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met him on grindr and uhh he was cute and hung af but um.............. Idk??????????????????? STDs are scary plus um idk.

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Met on grindr 30 min ago. He has had sex 2-3 times before but hasn't gotten tested???

I do wanna do stuff but STDs scare the shit out of me.

I called my best friend for pride march but he said no. when i asked him are you homophobic, he said i dont like it. He further said U guys do whatever u want, im not stopping u and It’s ur wish
But i dont have interest in these.

He is not a person who avoids crowd because he’s been to so many events where there are large crowd, but he specifically says he doesn’t want to come to March because it doesn’t interest him.

i’m perplexed, as to whether this is homophobia or personal boundary

I WOULD EXPECT MY BEST FRIEND TO SUPPORT ME, Isnt what friends do ?

I am 18 femboy and I look so feminine that anyone can guess I am gay so I get so many relationship offers from people I don't know or have met only once or twice and I am more into mature fit tall men.

I started dating a man when I was 15 and he was 34M my neighbor and then at the age of 16 I was with my coaching faculty and we dated for like 2 years and currently I am with a man who is 31 years old and whenever I tell this to someone they say oh sweetheart you have been groomed by men and still you are in the same situation but I also love him they what's the problem in this?? Does age really matter in relationships??

People make me feel like I am a victim but I am not just choosing man with whom I am comfortable...

So recently, I made a post about how lonely I’ve been feeling these days. It’s not that I’m a loner or anything but a lot of my friends are in relationships and I was in a situationship where I had a lot of hope. Turns out I was just being used and ever since then I’ve been feeling really weird emotionally.

I ranted here about how hard it is for me to date guys because I’m picky. I like people who not only look good but also have a genuine personality. Out of desperation, loneliness, or whatever phase I’m going through right now, I even started flirting with straight guys. Some of them reciprocated too, but honestly, it went against my morals, so I ghosted them. Still, that loneliness never really went away.

After I posted about this, a guy DMed me. At first, he seemed really genuine. He said he was bi-curious and wanted to take things at his own pace, which I completely understood because I wanted the same thing too. But then he kept pressuring me to sext with him. I told him I couldn’t do that, especially when I hadn’t even seen him properly or figured out whether I was actually into him or not.

And he sent me a picture of a nice fit guy and now I found out he was catfishing me the whole time.

Honestly, I’ve lost all hope at this point. I don’t even feel like trying anymore. I’m just so done.

Hey everyone I really need some advice or just some comforting words right now because I am freaking out I'm a 24 yo guy from Delhi but right now m back at my hometown visiting my parents I’ve been crossdressing since my school days and consider myself a femboy, but it has always been a strict, deeply hidden secret from my family Last night, it was just me and my sister at home.... had recently bought a new dress, some heels, jewelry, and lipstick, and I couldn't resist trying them on I was looking in the mirror, feeling super happy and confident, completely lost in the moment Suddenly, the door swung open. It was my sister Time literally froze She just stood there staring at me in full makeup, dress, and heels.... We made eye contact for what felt like an eternity She didn't scream, she didn't get mad she just quietly closed the door and walked away It is now the next day, and I haven't left my room yet I am absolutely terrified to face her or anyone else. I don't know if she’s going to tell our parents, or if she’s waiting for me to talk to her Has anyone been in a similar situation? How should I handle this? Am I officially outed now? Please help😶‍🌫️

I had one break-up in June 2025 which wasn't a huge deal but pretty psychologically damaging + another break-up which lasted from January 2026 to two days ago which exploded a 6 year long friendship and was almost entirely my fault. So I'm not going to date again for a long time, if ever again. How about you?

Title: Oral Sex and HPV

I’ve been reading about the connection between oral sex and HPV-related throat cancers and wanted to understand it better. How common is oral HPV actually, and how significant is the cancer risk in real-life cases? Also, does the body usually clear the virus on its own, or can it stay dormant for years? Would appreciate insights from people knowledgeable about this topic.

A couple days ago I was discussing some sad stuff that has happened in my life with a female friend. She's very empathetic and emotionally supportive. We had a long talk and basically the discussion reached the point of being single and dating. I told her how I am kinda done with dating altogether after my breakup etc. Then i just randomly asked her whether she is homophobic or not. Her answer to the question was, "Babe u are just lonely." I was like hey answer my question, don't diagnose me(all in a banter tone btw). She said she isn't homophobic, and followed that up with maybe she is, she doesn't know, and that she is actually very old school. She said she still expects a typical old school proposal from a guy etc. To me being romantically old school and being homophobic isn't really related so i just dropped the conversation. It just made me really that she isn't one of the people i shud share my sexual orientation with. The conversation was casual but amusing to me lmao.

Hey, I was diagnosed with HIV and started ART(2 weeks).

If you don’t mind sharing, I wanted to ask:

1. How are you doing now—physically and mentally?

2. How long did it take for things to feel “normal” again?

3. How has ART been for you? Any side effects, and did they get better?

4. Are you U=U now? How long did that take?

5. Did your fear and anxiety get better with time? What helped most?

6. Did you tell your family or keep it private? How did you handle that?

7. Has HIV affected your studies/career in any major way?

8. How do you deal with stigma or the fear of being judged?

9. Do you feel hopeful about relationships/date now?

10. If you could say one thing to someone who was just diagnosed, what would it be?

Though I am used to it and accepted it. At a time it does hurt

I’m an Indian living in the U.S., and I’ve been told on multiple occasions that I’m cute and physically attractive, so I’d say I’m probably reasonably attractive. I’m looking for something long-term with a guy. Bu one pattern I’ve noticed is that on Grindr, I tend to get a lot of interest from white men for quick hookups, but I don’t see the same level of interest on Hinge or Tinder. I understand that people have preferences, but I’m curious why the behavior seems so different across apps.

On the other hand, I consistently match with Black, Latino, and brown men on both dating and hookup apps.

Have you noticed this pattern too?

Like when I'm attached to someone i really get anxious if they don't reply to my text even when they r online or get jealous when my partner is talking with someone else like omgg it feels as if I'm getting cheated on and prolly the reason I don't like any relationships ughh !

I was cheated once and after that I'm suffering from this idk if it's normal or if I need therapy .

do have a crush on him and I'll tell him today .

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But here is cath hes out of my league and I dont even know if he's into men or not .

Plan A: improve yourself and then till him

Plan B: first confirm whether he's into men or not

So I am in a relationship for more than 2 years, but yesterday I felt something missing so right now we are in long disto but still something was missing.

I was remembering my ex and wanted to call him but is that count as cheating? If I wanted to just to talk to any other community person as friends too?