29M4F | Bengaluru | Looking for something real, long-term, and childfree. Repost with a few updates
Edit/Update: Reposting with a few additions to my last week's post, added more context on relocation openness, habits, and tightened up a few sections from the original. Updates are highlighted in bold for convenience.
I'm 29, born, raised and living in Bengaluru , and genuinely looking for something long term ,something that starts organically, grows naturally, and eventually leads to marriage. I'm not here for casual conversations that go nowhere. I want depth, effort, and clarity from both sides.
A bit about me
I grew up in Bengaluru with my grandparents. Looking back, that shaped a lot of who I am ,I learned early to build the life I wanted mostly on my own, and that's still very much how I move through the world. I'm an ambivert and selectively social, I connect well with people who are extroverts and can go deep in conversation rather than staying at the surface.
I'm a social drinker, mostly with close friends or at after-work gatherings, and I know my limits. I was a smoker until about a year ago and have been smoke-free since. Not into drugs, I've tried recreationally a handful of times over the years, usually when travelling to countries where it's legal, but it's never been a habit or anything regular.
I work in data management and data governance for an EU-based retailer. I genuinely love what I do and have a clear sense of where I want to go with it. Outside of work, I'm usually at the gym, out on a hike, or planning the next trip. I've travelled to over ten countries so far and it's still one of my favourite things to do.
Culturally Hindu, but agnostic at heart. Faith isn't something I push on anyone, including myself.
Why I’m Child Free
I've known since I was 18. A mix of reasons, the state of the world we're living in, watching two of my aunts go through repeated miscarriages only to be pushed harder by family for an heir, and knowing that I'm ambitious and want a partner who is too. A child changes that equation in ways I'm not willing to shortchange either of us over. I've also played a big part in raising my two cousins, I like kids, but I'm done with parenting. It's a considered, permanent decision. Happy to talk more about it if we connect.
Who I’m hoping to call it a home
- Age-wise, I would like to connect with someone who is between 26 to 33, though a little outside that is fine if the connection feels right.
- Preferably someone who is living in Bangalore or can relocate to Bangalore, I have desire to move to Europe/Australia to live three for some years and open to move to these countries for my partner as well.
- Someone who is outgoing, adventurous and into exploring different parts of world.
- Someone who is sure about being childfree, not sitting on the fence about it.
- Someone with her own opinions who isn't afraid to use them, especially when it means pushing back on what family or society expects from a woman.
- Someone emotionally mature who sees a relationship as something you build together, not something you fall into.
If this resonated, please put some effort into your first message. Tell me who you are, what you're looking for, and what stood out to you. That's a good start. 🙂