u/sawakoniko

a few weeks ago, i posted here asking for advice on how to relief my symptoms from my first yeast infection. im very very happy to say that i have finally recovered fully and i wanted to share both what my symptoms were and how i relieved it for those who'd need it because the resources that help women be informed about this is so scarce (at least for me)

symptoms were:

• severe itching from the inside. it's like something was tickling the walls in your vulva. and you only feel relief when youre washing it or moving around to get some friction
• burning when you pee—the pain varies on whether you took your medication already or you havent. i find that not taking them yet did not cause that much of a sting
• thick, white discharge that doesn't smell either on your underwear or on your vulva
• bumpy, goosebump-like texture in your labia minora (inner lips)
• reddish labia

what helped relief my symptoms and helped me heal:

• OTC medication (i used the monistat 3-day treatment). please use the 7-day treatment if it is your first time. while the 3-day treatment did do its job, it caused me so much discomfort and prolonged pain because of how concentrated the medication was.
• DO NOT wash it with any kinds of soap, only warm water. you can use unscented soap around your outer lips and pubic area but please dont put it anywhere near your inner lips (labia minora)
• wash with warm water every time you pee. tedious at it sounds, this one helped me the most (only when you have access ofc!)
• please avoid using wipes as well regardless if they're specifically for feminine hygiene or not
• avoid having sex; if you do want to, please please use a ton of lube and, if having sex with a penis-owning individual, have them use a condom
• drink plenty of water
• eat yogurt everyday! or any food high in probiotics (kimchi, kombucha, kefir, etc) it helps restore healthy bacteria and reduce candida fungus overgrowth
• try not to eat any sugar as it feeds the yeast
• scrape off the discharge with wet q-tips. this is the oddest thing i did but it helped wonders. essentially, my partner dipped q-tips on warm water and scraped off the discharge. while i obsessively cleaned my lady-friend everyday, i still couldn't get the discharge off it makes sense because 1) i was scared of making it worse, and 2) i couldnt see that far because im plus size. we did this every night until it stopped hurting when i pee
• if possible, do not wear any bottoms at home (yes, including underwear). avoid wearing underwear whenever possible. if you do need to wear underwear, make sure it's cotton and it's loose. DO NOT wear underwear when it's still wet. let it dry completely as moisture aids with candida growth
• maintain the routine you build for the next three days AFTER feeling relief. so if you stopped feeling itchy and irritated on a monday, keep doing everything you have done to heal until thursday

i hope this helps someone!

hi all. so im rewatching the big bang theory for the 4-5th time and it got me thinking, is sheldon a good example of what asexuality is? im only at season 2 and it's been a while since my last rewatch so i may not be remembering right, but he never felt any attraction towards other people, right? he only started being sexual with amy when they were a lot closer and have formed quite the bond in all aspects?

anyway. is he a good representation of aces or just another what-could-have-been character messed up by tv show writing?

hi everyone! so my hubby decided to finally start streaming his gameplay on twitch. he's been working so hard to set up his account and prepare his streams and i want to support him! i want to help him increase his audience but i dont actually know how twitch works.

i guess i just wanted like tips or tricks you guys can give me so i can help him attract more people to watch him? im handling his instagram and his youtube channel dedicated to his twitch streams so i wanna do a great job at it.

his channel is focused on quiet gameplay (i dont know the genre but he plays valorant, enshrouded, minecraft, call of duty, etc) + music (like he plays vibey music while he plays)

edit: i'll be editing his streams to post on instagram and youtube! what do gamers usually look for when they're watching those type of contents? like do you prefer the clips being edited to match a hype song, or summary/short clips of good gameplay?

hello sa inyong tatlo.

kamusta na kayo? ang tagal ko na kayo di nakikita't nakakausap. sana masaya na kayo ngayon sa buhay niyo. k, kamusta mga travels mo? masaya ka na ba sa work mo ngayon? y, how's married life treating you? i stopped learning korean since you left. s, halos araw araw pa rin kita nakikita sa work. proud ako sayo kasi ang taas na ng narating mo, pero nasasaktan pa rin ako pag nadadaanan kita't kailangan ko magkunwari na hindi tayo magkakilala.

