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I’ve been in my career 20 years, worked in London and US and returned home for a decent gig 8 years ago. Married, house, young family now.
I’ve a stable job, senior position, €85k + salary but feel it’s ran its course and lost passion for what I do as my boss doesn’t give me anything and leaves me to my own devices. I have a team with a few managers but it feels like constantly trying to lead and motivate and I have nothing really behind it.
I’m very lucky and grateful to have a stable job, good salary and flexibility but they’re the only reasons I’m staying where I am based on having a young family and it fits those circumstances.
But do people ever feel stuck, lonely and unmotivated and empty once you reach a certain point in career and it’s a case of riding it out based of the conditions but get no excitement, drive or fulfilment anymore (1st world problems I know!)

One of the nice things about Irish motorways is the trees on either side. As you're coming up the M6 towards Dublin there is a patch where there are being cut down.... Does anyone know why and what's going in there??

Hi,, I'm on for putting a mobile home out the back of the

parents 2/3 bed 39ft, access to electric water and sewage

not an issue, it'll be mainly me staving there by mvself, is it

doable for a couple of years living there and are there any

other hidden costs to look out?

No matter what job I do, I despise it. Working in a company for a few years now, and recently moved teams which I hoped would refresh my grá for work. Turns out I despise any job I do. The area I’m in is certainly not a passion of mine, so that doesn’t help.

I hate the endless meetings, hiding 7/8s of my personality, the bizarre fake eagerness from colleagues while also simultaneously being apathetic, and the general corporate bullshit.

Can anyone else relate?

I'm 20, I'm in 2nd year of computer science. I had no ambitions in life had no idea what i wanted to do. And since everybody else was doing college, I decided to do computer science. I honestly hated 1st year and still do. It's so difficult and whenever I did try to put the time and effort into learning nothing sticks, the cycle of frustration would just continue.

I also have no friends inside and outside of college, I'm always alone.

Now I'm not sure if I can continue. I've also been having quite a tough time at home and mentally drained from everything. I'm not sure what to do.

I always wear make up to my 9-5 job. I can’t imagine going in with a bare face. But lately as I get older (I’m 36) I’m starting to feel I care less and I feel it could be quite freeing to go in with no make up. Looking around my office, I actually realised that many women don’t wear make up in.

At the same time, I don’t want to “let myself go.” I feel good when I wear make up, but I’m starting to feel drawn to going without.

Curious to hear about other women’s choices regarding make up in the work place. Do you wear it, or no?

My daughter needs 4 wisdom teeth extracted. Just got quoted 3500euro in Limerick. Is it cheaper to go to the north? We don't have insurance and the HSE waiting list is apparently 3-5 yes. They need to come out asap as they are moving her other teeth and she already had 2 yrs of braces.

Now, don't get me wrong, smartphone addiction is something that affects all ages but at least with people over a certain age they have had experience of a life without being glued to the small screen.

Some of the new young people in my workplace who have grown up with smartphones and smart devices have the attention spans of gnats. No ability to problem solve things outside of looking things up on the internet, compulsively checking phones and thus only half-arsing their jobs, really poor abilities at reviewing and analysing documentation, sh*tty impulse control. We have three under 25 in my workplace who are absolute disasters - even though on paper they have good degrees.

It's understandable that young people starting full time work would have an adjustment phase, and we are used to that - but these latest intakes are different. The product of a life lived through small screens that has dulled every other f*cking sense they have.

Anyone else have problems with this in the workplace?

So my (F 30) parents (F 57 and M 58) live in Kildare, and I moved about an hour away from my parents about 3 years ago with my husband to the coast in meath. I absolutely love it by the sea and myself and my husband have really loved living here. It is a bit of a trek on the m1 and the m50 to visit my parents but I usually saw them once a week.

I would be the one to visit my parents all the time. They very rarely come to us, and when they do its always a fleeting visit (but maybe this is because we live in a small apartment) my mam in particular has always commented and moaned about how far away I live.

Fast forward to last year when I was pregnant (had quite a challenging pregnancy) I began to be able to visit less and the guilt I felt for not being able to go over as much started to mount.

We have gone over most weeks with our baby son to visit my parents, they have visited us a handful of times and its always a fleeting visit.

Anyways, now that our son is born we realised that we need a bigger place, and we are looking at a lovely house by the sea in Dublin. We would have friends living within 15 mins of here but would still be about 50 mins from my parents. But now my parents are really piling on the guilt saying that blood is thicker than water and we really should live close to them for them to help out with our son.

Another piece of the puzzle is my mam suffers a lot from anxiety and she has particular issues around traffic and being by herself so its hard for her to drive over. (This is not something she would easily admit to)

I can tell that my mam has spoken to other family members about this as I've had aunts try to talk to me about how important it is to live close to family when your children are young.

