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She first proceeds to tell me about her situationship with her cousin bro which was for there years. (She is 17 rn and he is in his 20s) She said they "loved" eachother and wishing to get married to him in future. (When she is an adult ofc)

But bro cousin? YOUR OWN GODDAMN BLOOD RELATION???

So i told her it would be so weird if that happened and the "potential" kids would have complications being imbred like that etc. But yk what she says? She told me "if inbreeding is the only problem then we wont have kids at all then i can still be with him right?"

Honestly i went speechless here. I had no counter argument. What will i say? Its still weird to marry your cousin? On what basis can i say that if no imbreeding happens.

More details: she is south indian

Mujhe wo flair edit karne nhi ata anways

Feeing so low since i woke up, thought ill be just revising inorganic topics or such but cant do anything. For now im just scrolling in this subreddit. Should i just not do anything for this whole day and start revising tmrw? I had thought of that but fomo hoga.

I mean fomo would be unbearable my whole day would be ruined.

All advice appreciated be nice.

What can i revise while putting low efforts to it?

Is solving sums worth these last 3 days?

My centre is nearby but i saw the latest reviews in maps (1-2weeks prior) where they said its like a factory shed with no proper ventilation nor ACs. The temperatures is hitting ~40°C that afternoon.

AM I ACTUALLY COOKED OR IS THERE ANY WAY TO SURIVIVE THIS HEAT DURING EXAM. All advice appreciated. Dont tell me shit like just keep doing the sums bro and stuff because heat can reduce your cognitive ability and make you dumb fr. Optimal temperatures were 24-25°C which ik isn't possible rn. But how do we survive thie heat before we get cooked literally and figuratively.

Unrelated flair dont mind

She got really uncomfortable when random aunties and uncles kept staring up and down at her while we were just walking in a public park minding our own business.

Watching the view, looking for flowers, and looking for spots in which we could take pictures. It was all going well, a cute date which we have been planning for weeks.

For context we didn't do any "indecent" stuff either as in what people call kissing or being clingy or whatever these conservative society has for couples. We were holding hands and kept walking. I could feel the stares and the tension from it even though we walked past them made me realise it could have been harder for my girlfriend.

We were in city i expected people to be more progressive in this case. I guess i was wrong. Do millennials and gen X ever change? Why can't people just mind their own business in these matters? Let me and my partner enjoy the only quality time we had.

I keep seeing posts where people are in their mid or late 20s or maybe even in their 30s who are still staying with their parents or have some sorta contact with home.

Here I was thinking of moving out of my abusive transphobic household because they are not accepting me of being a trans guy. Nor ever will. I have decided I will move out as soon as i get financially independent. But why do I not see any of those people who have done that? Is it that hard to move out?

And also my bathroom doesn't have a lock as well. I live with constant fear of someone barging in when I'm changing my clothes or getting dressed up after a shower. Go to the bathroom with the same fear of someone barging in. They don't knock. They don't ask. They barg in as if I'm not an individual person with boundaries but a toy.

I hate to get changed in front of my mom, she thinks it's still ok because she gave birth to me and it gives her all the rights to do and see whatever.

I apparently can't have individual space, personal space, own thoughts, "different" thoughts and "bad" thoughts.

Bad as in anything which doesn't align with their opinions and views. Having thoughts means I'm betraying them because they are supposed to control me and i should live according to them.

This sucks.

And also my bathroom doesn't have a lock as well. I live with constant fear of someone barging in when I'm changing my clothes or getting dressed up after a shower. Go to the bathroom with the same dear of someone barging in. They don't knock. They don't ask. They barg in as if I'm not an individual person with boundaries but a toy.

I hate to get changed in front of my mom, she thinks it's still ok because she gave birth to me and it gives her all the rights to do and see whatever.

I apparently can't have individual space, personal space, own thoughts, "different" thoughts and "bad" thoughts.

Bad as in anything which doesn't align with their opinions and views. Having thoughts means I'm betraying them because they are supposed to control me and i should live according to them.

This sucks.

Still living with her as I'm currently pursuing my education in this place. Will move out soon for university but she has been acting very psychotic lately because I came out to them (parents) as queer.

She thinks i "betrayed" her idk what is that supposed to mean by being a person with individual thoughts and feelings apart from being an extension of her?

She treats me like I'm a property which can be shaped, beaten, abused whenever and however she likes. In her eyes, i should behave like a "normal lady",(I'm a trans guy) studying exceptionally well, doing chores whenever she asks, taking whatever verbal slurs, abuse she had for me and NEVER complain about it.

She had already decided my future and it should go according to it or else I "won't" survive on my own? She also blackmailed me that she would k herself if i won't be "normal"

Somehow she figured out that I'm smart enough to leave the house and the family once i get financially independent even though I never once mentioned it.

She SAed me when I was just entering my teenage years, groomed me, made me feel incredibly dysphoric about my body on whole and body shamed me so bad I had to deal with 2 years of borderline anorexia (ED) and it's side effects aka vitamin deficiencies and surviving on pills.

She never feels accountable for whatever she has done and always plays a victim card that I was the one who ruined her life and betrayed the perception of me what she had built for me. She also sexualises me a lot. I mean a lot. How can someone even think that a 13 yr old could seduce grown ass adult. She never cares about the fact that i was also SAed by my older cousin and once when I brought it up she just ignored it like it doesn't matter.

Finally,

Moving out is such a big deal to me I'm waiting for that moment every single day and second. I have emotionally detached myself from her and my family way too long ago for me to care and feel an ounce of guilt for them. I hate this phrase, "but she is your mother how can you leave her?" How can I leave her? Why didn't she do a better job raising me then? Is it my fault that I got to deal with lifelong trauma where I'm even afraid to have intimate moments with my partner? Because I'm disgusted with my whole body? Speak about victim blaming.

The title is the whole thing. As a trans guy myself i couldn't help but go through the subreddit r/detrans but it has made me more sadder on how many people have shared their experiences and most of it is like how the trans ideology is sexist and made them through hrt which ruined their body etc.

I know this sounds really stupid I'm pre everything and 17. It's been like 7 months since I got to know that I'm a guy.

Now I'm tryna learn and be more like a cis dude to pass. Yk dysphoria has been a beast and i can't seem to cope.

One of the few things my cis friends mentioned as a piece of advice is that I should walk and move around like a guy. What do they mean by that? Do I have to manspread whenever I sit, keep a wide stance, do I have to maintain sm kinda posture? I'm so confused i have no idea about it. Some of the cis female friends I had told me that i don't have that movement like a guy at all. Yes I know that sounds a bit transphobic but I told them to tell me how i moved around and all so it's not a problem for me.

So, fellow men out here please help me out.