it's been four years since i was last with you girls. four years since we last hung out as "girlfriends" like rachel, phoebe, and monica. i really thought you girls were My Girls forever. i thought i'd have the chance to actually—finally—brag about my love life after being single and complaining about it for eight years. i thought we'd have regular girls' night after college, have our significant others be friends. kaso wala eh. hanggang ngayon hindi ko pa rin naiintindihan yung dahilan niyo. one day we were all okay, the next day you guys were talking in a groupchat without me in it. one day i was so excited to plan our christmas party, the next day i see your little christmas party with just the three of you. wala naman ako ginagawa sa inyo. i did my best to be a supportive friend. i reached out constantly. i kept trying. and yet... and yet you girls still decided to... not cut me off because you were too much of a coward, but rather deliberately ignore me and even going as far as saying na kasalanan ko bakit di niyo na ako bet kasama. pero nung tinanong ko kung ano ba ginawa ko sa inyo, wala kayo kibo.

do you think of me sometimes the way i think of you often? do you remember me on my birthday the way i draft a birthday msg for you when midnight comes on the day of your birth? do you regret doing what you did to me? do you miss me and our friendship sometimes? or was that all a lie? did you all just become friends with me because i was useful?

despite the pain you caused me and all the tears i wasted because of you three, i still wish you the best. i hope that life is kinder to you now. and honestly, if one day you find yourself wanting to talk to me again, know that my instagram dms is open. and i will welcome you like the past four years never happened. i hope you girls know that despite everything, you will always have a friend in me (wow toy story yarn? haha)

take care, girlie pops. stay safe.

- n

hi everyone! my partner and i are hoping to go camping this summer. it's my first time and im genuinely nervous. im not good with outdoors, and im a bit nitpicky. my partner has had some camping experience but it was from years ago. any advice for me? (from the women especially like which products did you pack with you, do i treat this like any regular trip or should i leave my skincare at home etc). also, do you guys have any places you can suggest? we're hoping to not spend so much since budget is tight. not too crowded, has a proper bathroom with a working toilet available (if possible), and has a great sunset/sunrise view you can walk/hike to. thanks so much!!

edit: we're from toronto! we're hoping to use a tent instead of staying in a cabin or RV etc. the distance doesn't really matter much for us, we're really just after the experience! our bigger concern is how much it's cost lol

kakastart ko lang sa reddit HAHAHA i finally gave in. may gusto ako ipost sa isang subreddit and they're always deleting it (i tried posting twice na huhu) and they keep saying smth about karma. ano ba yun??? ang alam ko lang na karma yung good/bad karma HAHAHAHA

(pls be kind ive been trying to read abt it pero di ko talaga gets. di pa ata gising diwa ko hahaha)

A few days ago, i posted on the asexual subreddit questioning if i am still ace. Because ever since i met my now partner, i find myself actively wanting to have sex with him and am very sexually attracted to him. But before meeting him, i have identified myself as asexual for three or so years. Wanting to still call myself ace while also having a high sex drive for and because of him makes me feel shameful for even identifying myself as an asexual. I have been pondering on the possibility of me being demisexual but the thing is, sex isn’t really something i “crave” for a lack of a better word. Like, yes i have an insatiable sex drive because of my partner and i have been more active in masturbating (also because of him), but if i were to be asked to not have sex with him or to not pleasure myself, i’d be like “cool, can i still do my crafts?” I also find myself dissociating sometimes when we’re having sex. Like one minute i’ll be in pleasure nirvana and then the next i feel disgust that our bodies are touching and just… essentially have an out of body experience while thinking about pizza or how to make glass bead bracelets.
The whole “am i just a very closed off, traumatized allo” argument came from one of the comments of my post from aforementioned ace subreddit. Basically, i was SA’d by my ex from ages 14-19 and it did not register to me that it was SA because when i was exposed to the word “r^pe” at age 7/8 my father simply explained that sex and r^pe is the same when youre married. I also was exposed to porn at a very early age so the line between consensual and nonconsensual was very fuzzy for me until i reached the age of 20 (im currently 26) so the redditor i was talking to abt this suggested that my aloofness to sex may just be my trauma all along.
Idk i feel so lost and i feel like i dont know myself anymore. Quarter life crisis is real i suppose (said jokingly bc i use humour as a coping mechanism)

