r/AITAH_unfiltered

I'm going to propose that this current state of affairs regarding boys, men and fathers is not accidental, I'm going to posit that this is actually planned as it stems from a very well known philosophy which in one form resulted in the extermination of over 80 Million Christian faith Russians, Communism or rather Bolshevism.

The Communist Manifesto 1848

Pivotal of 19th Century theory is of course Marx and Engels The Communist Manifesto (1848). The derivative theories of the Frankfurt School pushed the Overton window further. Erich Fromm, Leo Löwenthal and Theodor Adorno’s compatriots employed what would later be termed fourth generation warfare. A war of ideas which saw more stability in the work of Edward Bernays, as the destabilization of Western society gained further ground.

In Komunistka, No. 2, 1920,

The family is withering away not because it is being forcibly destroyed by the state, but because the family is ceasing to be a necessity. The state does not need the family, because the domestic economy is no longer profitable: the family distracts the worker from more useful and productive labour. The members of the family do not need the family either, because the task of bringing up the children which was formerly theirs is passing more and more into the hands of the collective. In place of the old relationship between men and women, a new one is developing: a union of affection and comradeship, a union of two equal members of communist society, both of them free, both of them independent and both of them workers. No more domestic bondage for women. No more inequality within the family. No need for women to fear being left without support and with children to bring up. The woman in communist society no longer depends upon her husband but on her work. It is not in her husband but in her capacity for work that she will find support. She need have no anxiety about her children. The workers’ state will assume responsibility for them. 

The Origin of the Family, Private Property and the State (1884)

"The oppression of women originates with the monogamous family, which imposes on women alone the obligation of fidelity. In turn, the monogamous family originates in order to guarantee the certainty of paternity with a view to the transmission of wealth by inheritance, thus in parallel with the emergence of private property. [...] Only the victory of the class struggle by the proletariat and the establishment of communism can, therefore, result in the emancipation of women."

The leaders of the Russian revolution saw, from the very beginning, in the family, as it existed in the capitalist world, one of the main centers of resistance against the realization of their revolutionary programs: the family presented itself to them as standing between the collectivity and the individual, as founded on private property and the domination of man over woman. The building of the new socialist society therefore demanded the struggle against the old family, against the customs and laws that regulated it, and in this struggle the Russian leaders showed themselves as determined and dogged as ever.

In 1918, a year after the Russian Revolution, divorce was liberalized and equal rights were granted to children born out of wedlock (the only one recognized by the state was civil marriage; religious marriage had only private value). Before the law, women achieved full equality with men. Two years later - in 1920 - abortion was legalized.

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In other threads here on MR, the statistics have been posted regarding the offspring of fatherless households does the Capitalist great advances in keeping the class structure; ironicly, because the NeoConservatives (read-arch Fabians) found that these offspring , traumatized as they sought relief in alcohol, cigarettes, promiscuity and every type of distraction. This they were more than willing to provide and profit from, in the Millions of US Dollars, British Pounds and any currency possible, as the ‘good’ (sarc) Nilus text had told them to. Indeed the Ambassador to Russia, Sir. Marsden translated from Sergyei Nilus a text so profane that although it was displayed in the British Museum and is a verified and true text, by the time of the 1920s hearings would occur in Congress and if it were not for the Balfour Declaration and those in Parliament who supported the 1917 Revolution, the horror that followed may have been prevented.

Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn delivered a scathing critique of the West in his 1978 Harvard commencement address, titled "A World Split Apart," where he declared that the West had suffered a "decline in courage" and was spiritually weakened by materialism and moral relativism.  He argued that the West, despite its freedom and prosperity, had lost the will to defend its values, becoming "weak and cowardly" in its response to totalitarianism, particularly Soviet aggression. 

He contended that Western society, obsessed with material well-being, had become unwilling to sacrifice for higher ideals. In his view, this moral decay manifested in political passivity, intellectual complacency, and a press that lacked responsibility—labeling ideas with ease and spreading superficial judgments. Solzhenitsyn warned that "no weapons, no matter how powerful, can help the West until it overcomes its loss of willpower."

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Below are excerpts from the Nilus text which were handed over via espionage during the early 1900s and translations obtained by British Ambassador to Russia, Sir. Marsden at that time.

9. "Our weapons are limitless ambitions, burning greed, merciless vengeance, hatreds and malice. We have fooled, bemused and corrupted the youth of the goyim cattle by rearing them in false principles and theories."

One may extrapolate this to passages on the subversion of education whic hare also included in the text.

13. "We shall distract the brainless heads of the goyim cattle with vain conceptions, fantastic theories, rotten amusements, games, pastimes, filthy passions (porn) etc . . . so they will be unable to use what little intellect our God has given them."

Drugs, idiotic entertainment, sports are all part of the distracitons.

18 "Criminals will be arrested on suspicion and we shall be literally and cruelly merciless"

How about subverting Common Law and Property Rights by removing men from their homes on the slander of an angry spouse?

