u/beequiiet

Hi guys , i hope i don't get any judgment out of this

So im 23yo , was dating someone for three years , we fought a lot and ge had a lot of redflags but I always thought things would change with time and that everything gonna get fixed.

In November 2025 , few girls reached out to me , giving me full evidence of his cheating on me and talking shit about me.

So with no hesitation I broke up with him over texts , blocked him and never spoke of him again.

(For the record we study tg , and two days after breaking up i saw him with one of the girls he cheated on me with , and he directly went into mass following of insta models and actresses...)

Seen him doing this made me sure about my choice

Now, over 5 months of no contact , he suddenly reached out wanting to speak, I thought he was gonna Apologize and hold himself accountable but no, he fullt blamed everything on me but when i asked him to explain what I've found out (the girls....) he refused to explain saying it's in the past or giving stupid excuses. He didn't put any efforts into fixing/Apologizing.... nothing, he was talking as if nothing happened.

So i decided to step back and tell him to not reach me again and ever since he didn't.

Now im so distracted, thinking of him all the time , having conversations with him in my head (mostly me asking him about the things he did behind my back...) but ik it's not right

I don't understand why he suddenly reached out while he's still the same trash

And i feel ashamed for wanting to talk to him and fight him, it feels like i never got closure since i never discussed with him everything.

I still have a year left in uni and thinking about leaving the country if i had the chance to once I graduate.

Anyone here went to another country and started working directly with their diploma or studying extra years is a must ?

So I dated someone for a year and half , (we were a situationship for over a year prior, ik ew) so we can say we were talking for over 2-3years. I was seriously, it was a very respectful serious relationship, I thought we were on the same page, then in Nov 2025 a girl reached out to me telling me the lore that he kept from me.(she had all the proof , she also invited other people that were included in and all of them showed me evidence)

He basically lied about everything, kept things hidden from me, and most importantly cheated on me the entire time, went as far as talking shit about me to other girls..

Without wasting time, I texted him, ending things , blocked him everywhere not giving him a chance to give me excuses or anything cause nothing excuse what he did to me.

Then recently, almost 6 months of no contact , he suddenly reached out saying he needed to clarify things.

But he just blamed everything on me acting like a victim, fully refused to explain all the things I found out.... then he started talking to me as if nothing happened, then i thought about it for a while and told him to leave me alone and not reach out again.(for the record he was being extra nice while talking to me , it felt weird)

But ever since i stopped talking to him, I've been distracted and wondering why he suddenly decided to reach out yet he used zero efforts into "fixing" or talking it out? What was his goal