitting on the fence about it.
5. Someone with her own opinions who isn't afraid to use them, especially when it means pushing back on what family or society expects from a woman.
6. Someone emotionally mature who sees a relationship as something you build together, not something you fall into.

If this resonated, please put some effort into your first message. Tell me who you are, what you're looking for, and what stood out to you. That's a good start. 🙂

I’m 30M in Bangalore, got sterilised few years ago so permanently childfree for life, I’ve gotten old enough that I’m seeking some real and lasting

Usually we have a checklist of what we want in a partner but that rarely works from my experience

I’ve been living on my own for over a decade now and that’s not gonna change anytime soon, I come from a post modern nuclear family so there’s no restrictions or stuff like caste, creed, religion, etc bs and I don’t have any pressure to marry from anyone

For me the only thing that matters is we share a common long term vision for life, have good chemistry, communication, shared values, etc

I want something real, genuine, sincere and lasting, where we’re just travelling, exploring, doing things together and making memories

I have a lot of hobbies and I play bass as well so sharing some taste in music is a must, I listen to everything but cannons, tame impala, Eli and fur, marsh, Evanescence, Avril lavigne, twin tribes, carpenter brut, justice, Starset, daft punk, men I trust, Agnes obel, paradis, L'Impératrice, archive, etc

There’s so many more

I also do quite a bit of photography and cinematography as well, I’ve got a decent amount of gear and I love flying my drones whenever there’s no restrictions and a good view

Also I work in tech and if you’re one of those who asks to connect on LinkedIn, please skip, I’m looking for a partner not a job

I’m looking for someone who’s childfree, independent, creative and is essentially a free spirit just exploring what life has to offer

If that sounds like you don’t hesitate to DM

Hey everyone,

I’m a 25-year-old guy from Gurgaon, MBBS doctor and I’ve decided that I want a permanently childfree life. I’m here hoping to find someone who feels the same and is looking for something meaningful and long-term.

A bit about me:

• I’m an MBBS doctor

• Based in Gurgaon

• I’ve already worked in clinical research so I’m not the typical “only hospital life” person.

• Financial growth, independence, and a well-balanced lifestyle matter a lot to me.

Personality & lifestyle:

• Ambitious, practical, and future-focused

• I value stability, financial growth, and building a good life rather than following societal templates

• Not into unnecessary drama; I prefer clear communication and mutual respect

• I enjoy travel, good food, and making the most of my time (planning a trip every now and then is my thing)

• I speak Hindi and English comfortably

On being childfree:

• This is a firm, well-thought-out decision—not temporary

• I’m not interested in “maybe later” or “let’s see”

• I want a partner who is equally sure and aligned on this

What I’m looking for:

• A woman (around my age range)

• Someone who is also firmly childfree

• Educated, independent, and has her own ambitions (any field is fine)

• Emotionally mature, supportive, and values partnership

• Ideally from Delhi NCR region (or open to settling here / similar cultural context)

What I offer:

• Loyalty, consistency, and long-term mindset

• Emotional support + practical partnership

• Someone who will genuinely invest in building a good life together

If this resonates with you, feel free to comment or DM. Even if you’re not interested, I’d appreciate upvotes for visibility.

Thanks for reading :)