AITAH (37F) for considering divorce from my husband (36m) because he thinks my fear of flying is a joke?
Here’s the situation:
I was given a pretty significant promotion in another state. The promotion title is significant and a HUGE step in my career but because the state is a little different, the pay is actually a decrease (roughly 10K annually before taxes). This isnt a huge a deal for us financially due to cost of living, however my husband actually refuses to see it as a promotion due to the decrease in pay, but I digress. He can easily transfer with his company with the same pay.

We have had to fly up to this area a few times now to check it out and look for houses to purchase. I HATE flying. Im actually quite terrified of flying. This is quite known. We have been together 10+ years. We don’t fly often. Once every few years. Today we had to fly up again for the second time in about two weeks. I didnt sleep at all. We had a very early flight.
I understand the fear of flying is irrational.

Right as the flight was about to take off, my husband started to sing to me (as a joke) “it’s going down, I’m yelling timber” over and over. Obviously I did not find this funny as I was already in a state of panic as I know the take off is one of the most dangerous parts of the flight. I was on the verge of tears. He told me to grow the fuck up and put his head phones in and started watching a movie on his phone. I started my music and calmed myself down and got through it. He was asleep within minutes.

I understand my fear is irrational as flying is a very safe way to travel. However is it too much to ask for husband of 10+ years to just hold my hand and say it’s going to be fine? Or should I just laugh at his dumb joke and just enjoy the flight?

When I tried to speak to him about it later he completely blew me off and told me I was being crazy.

AITA for considering divorce for how he wants to treat me during flights?

Edit:
His father passed on thanksgiving 2025. They were not close. He’s not close with any of his family.
He wasn’t always like this.
Not making excusing BY ANY MEANS. but just some facts.

I (27F) recently ended an 8-year friendship with my old college roommate (also 27F). I’ll call her Jane.
I met Jane through a Facebook group when I was looking for a roommate in college. We hit it off initially and decided to live together. But once we actually lived together, things were really difficult. She had just gone through a bad breakup and was very emotionally unstable—she even threatened to harm herself at one point. She would bring guys into our shared space without asking, which made me uncomfortable.

We ended up having to speak with a counselor through our RA. At the time, I tried to give her grace because I knew she was going through a lot—her breakup, family changes, figuring out her identity, and being away from home. I told myself I might be judging her too harshly.

Around that time, I had just started seeing a guy. I told Jane I didn’t want her asking for his number since things were new and uncertain. She said she understood. But one night while we were all hanging out, I left briefly to grab pizza, and later the guy told me she kept asking for his number and ended up texting him—supposedly about me, like what flowers I liked. At the time, I was young and convinced myself it was sweet.

Later that night, when we were drinking, she suggested we have a threesome. That crossed a line for me. The guy and I stopped seeing each other shortly after (we weren’t compatible long-term anyway).

The next year, we didn’t live together. I decided to stay more casual with dating, while she got into a relationship. I was genuinely happy for her. But she and her boyfriend would frequently ask to use my apartment for the weekend, suggesting I stay in her dorm so they could have privacy. I said no—it was my space, and I was paying for it.

One weekend when her boyfriend was visiting, they got a hotel instead. She invited me out, which was unusual. At one point, she tried to get me to hang out with them back at the hotel, but I was uncomfortable and wanted to stay out with friends. They both got upset with me and left early.

Later, a mutual friend told me that Jane had been trying to orchestrate a threesome between me and her boyfriend that weekend. I asked for proof, but there wasn’t any, so I brushed it off as possible drama between them.

Then COVID hit, and we drifted apart again. I actually preferred her as a long-distance friend. But over time, I noticed she would mostly reach out when she wanted to stay with me while attending concerts nearby. It started to feel like she was using me.
I kept my distance.

Eventually, I got into a serious relationship that lasted three years. When that ended, I was devastated. Jane checked in on me, and I appreciated it. Since I had isolated myself during that relationship, I felt like I had been a bad friend, so I tried to reconnect with her.
Not long after, Jane got engaged and asked me to be a bridesmaid. I was surprised but honored. She talked about valuing our friendship, and it felt nice to reconnect with female friendships again.

But the bachelorette party was a nightmare.
She constantly asked me to change outfits because they didn’t fit her “theme” or said I was drawing the wrong kind of attention. She controlled everything and watched us closely the entire time.
At one point, I had previously been gluten-free but had stopped that diet. Despite me telling her multiple times, she kept telling servers not to serve me gluten, so I kept getting restricted menus.

At bars, if I declined drinks from men, she would get visibly annoyed, then approach me and say things like, “you’re so hot—do you want a drink?” It made me really uncomfortable, especially since I was in a committed relationship and had already told her I disliked that kind of attention even as a joke.

She also snapped at another bridesmaid who said she was happy to be bonding with everyone, yelling, “You need to leave my friends alone.” It shocked all of us, and then she tried to backtrack.

One night, we were trying to clean up the house before checkout while watching a movie, and she suddenly started crying, saying her whole weekend was ruined because she “just wanted to watch movies.” Meanwhile, we had spent the entire day following her around taking pictures instead of actually enjoying the beach.

