u/sass_queen123

I feel like I cant be happy romantically if im not happy financially. I make a decent amount of money. More than most women or even men my age make. But I see a lot more in my potential. I tried talking to guys but the feeling of opening up to anyone is unsetlling because i know I want to make even more money before im comfortable dating someone.
But it gets very very lonely, ive been single for 2 years now.

I know it’s all in my head and money is not the main reason why someone should be dating me or why i should be dating someone. It’s nothing materialistic.

What should i do? Any advice? I want advice from men.

I got on the app without knowing how karma, votes etc work. It’s quite a struggle, cause i cant post pretty much anywhere or comment.

It’s quite unwelcoming and overwhelming for a new user. Since im unable to do any interactions, how do i find my space here? And how does this work?

Can you let me know when i will be able to post into subs that are actually interactive?

I feel like I cant be happy romantically if im not happy financially. I make a decent amount of money. More than most women or even men my age make. But I see a lot more in my potential. I tried talking to guys but the feeling of opening up to anyone is unsetlling because i know I want to make even more money before im comfortable dating someone.
But it gets very very lonely, ive been single for 2 years now.

I know it’s all in my head and money is not the main reason why someone should be dating me or why i should be dating someone. It’s nothing materialistic.

What should i do? Any advice? I want advice from men.

I feel like I cant be happy romantically if im not happy financially. I make a decent amount of money. More than most women or even men my age make. But I see a lot more in my potential. I tried talking to guys but the feeling of opening up to anyone is unsetlling because i know I want to make even more money before im comfortable dating someone.
But it gets very very lonely, ive been single for 2 years now.

I know it’s all in my head and money is not the main reason why someone should be dating me or why i should be dating someone. It’s nothing materialistic.

What should i do? Any advice?

My ex blames me for his life not working out. 25F & 25M. Need your opinion.

My ex (25M) and i (25F) dated on and off for about 4 years. We practically grew up into adulthood together. We both were 19 when we started.

He is an avoidant & i have anxious attachment. Within 4 months of our relationship we went through things personally (a close death in his family & me dealing with my parents and wanting to get out of the house)

We started with long distance but eventually i moved to his city. He started avoiding me more. Any small inconvenience happens and he would avoid me. I would have to beg him to meet me once a month. He would not own upto our relationship too. He would tell everyone he is single. I held everything in but it made me very anxious. This kept on going for 2.5 years.

After which i decided i need to step up for myself, focus on work. And i started moving on. I met a guy and he also somewhere made me realise that i was a fool wasting time on him. (I agreed then but the guy i feel really manipulated me). To some extent i needed it but not that much.

I was fully focused on work always & my ex did not work, he would do things here and there but always lose focus or blame it on his parents for not being able to do much cause they’re controlling and it doesnt leave him space to grow in what he wants.

My ex wanted me back the moment he knew there was another guy in the picture now. And i did go back to him. But the same avoidant behaviour started repeating, only this time i stood up for myself. I asked for what i wanted, how i wanted to be treated.
I was struggling a lot with hectic work and emotions, he would not show up for me, i started getting panic attacks because of it (i know it was because of it because ive never had them again post our breakup).

I wanted to get out of the relationship badly and i wasn’t able to leave until i knew i had something to be guilty of. So i asked my friend (m) to just hold me and sleep one day when i had a panic attack.
I started feeling guilty of what happened and i broke up. I also told everything to my ex a week later.

Cut to everything (this post is getting too long + there are many in betweens of back and forth fighting & struggling)

Today he comes to me and blames me for everything that’s gone down with him. Why he doesnt have a career, his health. I felt really bad cause i loved this guy a lot.
I also don’t understand that how can someone not work for 4 years (very minimal effort put) and then blame it on someone else when in the first place they never tried.

And all along ive had a career, built towards it dedicatedly. (He calls it my fairyland) and i am deeply offended.

Is it really okay?

My ex blames me for his life not working out. 25F & 25M. Need your opinion.

My ex (25M) and i (25F) dated on and off for about 4 years. We practically grew up into adulthood together. We both were 19 when we started.

He is an avoidant & i have anxious attachment. Within 4 months of our relationship we went through things personally (a close death in his family & me dealing with my parents and wanting to get out of the house)

We started with long distance but eventually i moved to his city. He started avoiding me more. Any small inconvenience happens and he would avoid me. I would have to beg him to meet me once a month. He would not own upto our relationship too. He would tell everyone he is single. I held everything in but it made me very anxious. This kept on going for 2.5 years.

After which i decided i need to step up for myself, focus on work. And i started moving on. I met a guy and he also somewhere made me realise that i was a fool wasting time on him. (I agreed then but the guy i feel really manipulated me). To some extent i needed it but not that much.

I was fully focused on work always & my ex did not work, he would do things here and there but always lose focus or blame it on his parents for not being able to do much cause they’re controlling and it doesnt leave him space to grow in what he wants.

My ex wanted me back the moment he knew there was another guy in the picture now. And i did go back to him. But the same avoidant behaviour started repeating, only this time i stood up for myself. I asked for what i wanted, how i wanted to be treated.
I was struggling a lot with hectic work and emotions, he would not show up for me, i started getting panic attacks because of it (i know it was because of it because ive never had them again post our breakup).

I wanted to get out of the relationship badly and i wasn’t able to leave until i knew i had something to be guilty of. So i asked my friend (m) to just hold me and sleep one day when i had a panic attack.
I started feeling guilty of what happened and i broke up. I also told everything to my ex a week later.

Cut to everything (this post is getting too long + there are many in betweens of back and forth fighting & struggling)

Today he comes to me and blames me for everything that’s gone down with him. Why he doesnt have a career, his health. I felt really bad cause i loved this guy a lot.
I also don’t understand that how can someone not work for 4 years (very minimal effort put) and then blame it on someone else when in the first place they never tried.

And all along ive had a career, built towards it dedicatedly. (He calls it my fairyland) and i am deeply offended.

Is it really okay?