before i (26F) met my partner (27M) now, i never had sex with anyone. despite actively masturbating and even went as far as buying myself a dildo, i was incredibly repulsive with the idea of having sex with another person. i hated the idea of someone touching me or seeing me naked. for the longest time i thought it was just my insecurities. and then i noticed that i never really agreed or disagreed with friends whenever they'd say that someone was "hot" or that they're getting "wet" when they see someone attractive. i never understood what that meant. how do you see someone and think "yeah i wanna do it with them" without so much as a hello to them? the more i thought about what "normal" people do (sex-wise) the more disturbed and out of place i felt. and then i came across a word that changed my life forever. asexuality. i researched about it obsessively, read every article i can find and talked to strangers i saw online who claimed they were ace. the more i learned about it, the more i started feeling like i maybe i wasn't as alienated as i thought.

i, however, did not immediately accept the idea that i might be asexual because, as i mentioned, i masturbate often. i watch porn obsessively. i have a damn dildo. the posts i see don't talk about that at all. i couldn't possibly be asexual with how hypersexual i was. i told myself the same lie over and over again, "maybe i just haven't met the right person yet."

until i saw this one tweet that said (non verbatim) "life is hard for an asexual who experienced sexual exposure at a young age. you identify as asexual but you act like a whore". then it clicked. i was exposed to porn and the concept of r^pe at a very young age (no, i wasn't graped but i saw an article about it when i was 7, asked my dad what it meant, and he said something along the lines of "it's just sex it's something couples do, don't read that you're too young" so i couldn't tell the difference between consensual and nonconsensual sex until i was 20). i got SA'd by my ex in our relationship from ages 14 to 19. said ex forced me to watch porn when i was 14 when i didnt even know how to kiss. i realized then that my "hypersexuality" was from what i went through and not my "sexuality" for a lack of a better word.

so from ages 21 through 23, i was confident that i was asexual. yes, my libido is high, but i am still ace. i've come to terms with it. when i met my partner at 23 (going 24) i was clear to him that i am ace and that i might never wanna have sex with him ever again after trying it a couple of times. it only took me a few tries to realize that i love having sex. not in general, just with him.

4 years into the relationship and i find myself much more... sexual/sensual. i love having sex with my partner, i initiate often. i masturbate nearly everyday if we can't have sex. everyday there's something sexual going on. and it got me thinking, can i still call myself asexual despite this? am i now demi-sexual? am i completely out of the umbrella now? i feel like im insulting fellow aces whenever i claim that im ace but as soon as i go home i drop my pants and do the horizontal tango. i try not to think of it too much but the idea has been so prominent as of late. am i no longer asexual? was the whole asexuality a "phase"? can i still be asexual despite the high libido towards my partner? i dont feel sexual attraction towards others the way i feel it for my partner, but now i sometimes find myself seeing a photo of a conventionally attractive person and going a little feral over it, like when an allo sees someone they find hot. i feel so ashamed sometimes for even identifying as ace still. but at the same time, thinking that i shouldnt identify myself as asexual anymore breaks my heart. i dont know what to do to help me figure this out. i know they always say that no one else can help you identify yourself but you, but at this point, i've been in such a roundabout thought cycle that im just hoping someone spoonfeeds me the answer, or at least hands me bowl to eat from.

any input will be immensely helpful and appreciated!! im sorry for the long post, i didnt realize how pent up these feelings were until i started typing.