She was mean, controlling, and exhausting the entire trip.

At the wedding, she expected us bridesmaids to decorate because the planner wasn’t doing it. When we hesitated, she said, “You signed up to be a bridesmaid.” She even said this when some girls didn’t want to have professional hair and make up. She said we had to and we had to pay it ourselves.

Several of the bridesmaids seemed uncomfortable. One even pulled me aside and broke down, saying she felt Jane had treated everyone unfairly—not just during the bachelorette but in general. I told her we’d talk after the wedding and to just get through the day.

After the wedding, everything came out.

Jane had invited nearly every ex she’d ever had to the wedding. One of the groom’s groomsmen had previously been involved with her, and it turned out she had lied to her now-husband about how serious that fling had been. (The groom still doesn’t know)

Her own mother left after the wedding and stopped speaking to her, writing her a letter expressing disappointment in how she acted.

We also found out she had essentially ranked her friends, possibly based on appearance, what she can get out of them, who she is obsessed with, etc. which explained why she kept people from getting too close to each other.

I walked away from the experience feeling deeply disappointed.

After reflecting for months (and talking through it in therapy), I decided to end the friendship. Now she’s asking to talk, and I don’t want to.

Part of me feels guilty because we were friends for so long, and she was a good friend at times. But overall, I don’t think I can continue the relationship.

AITAH for not giving her an opportunity to speak?

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I (26F) am friends with my boyfriend’s best friend’s girlfriend (21F), “C.” She often sends me Snapchat videos venting about her boyfriend (24M), “R.” Sometimes I agree with her, but other times I think she overreacts. I usually tell my boyfriend about bigger issues since it involves his best friend.

For context, C seems to think we’re really close—like best friends—but I’ve honestly never felt that way. She always has her boyfriend with her when we hang out, and we don’t really spend time one-on-one. There was even a time we made plans with both of our boyfriends’ moms to go Christmas shopping, they took off work for it, and she bailed last minute to hang out with her boyfriend. I ended up just spending the day with both moms.

Recently, C found medication belonging to one of R’s exes at his house. She left, then went back when he asked to talk—but instead of talking, she locked herself in his room (he lives with his parents) and went through his things. She found old items from past relationships, including a high school love note.

I told her I thought that was an invasion of privacy and that she owed R (and honestly his parents) an apology. She refused and said R owed her an apology.

That really bothered me. It felt like she wasn’t coming to me for advice, just for validation to talk badly about him.

After that, I stopped engaging with her. She reached out asking what was wrong and said she “doesn’t do drama.” I told her I wasn’t mad, just needed space to process. She kept pushing me to talk even after I said I wasn’t ready. When I explained I was disappointed, she brushed it off as “not that serious” and said I misunderstood.

At that point, it felt like my feelings didn’t matter unless I agreed with her. It also made me question continuing any kind of relationship with her, because it feels like she just wants a yes-man. I don’t want that in my friendships—I’d rather have friends who call me out when I’m wrong, and I don’t feel like I’d ever get that from her.

This whole situation has been stressing me out. I don’t like constantly hearing someone talk badly about their partner—especially when it’s my boyfriend’s best friend—and I don’t feel comfortable being in the middle.

I still haven’t talked to her and honestly don’t know if I want to continue the friendship. What she did felt like a major boundary violation, and her refusal to take accountability is a big issue for me.

So… AITAH for distancing myself?

I am a F(18) and I have been studying for a medical entrance exam. But I never wanted to study for the exam because I never thought of becoming a doctor and I was never interested as well. My dad (52) forced me to study for this exam and it has been a huge burden on me. I have told him multiple times that I genuinely cannot study something I am not interested and he gets surprised every time I tell him that and he even blackmails me by saying that it was me who told him I wanted to study for it .My dad is also a narcissist and is a control freak. This is also the reason why I have been academically weak for the past few years.he hits me senseless till I bleed and till I physically cannot move and he also verbally abuses me . He told me to kms on my 15th birthday when I asked him for a pair of jeans which was not expensive at all but he later bought a toy airplane which was 5-6 times more expensive than the jeans. He has caused me a lot of trauma and has ruined me. He still hits me a lot till this day and calls me dumb for not getting good grades on something I am not interested in studying at all and immediately compares me to every single person he knows . I cry almost every night cuz of his abuse .I have went to school with multiple bruises all over my body. I tried to make him promise me that he won’t hit me again but just laughed it off. He also once told me that being born a woman is pointless . I have been disrespected by my dad throught my life and I don’t know how to set boundaries with my dad. He genuinely thinks that he can control me and he also believes that things should only go his way. I am so mentally disturbed and overstimulated by my dad. I have attempted suicide multiple times but I was not fully brave. I genuinely think I am depressed and I think I also have other mental issues.How do I get away from his abuse?I feel hopeless

(Im sorry if my grammar is bad because English isn’t my native language 😭)