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How’s life? How’s your kid?

What do you love about having one child?

What are some challenges?

Would love to hear about the highs and lows!

I have one child. We love him to bits and I love being a mom.

We’re at the point where we are considering having another child. My husband has said before I got pregnant with my son that he’ll likely only want one child. I was open to that, although (as many other people) always kinda imagined having two children.

My husband has 3 siblings and I have one. He’s close with one of this brothers, but not with his other two. He has a really rough childhood (abuse and neglect by his mom, dad in and out of his life) and doesn’t really see the value in family support - since he’s never really experienced it. He says he’s closer to his friends than he is to his family, and doesn’t see having additional children as being support for our son down the line.

I love my brother and we are pretty close. Sometimes I worry we’d be doing my son a disservice by giving him a smaller (but potentially stronger) immediate family by not having more children.

I daydream of being pregnant again, I love looking at old photos of my son and seeing how much he’s grown. I imagine him being an amazing big brother and them playing and having fun growing up.

Logically I can’t get past the “pros” of only having one child… financially, emotional capacity, more sleep (our son has never been a great sleeper), not having to worry about being fair, being able to focus resources on only one child, still having time for my career and marriage….

Just wondering what other peoples thoughts are objectively on my situation. My husband is leaning towards being one and done, and of course we both need to be on board.

Thanks all!

I have one child. We love him to bits and I love being a mom.

We’re at the point where we are considering having another child. My husband has said before I got pregnant with my son that he’ll likely only want one child. I was open to that, although (as many other people) always kinda imagined having two children.

My husband has 3 siblings and I have one. He’s close with one of this brothers, but not with his other two. He has a really rough childhood (abuse and neglect by his mom, dad in and out of his life) and doesn’t really see the value in family support - since he’s never really experienced it. He says he’s closer to his friends than he is to his family, and doesn’t see having additional children as being support for our son down the line.

I love my brother and we are pretty close. Sometimes I worry we’d be doing my son a disservice by giving him a smaller (but potentially stronger) immediate family by not having more children.

I daydream of being pregnant again, I love looking at old photos of my son and seeing how much he’s grown. I imagine him being an amazing big brother and them playing and having fun growing up.

Logically I can’t get past the “pros” of only having one child… financially, emotional capacity, more sleep (our son has never been a great sleeper), not having to worry about being fair, being able to focus resources on only one child, still having time for my career and marriage….

Just wondering what other peoples thoughts are objectively on my situation. My husband is leaning towards being one and done, and of course we both need to be on board.

Thanks all!

I have one child. He’s 15mo old and our hands are full. Me and my husband work full time, and have some support from my mom to help with watching him the occasional Saturday when we have to have a date night.

I feel like I’m at max capacity. My son has always had issues with sleep. He still wakes up a few times a night and I’m tired. My day doesn’t stop. From daycare drop off and pick up, work, playing with my son, cleaning the house, making dinner, having a moment for myself to read a book or watch a show. And my husband does lots of chores too. We both work hard. The idea of having another kid? HOW?!

I understand as he gets older he’ll be more independent, but I feel like the challenges will just change. Instead it’ll be about getting him to activities and sports.

I can’t help but feel like something is wrong with me for feeling at my limit. Parents for generations have usually had more than one child and I have no clue how.

To clarify, I LOVE being a mom and I love my son. Best thing we ever did was have him.

I have one child. He’s 15mo old and our hands are full. Me and my husband work full time, and have some support from my mom to help with watching him the occasional Saturday when we have to have a date night.

I feel like I’m at max capacity. My son has always had issues with sleep. He still wakes up a few times a night and I’m tired. My day doesn’t stop. From daycare drop off and pick up, work, playing with my son, cleaning the house, making dinner, having a moment for myself to read a book or watch a show. And my husband does lots of chores too. We both work hard. The idea of having another kid? HOW?!

I understand as he gets older he’ll be more independent, but I feel like the challenges will just change. Instead it’ll be about getting him to activities and sports.

I can’t help but feel like something is wrong with me for feeling at my limit. Parents for generations have usually had more than one child and I have no clue how.

To clarify, I LOVE being a mom and I love my son. Best thing we ever did was have him.

I’m in my 30s, and have a very sweet little boy. My husband and I are pretty sure we won’t be having any more children, due to many reasons (financial, physical, emotional bandwidth, time for our marriage, we both work full time).

I am pretty confident we can give my son a fulfilling childhood without siblings, and don’t believe siblings are automatic best friends for life.

I do worry I’ll regret having such a small family one day… maybe the concern over my son feeling alone when we’re older (although I hope he has friends and his own family one day).

It does feel like the right decision now, but I wonder from those who have experienced this more down the line. Any regrets? Any advice?

Thanks so much

Me and my husband have siblings, but we are only planning to have one child. There are so many pros to being “one and done” as a parent… I’m hoping to hear some tips to keep in mind from people who grew up without siblings.

My son is still young (14mo) and I went back to work full time when he turned 1. Aside from the occasional wave of guilt I feel when someone says “it must be so hard for you to be away from him” when I really started feel better since being back to work, things are going well.

My spouse and I are pretty sure we are “one and done” for many reasons (financial, physical, emotional capacity, ongoing lack of sleep). But I have lingering wonder of what it would be like to have one more child. I feel like in my heart I could have one more, but my brain says to stick with my one. My husband is on the fence too.

So how are you doing with your only?

Edit: just wanted to mention that I love being a mom. Having our son has been the best thing we’ve ever done. I just realized my post sounded a little negative so wanted to make it clear hahaha