The whole topic is very tense and I am scared to bring it up around my parents now. They dont seem too interested in talking about the issue either. I just feel so guilty about it.

I still plan to visit with my son as much as possible at weekends, and overnights.

I feel terribly guilty but I just really love where we are looking to move by the sea, its a very aspirational place and I never dreamed I'd have the chance to live somewhere so beautiful. But on the other hand im also just scared it is going to be hard to not have my family very close for emergencies etc. Especially when I return to work. And im worried that my son wont see his grandparents that much if I dont move closer. All the travelling will be on me.

Am I making a mistake by wanting to live an hour away?

I go to a lot of mother and baby classes and my husband feels left out at times. The classes I go to are almost always mothers, and nobody interacts with the dads who are there. Are there any dedicated classes for dads with babies to connect with others in the same position?

Hello, so as the post says, i need help with finding potential medical records. According to my mother, I was diagnosed ADHD as a kid, but she doesn't remember where or when and certainly doesn't have anything saying I was diagnosed.

I was wondering if there is like a general place I could go to to find my records. If it helps, I would've had a medcard at the time.

Thank you for anything.

Is there any chance it will recover to the point of being a language a significant number of the population can speak like Welsh is currently? Maybe even a fully bilingual society the way that the Netherlands is?

It’s just so sad such a beautiful, ancient language is dying, especially because it lasted as the primary language until barely over a century ago.

Asking here cus I feel like it matters that I live in Ireland and not some nice sunny climate.

I (22f) am trying to declutter and my main issue is how much clothes I have.
I have a lot of clothes and I feel like I do wear the majority of them but I also recognise that I no longer have the space (or need) to own the amount I do.
I’m trying to figure out how much I should own of things I think half my problem is that I’m worried if I get rid of stuff I’ll need it and won’t have it at some point but I think if I had a concept of what a “typical” amount of clothes was I wouldn’t feel as stressed about not having so many.

TLDR: how many hoodies-trousers-skirts-shirts-dresses-T-shirts-tracksuits-pajamas. should I own.

side note: i know Im overthinking this but I’m also on the spectrum and so confused.
also I don’t want this to come across as spoiled/greedy or anything a lot of my clothes are hand me downs or paid for with my own money and they all fit me and are in pretty good condition hence how I ended up with so much

I just got a phone call from an Irish number, they said they were calling regarding the studio I enquired about earlier this week on daft ie. it was 11 pm in the evening btw, I checked my mail and number matches. they asked me dozen of personal questions like "do you smoke ? where do you live where your girlfriend works etc" I didn't tell him where I live obviously and said how does it matters but from my enquiry mail he knows where I and my couple works our names and age. they sounded a little psychopathic and now im anxious I might have told a bit too much of personal info to a stranger. Any recomendations? I called them back just now he answered said he doesn't work for any agency and he is an owner of "many many studios" he said his name was John but mail is Michael , while on web page it says Daniel.

Mine:

1. Henry Czerny (actor)-2007: i was walking around a corner near Dame Street, and nearly bumped into a man apparently in a rush. We exchanged looks and I realized it was himself, looking very wide eyed and dishevelled.

2. Phillip DeFranco (youtuber)- 2016: i was walking to the sugar club to see adam carolla, and recognised a chap vaguely who was walking with his missus. "Hey, your on youtube?!?" (I was pissed). He was very pleasant in fairness.

So long story short i’ve accumulated 5 penalty points as a novice driver with another 3 about to be added which brings me to 8 (7 is the limit for a novice) I’m not here to be scrutinised about why or how i got the points but just looking for advice. I’m a first year apprentice and driving is essential for my job. I’ve gotten the notice in the mail a few weeks ago and have until the 26th to pay the fine or it then goes to court. Now i’m wanting to challenge it so that i can stay on the road as long as possible maybe until i go for my phase 2 in collage where i wouldn’t need the car as much and then the 6 months off the road would be a lot less stressful.
Has anyone ever challenged penalty points or waited it out to go to court if so what was the outcome and how long could i potentially push back the 6 month suspension. Any help would be appreciated.

Hello all,

Looking for some advice/ assistance regarding mature student fees.

Currently 29, and have just been accepted to study as a mature student in UL.

I have lived in Australia for the past 4 years, and in order to be eligible for the free fees, I must have lived within the country for 3 out of the past 5 years.

My question is, how do they check this?

Hypothetically speaking, could I just advise them that ive only been abroad for the past 2 years?

Any and all advice is great appreciates as the non EU fees would rule out any ability to pursue future education.

Thanks in advance.

Looking to rent my first apartment with my twin and I've written a list of 20 questions or so for the landlord since the listing on daft doesn't specify much. I'm worried I won't get all of my questions answered, leading to a bad financial decision or I just leave the landlord in a bad mood, so I'm hoping I can get some absolute advice from folks here about what I should look into and where I can get answers.