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In a moment of weakness I shared n*ds with someone I thought was a safe man I really trusted him, that man has trust issues and so insecure because when I wanted to leave I didn't want to stay with a man like that he started threatening me about it and I found out that he filmed my videos using another phone bragging about how one of the videos shows my face clearly and he said that he will make sure to show it to everyone. The man lives in a foreign country but he comes here from time to time (like all immigrant Algerians) so he was confident about how I'm not gonna get him or the police will.

He deleted his msgs where he said all of that. and I only have his name and his number.

I'm afraid he will do what he said and show it to everyone I'm also afraid that لوكان نروح نشكي يديرها زكارة يقولك انا طفرت مالا خليها جي كيما جات

So what should I do? It's really stressing me and killing me inside and it made me lose my respect for myself cuz if I ever move on from it it will hunt me forever

PS: he said that he does that to every girl he knows to make sure she's stuck with him.

So.. in Algeria, is it possible to find a western-style relationship? Like living together for some time before marriage? Are men/women willing to do that, or they prefer to stay with their parents till the marriage?
I am someone who has european background, I have some experiences and that’s why i am asking

Edit: don’t mean to hurt anyone, just trying to reflect on my experiences and what mistakes I’ve possibly made in my relationships..

What qualities does he have to hold? Personality traits, character traits, financial status etc.

I showed a woman a picture she had sent me before in a discussion and she told me how come you have it?. She genuinely thought that men dont save the ”view once” pictures and videos.

Is this true?. To the women who do send those, do you think we dont save them?.

I'm being threatened by my ex ( sharing sensitive photos and videos and i got 🍇 by him many times since I was 16 yo and took videos of me ) idk what to do I've been like this for over 2 years since I wanted to break up cause I got fed up . I went to police dert complaint but its been more than 2 months now call no msgs

I'm thinking about suicide ngl I cant work or do anything without his approval or he'll come and beats me

I know that hijab is one of the aspects or should i even say obligations of being a good muslim and i can see clearly from that POV why it is important for a man to marry a hijabi wife, where the problem lies is that some of men are not religious their self… they allow themselves to smoke, skip prayers, listen to music… etc but when it comes to their wife they draw the line on hijab and you can say here that it’s purely for society related reasons.

A non hijabi girl can be very modest and elegant looking and doesn’t necessarily attract negative attention. I personally don’t wear the hijab but i’m very modest looking and i insist on not wearing tight or revealing clothes… would i be able to find someone who doesn’t insist on me wearing the hijab ? Or is it a lost cause ?

سلام

أنا طفلة في عمري 24 سنة، جامي دخلت في علاقة من قبل لأسباب دينية و شخصية و أصلا جامي كانو عندي مشاعر حب لشخص ما،

من صغري وأنا نحلم نتزوج و نعيش حياة زوجية سعيدة تأثرت بزاف بمحيطي وعائلتي لي أغلب علاقاتهم الزوجية ناجحة و الحمد لله،

مؤخرا اقتنعت بصعوبة أنه أبدا ما راح نلقا شخص مادخلش في علاقة و ماعندوش ماضي، و لأني شفت بزاف صديقات تزوجو عن حب و نوعا ما ندمو أو اختارو الشخص الخطأ، و أنا نحب نخمم بالمنطق قررت أنني نتزوج تقليدي بحكم أنو الحب و المشاعر راح تعميني

عن الشخص الصحيح و راح تخليني نتنازل على معايير مهمة في الزوج، استهلكت بزاف من محتوى " كيفية اختيار الشريك الصحيح" و تأثرت بزاف بفكرة المعايير...

المشكل أنه كل ما يتقدملي شخص نعاملو ك شريك مشروع و شغل راني ناناليزي ف سيفي نحكم ز

ورقة و ستيلو و نوازن السلبيات و الإيجابيات، معاملة خالية من المشاعر و الأحاسيس و في كل مرة ما نقتنعش بالشخص و نقول "لوكان يجيني شخص أفضل؟"

صحيح أنو حتى أنا مارانيش مثالية لكن مارهش عندي استحقاق و همي و مارانيش أصلا متأثرة بلي كوبل تاع السوشل ميديا، لكن مقبولة شكلا، متعلمة، و عندي بزاف نقاط إيجابية حابة نلقاها في شريكي لا أقل و لا أكثر...

