Should women even bother giving men on social media a chance?
People are online all the time, and social media can be a good way to meet them if you’re an introvert like me.
The issue is, I’m scared the man is going to talk to other women, as easily as he approached me. I’m the type of person who keeps a small account and deletes people I don’t talk to. But for most men, from what I’ve seen, they like to keep their followers numbers up and most of the time, they are all women. It makes me feel like he’s not serious and I can’t trust him. And asking him to do something to show how serious he is about it, is impossible in the early stages, unless I want to appear controlling. But also I can’t trust him until he will.
And 99% of the time my intuition is right and the guy ends up being a jerk despite seeming calm, respectful, lowkey (not posting often etc…) in the beginning. I don’t know if it’s like a game to them, or if I’m the problem, but yeah I keep gaslighting myself in these situations and searching for excuses because their attitude switches overnight. Some say it’s because there is someone else who got their attention, and it could very much be the case.
I’d love to have your opinion and your own experiences when it comes to this. Should women even bother?
And also, why do men keep adding new female followers despite talking with you? Especially if they claim to be interested in you and talk for marriage purposes. You’d think they would stop looking elsewhere with that level of interest.