hi everyone! this is my first time with reddit so i apologize in advance if i do anything wrong ><

i (27F) just got my first yeast infection two weeks ago. before that, i was being a little careless with my friend down there. didn't clean up after doing the horizontal tango (i was dead tired and fell asleep before i could even stand up to go to the bathroom) then was followed with my period the next day (i used the thick, diaper-like pads that i bought on sale from Shoppers Drug Mart) where i religiously cleaned my hooha with feminine wipes every time i changed my pads. around day 4 or 5 i started feeling an unusual irritation down there so i cleaned it more rigorously. i was hoping that the irritation/itchiness would finally end once my period was done but instead it became so much worse to the point where my only relief was taking a cold shower. i thought it was just an aftershock or smth from the period so i tried to just... do my usual routine.

i had schmex about 2-3 more times with my partner before i realized that the irritation was not fading away and instead was getting worse. i've always had terrible fear with doctors so i consulted chatgpt and google and i've concluded that i have a yeast infection. because i was low on budget, i bought the monistat 3-day treatment last wednesday (i did not do enough research and only realized two days ago that this was not the way to go since it's my first time). my partner (god bless him) helped me apply it since i was nervous to do it myself. we finished the treatment last friday (5 days since the symptoms started) and while the itchiness is gone, my labia minora (right side) is still very irritated. i can't sit properly in the office because putting weight on it for too long causes pain. peeing is absolute torture because it feels like im getting cut open in that part every time.

at the moment of writing, it has been 7 days since i finished treatment. there is very little improvement in my pain when peeing. i stopped wearing underwear at home for 5 days now, switched to cotton panties, put cold treatment on my lady friend everyday after work, rinse myself at home every after peeing, eating yogurt everyday, and haven't washed with soap for three days now. i'm getting frustrated and frankly very devastated. i feel like a failure of a woman for not being able to heal this quicker than expected. i still am very hesitant to go to the doctor but i am thinking of maybe going to a pharmacist and ask for diflucan or boric acid since i heard that's effective.

any help or advice would be greatly appreciated! thank you so much and im sorry for the chunky paragraphs, i wasnt sure what was too much info. i thought that maybe laying everything out can maybe help you guys with better advice than what i see on google/chatgpt.

hi everyone! this is my first time with reddit so i apologize in advance if i do anything wrong ><

i (27F) just got my first yeast infection two weeks ago. before that, i was being a little careless with my friend down there. didn't clean up after doing the horizontal tango (i was dead tired and fell asleep before i could even stand up to go to the bathroom) then was followed with my period the next day (i used the thick, diaper-like pads that i bought on sale from Shoppers Drug Mart) where i religiously cleaned my hooha with feminine wipes every time i changed my pads. around day 4 or 5 i started feeling an unusual irritation down there so i cleaned it more rigorously. i was hoping that the irritation/itchiness would finally end once my period was done but instead it became so much worse to the point where my only relief was taking a cold shower. i thought it was just an aftershock or smth from the period so i tried to just... do my usual routine.

i had schmex about 2-3 more times with my partner before i realized that the irritation was not fading away and instead was getting worse. i've always had terrible fear with doctors so i consulted chatgpt and google and i've concluded that i have a yeast infection. because i was low on budget, i bought the monistat 3-day treatment last wednesday (i did not do enough research and only realized two days ago that this was not the way to go since it's my first time). my partner (god bless him) helped me apply it since i was nervous to do it myself. we finished the treatment last friday (5 days since the symptoms started) and while the itchiness is gone, my labia minora (right side) is still very irritated. i can't sit properly in the office because putting weight on it for too long causes pain. peeing is absolute torture because it feels like im getting cut open in that part every time.

at the moment of writing, it has been 7 days since i finished treatment. there is very little improvement in my pain when peeing. i stopped wearing underwear at home for 5 days now, switched to cotton panties, put cold treatment on my lady friend everyday after work, rinse myself at home every after peeing, eating yogurt everyday, and haven't washed with soap for three days now. i'm getting frustrated and frankly very devastated. i feel like a failure of a woman for not being able to heal this quicker than expected. i still am very hesitant to go to the doctor but i am thinking of maybe going to a pharmacist and ask for diflucan or boric acid since i heard that's effective.

any help or advice would be greatly appreciated! thank you so much and im sorry for the chunky paragraphs, i wasnt sure what was too much info. i thought that maybe laying everything out can maybe help you guys with better advice than what i see on google/chatgpt.