AITAH (37F) for considering divorce from my husband (36m) because he thinks my fear of flying is a joke?
Here’s the situation:
I was given a pretty significant promotion in another state. The promotion title is significant and a HUGE step in my career but because the state is a little different, the pay is actually a decrease (roughly 10K annually before taxes). This isnt a huge a deal for us financially due to cost of living, however my husband actually refuses to see it as a promotion due to the decrease in pay, but I digress. He can easily transfer with his company with the same pay.
We have had to fly up to this area a few times now to check it out and look for houses to purchase. I HATE flying. Im actually quite terrified of flying. This is quite known. We have been together 10+ years. We don’t fly often. Once every few years. Today we had to fly up again for the second time in about two weeks. I didnt sleep at all. We had a very early flight.
I understand the fear of flying is irrational.
Right as the flight was about to take off, my husband started to sing to me (as a joke) “it’s going down, I’m yelling timber” over and over. Obviously I did not find this funny as I was already in a state of panic as I know the take off is one of the most dangerous parts of the flight. I was on the verge of tears. He told me to grow the fuck up and put his head phones in and started watching a movie on his phone. I started my music and calmed myself down and got through it. He was asleep within minutes.
I understand my fear is irrational as flying is a very safe way to travel. However is it too much to ask for husband of 10+ years to just hold my hand and say it’s going to be fine? Or should I just laugh at his dumb joke and just enjoy the flight?
When I tried to speak to him about it later he completely blew me off and told me I was being crazy.
AITA for considering divorce for how he wants to treat me during flights?
Edit:
His father passed on thanksgiving 2025. They were not close. He’s not close with any of his family.
He wasn’t always like this.
Not making excusing BY ANY MEANS. but just some facts.