r/AskWomenOver60

I am 62 and been with my partner for six years and we married two years ago. We are now 'separated under one roof' and will put the house on the market soon. He is my second husband. There were SO MANY red flags right from the moment we started living together, but I loved him and WANTED the dream of growing old together. He is highly verbally abusive and this kept escalating and EVERYTHING, every disagreement, every fight, is my fault (apparently). I realised I did not feel safe growing old with this man. There is so much more, I could tell story after story but what's the point. Anyway, even though we currently share a house and he is sort of behaving himself and getting on with completing the renovation prior to sale, I am feeling incredibly lonely. I keep my distance from him (translation - I hide in my room) and I can't keep emotionally dumping on my relatively new friends as they are all married women and busy with their own lives. I'm in a small town where there's hardly anything to do. This is a town he convinced me to move to leaving behind friendships in Perth. Even before leaving he had pulled me away from my friends, he just didn't like anyone and influenced me away from them. I am seeing a psychologist at the moment who is helping me see how manipulated and controlled I have been. I feel I'm on hold right now, unable to make plans because I don't know what my financial situation will be until after the house sells. I may even be homeless if I can't find a rental or can't afford to buy a home. Any suggestions please on how I deal with the overthinking and inner loneliness?

I have a fuzzy face. A few extra dark and prickly chin and mustache hairs I try to stay on top of with plucking, but my entire cheeks are covered with light, fine, quarter inch long hair. Am I the only one? Has anyone tried Nair or something similar?tia

what happens when I die? I have a will but there is no family to empty the home or sell the house. Everything is being left to charities. I remember going in and emptying my parents house. there isn't anyone to do that here. are there companies to hire? I don't want any estate sales. there are no debts to pay. I've been ill lately so this is weighing on my mind .

ok, I have a little ADHD, so I'm rarely just sitting and watching a movie. I work on crafts, I read, etc while watching TV. I listen , glance up and usually get the story line. but, lately, all of a sudden, I notice no dialog or you hear the phone messaging sound I glance up and the characters are text messaging and we are expected to read them. Since I've already missed the bulk of it, I have to decide if it's worth pausing and rewinding or just skipping it. If I want to read a story line. I read a book. It's getting where every single show or movie has text messaging going on and you are supposed to read it to know what's going on. I do watch foreign films where I do have to pay attention and read the dialog, but I psych myself up for those knowing I can't do anything else. Granted, it's a sign of the times, but do phones have to interrupt everything?

I am hoping a miracle bra exists that is easy to get on, doesn't dig into the shoulder and provides more than minimum amount of support while remaining completely comfortable for hours.

I hope such a thing exists and have everything crossed, and at my age, I can even do that with my boobs which explains why I need a bra.

My English sister-in-law (who lives in a nice coastal California town) is having an 80th birthday later this month. She is a young-minded 80 and stays active with docent shifts at the art museum, exercise class, bridge, girlfriends, etc. I adore her (don’t know why she’s stayed with my brother so long 😉) and want to give her some fun things.

She loves art (no art books though, she’s has plenty, and she has access to museums through docenting), dogs, fun jewelry, and has a great sense of humor so kitschy things aren’t out of the question.

I found a wonderful picnic basket and here’s what I have so far:

Bottle of bubbly

Two adorable dog dish towels

Small watercolor pad

Travel set of paint

Brushes

McVites (?) chocolate digestives

She loves sample sets so I was thinking of perfume or makeup

Something in the jewelry category

More food items?

I have another ten days to gather items.

Thank you!!

this is ongoing, off and on for years. she lives with her dad. I have a feeling he's telling her shit about me, but don't know if I'll ever find out for sure. I know he's said things about me to her in the past and talks about his other baby mama.

Anyone else in this position? It's horrible

I know this isn't something solely related to being female or over 60. But those of us this age are the most likely to have built or remodeled a home and because we're women.. we probably were responsible for the work!

So I'm just wondering.. have any of you done a build or a remodel and left it still liking your contractor?

we've never built or remodeled until this year. Which is amazing considering how many times we've moved and homes we've owned. We started the job with a GC and his designer wife whom we "just lovvved" at the start. three months in not so much and now.. not at all lol.

I'm just kind of assuming that if you've done either you started the work with a good relationship with your GC. maybe even a fun and happy one. So how was it when the work was over?

What’s been your experience with changing jobs at 60? I’ve been in the same professional job for 12 years. The company is small, owned by a family that is ready to close the doors and retire. I’m hoping to move to another company and stay for at least 5 more years. I’m nervous.

My husband did not want a financial advisor, but I did, so no financial advisor (FA). Unfortunately he has passed away and now I need to manage finances on my own. I have some financial knowledge but not enough to be fully comfortable with my decisions. I have been retired for about 8 months and I will be receiving SSI soon. We have a good investment portfolio. I currently have funds at 3 companies.

I need to interview some advisors before selecting one. I have plenty of candidates as everyone seems to have a terrific advisor. What are some questions I should be asking to get a good feel for my decision? One thing I definitely will not put up with is condescension. Two, I want strategies that allow funds available for travel without major tax consequences. What else?