دائما نلقا عيب مانقدرش نتقبلو...أقل مني في المستوى العلمي...مينداك المادي...أقل تديناا...فرق كبير في العمر...الخ، و مايبردش قلبي حتى نرفض و نعود ندخل في الدوامة تاع نتخيل الزوج اللي في راسي حتى يجي شخص آخر و نتصدم بالواقع و نتقلق و نرفضو ونعاود نولي للأحلام 🔄

و صراحة بدا يقلقني الأمر حاسة باللي ربما راني نراطي فرص و أشخاص مناسبين بهذا التفكير خصوصا أنو كل ما نكبرو كل ما يقلو الفرص الجميلة، وخطرات نقول لوكان راهو مكتوبي راهو يولي، و خطرات نقول ماراحش نتنازل على هذه المعايير يالوكان نبور ....

بانتلي أنو السلبية اللي في الزواج عن حب هي أيضا إيجابية، الشخص اللي يتنازل عن عيب في شريكه بحب راح يتصالح مع هذا العيب و يقدر يكمل معاه حياتو كامل، بينما في الزواج التقليدي مكانش مقابل لهذا التنازل ( مانعرف إذا فهمتوني؟؟؟)...

صراحة بدا يفقد الزواج في راسي الجمالية تاعو و راه ولا عفسة متعبة و فيها بزاف حسابات....و حاسة بلي ماراحش نقدر نمد الحب اللامشروط للشريك تاعي....و بديت أصلا نتخلا عن الفكرة هاذي...

هل أنا الوحيدة لي راني نحس هكا؟ هل المشكل في فكرة الزواج التقليدي ولا فيا؟ واش هو الحل؟

How do you find a compatible partner when you can't be honest about your beliefs ? i come from a super religious household that borders on extremism, if they ever find out im not a muslim you'll hear about me on the news in a new honor killing story xD i pray and wear hijab and do all the muslim things to avoid suspicion, but in the end i dont believe in islam

but when it comes to marriage i dont wanna deceive someone by acting religious when im not, and i also want to find someone who has similar beliefs to me, but discussing such beliefs is super dangerous and impractical for many reasons :

1- if he runs his mouth and tells my family about it i might get killed

2- most men in algeria think that a woman not being muslim makes her a cheap easy 304 who's down too do anything

3- if i do find a decent man who has the same beliefs as me, he has to do the same thing i do and pretend to be super religious so my family accepts him ..

i'm a little lost tbh and i'd love to know if anyone else has been in the same situation as me and ended up marrying the right person in the end

My question is for men: what makes someone "wife material" to you?

What qualities make you think "im definitely going to marry her"?

Do men actually care about body “flaws” on women?

Things like stretch marks, cellulite, scars, hyperpigmentation, especially in real relationships(marriage)

Do these things genuinely matter to most men or are women harsher on themselves than men are?

as a kid i always said i never wanna get married and i hate marriage and its disgusting etc

but now its all i can ever think about.. ever since i turned 19 i cant get it off my mind and its driving me a little bit more insane every year. im not sure how others are completely fine with waiting till 25 or even 30 to get married. at first i thought it was just a phase but i think its turning into a mind consuming obsession

Y'a deux types de mecs dans notre société, les très religieux " mode jalousie, les femmes doivent etres à la maison, leurs travailles c'est d'avoir des enfents et de prendre soins d'eux alors qu'il y'a des mecs avec un mode de vie et des pensées plus occidentaux, qui aiment etre libre aiment les voyages, les soirées, la romance.... Et ces deux differnets types des hommes algériens préfèrent deux types différents des femmes, les premiers préférés les fille mode "bent familya" les autres préfèrent les fille libres, civilisé, ouvertes d'esprit,....Une grande question qui nécessite une vrai réponse structurée et philosophique...

People are online all the time, and social media can be a good way to meet them if you’re an introvert like me.

The issue is, I’m scared the man is going to talk to other women, as easily as he approached me. I’m the type of person who keeps a small account and deletes people I don’t talk to. But for most men, from what I’ve seen, they like to keep their followers numbers up and most of the time, they are all women. It makes me feel like he’s not serious and I can’t trust him. And asking him to do something to show how serious he is about it, is impossible in the early stages, unless I want to appear controlling. But also I can’t trust him until he will.

And 99% of the time my intuition is right and the guy ends up being a jerk despite seeming calm, respectful, lowkey (not posting often etc…) in the beginning. I don’t know if it’s like a game to them, or if I’m the problem, but yeah I keep gaslighting myself in these situations and searching for excuses because their attitude switches overnight. Some say it’s because there is someone else who got their attention, and it could very much be the case.

I’d love to have your opinion and your own experiences when it comes to this. Should women even bother?

And also, why do men keep adding new female followers despite talking with you? Especially if they claim to be interested in you and talk for marriage purposes. You’d think they would stop looking elsewhere with that level of interest.

Hi everyone, I hope you're doing well.

This is probably a throwaway account, I'm using it because my main account is kinda known.

So today, me (22F) and my sister (32F) were all good, we texted our usual morning lovie dovie messages while she was at work and everything is fine. This week we were having guests, so today my parents and the guests went out and me and my sister were told to prepare dinner. When we came home from work, we had lunch then I asked her if she could make the dinner because I was extremely tired and a little bit sick ( and so was she ) she said okay I'll make dinner but you prepare the table, salad, and serve dinner later I said yay and thanked her for that and everything was ok, she told me to go to sleep so that I can rest for later. So after I woke up, she suddenly became cold. I tried to joke with her but she was تتشنف I thought maybe she was tired or something so I didn't care a lot. Later on, I went to the kitchen and picked some fruit to eat. She eventually started yelling at me saying that I'm making a mess and making the place dirty ( bear in mind that I'm the cleanest person in my family, and always asks me how am I so clean and organized and that she likes it, and the way i was eating my fruit was very clean I'm sure of this ) anyway I asked her not to yell at me then I just ignored her and left the kitchen. Later on, she asked me to start preparing the table I said I think it's still so early, I saw her starting to get angry so I thought ok let me just prepare it. I went to my room for a second just to shut down my pc and close the window, that's when she started yelling at me I think even neighbors heard her. I got so mad and went to her asking what the f is wrong and why is she yelling ? She said I told you to prepare the table and she started yelling very loud and raising her hands and she was very close to my face, I do not want to believe but it looked so much like she wanted to hit me. I tried to push her back and closed the kitchen door because my parents and the guests were expected to arrive at any moment and I didn't want them to hear her screaming, she went crazy when I closed the door and she almost hit me. I couldn't take it anymore and I started crying hysterically ( I think hormones were doing their job as well bcz I'm on my PMS phase) she said you didn't help me in anything and you left me doing everything alone I told her but that was our deal from the beginning she said no and started screaming again and I just couldn't stop, so I left to another room and was crying that's when she said " unbelievable how some people are experts at playing the role of a victim, you're narcissistic", I went into the room anyway and around 5 mins later my parents and the guests arrived, I felt a bigger urge to cry because now I'll have to wear a fake smile for the rest of the evening just to not let them notice anything + my sister kept teasing me by asking me to leave the kitchen and not help her because " she doesn't need me anymore " and kept doing victim gestures in front of my mother saying things like " I can't take it anymore I'm so tired 🥺" with this exact face.

I really don't know what I'm feeling exactly. I feel super sad because I felt like she disrespected me ( even tho I communicated this with her several times that I feel humiliated when she yells at me or tries to hit me and she promised that she will treat me better ). I feel angry because I didn't do anything that would hurt her. I feel confused because am I really playing the victim role ? And I feel opressed because I couldn't even express my feelings until now.

This post was just to vent, if you have a piece of advice or you can show support then please do.

Thank you for reading all of this.

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i'm not sure what to believe anymore cuz if its true then i want nothing to do with men ever and i'd rather die single ... it also feels dehumanizing to men and portrays them as less than human and purely controlled by lust

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Everytime i enter this platform, all i hear about is "marriage this", "marriage that",...

And despite me understanding the frustration that a lot of people are going through (the crave for intimacy, stability, love,.. or whatever u are seeking in a relationship)

I feel so left out of all of this because i genuinely don't want to get married, i barely had a crush and i ma totally uninterested... ( and before you ask yes i'm in my late 20s, maybe it's because i am woman sure, whatever argument you may have, i am willing to be understanding of it but this post isn't all about me)

I just want to know if there are people who feel like this too so feel free to share your experiences!

So I dated someone for a year and half , (we were a situationship for over a year prior, ik ew) so we can say we were talking for over 2-3years. I was seriously, it was a very respectful serious relationship, I thought we were on the same page, then in Nov 2025 a girl reached out to me telling me the lore that he kept from me.(she had all the proof , she also invited other people that were included in and all of them showed me evidence)

He basically lied about everything, kept things hidden from me, and most importantly cheated on me the entire time, went as far as talking shit about me to other girls..

Without wasting time, I texted him, ending things , blocked him everywhere not giving him a chance to give me excuses or anything cause nothing excuse what he did to me.

Then recently, almost 6 months of no contact , he suddenly reached out saying he needed to clarify things.

But he just blamed everything on me acting like a victim, fully refused to explain all the things I found out.... then he started talking to me as if nothing happened, then i thought about it for a while and told him to leave me alone and not reach out again.(for the record he was being extra nice while talking to me , it felt weird)

But ever since i stopped talking to him, I've been distracted and wondering why he suddenly decided to reach out yet he used zero efforts into "fixing" or talking it out? What was his goal