u/foolishandnonsense

So my mom's a healthcare professional and ever since I was 15 years old I've been helping her with her coursework in one way or another. It started as spelling checks, to written Essays, to eventually doing entire courses online for her. Her professors never had any idea that it was a teenager writing her essays and answering discussion posts. This was way before ChatGpt. She generally got good grades A/B honor roll. I justified this by saying she was working to provide for us and while she worked in the hospital to provide a roof over our heads and meals on the table, I helped her advance in her coursework. I never got paid for anything.

Fast forward years later and my relationship with my mom has been strained. She blamed me for taking my dad's side during their divorce (which is false) and didn't talk to me for my last 2 years of university. When I graduated, I couldn't find a job and she let me crash on her couch. It wasn't free and I was paying rent to her while working a fast food job till I could find something better. She was doing an online masters and she wanted me to do her coursework. Initially I helped her complete a course, but later I objected because I was busy job hunting and it was morally wrong to cheat. She got quite angry about it. She started insulting me, calling me a failure, and she threatened to kick me out. Since I had no place to go I reminded her of how I helped her with her coursework & negative consequences if truth ever got out she had cheated. She told me she didn't care and dared me to report her. She said that people pay others to do their coursework all the time and whatever I did for her is nothing special.

One month I was a week late on rent and she had my younger brothers pack all my stuff & throw it in the front lawn while I was out for errands. When I came back she changed the passcode to the door and I was locked outside. She sent me a text that I was no longer welcomed at her residence. My conscience was guilty and I felt betrayed. I called every university she had attended and I reported her for academic dishonesty with all the receipts I had in hand over the years. This included a lot of the essays, discussion posts, exam work etc that I sent her over email through the years that I could find. So far she has been dismissed from her Master's degree program and the other university is looking into whether they will revoke her bachelor's degree or enforce other disciplinary actions. I honestly felt bad because if she loses her bachelor's degree she might lose her job & not be able to provide for my younger brothers who are teens. She will still have an associates degree to fall back on though. AITAH for reporting her? I felt like maybe I went too far.

From what I've read LATAM has a larger number of Afro-descendants than Anglo-America. What is the cultural legacy of the Afro-descendants in your country? Did they leave a significant or minor impact? Do they form an integral part of your country's national identity?

Obviously, indigenous people played a significant role in the foundation of Latin America. how is índigenous äncestry and culture perceived in your country. I noticed in some countries like Puerto Rico and Cuba it seems to be a big deal. However, in Guatemala or Peru not much fuss is made about it. Are indigenous languages still widely spoken in your country? What is the culture of indigenous people in your country visible? How are indigenous people perceived in the modern day?

I was told that indigenous people legacy only live on in the history books of the Carribean. Is that true? Or are there Carribean countries that have significant genetic, cultural, and linguistic influences from the indigenous people? Are there any countries that have a sizable indigenous population left? If so, how are they treated?

Edit: why are people down voting this post? 😭

I was chatting with my Egyptian friend who had been to LATAM and he told me Latinos are short. He says the average Latino male height is 165 while the average height in Egypt is 175. My friend is 187 making him way taller than the average Egyptian male and he says in Egypt he doesn't feel tall. In the UK he'd definitely be considered tall. How tall are you? How does your height compare to the median height of your country's population?

I'll be honest. I never wanted children. At least not so early in life. His father, who was 5 years my senior, got me pregnant when I was 17. Due to family pressure I carried the baby to full term and married my son's father. I endured 13 years of physical and emotional abuse in a toxic loveless marriage. My youth, my dreams and my sanity robbed from me. It's been 10 years since my husband or should I say my abuser met his end. He died in a car accident in drunken stupor. He was always a raging alcoholic. My son has graduated from University and now has a career in finance. He looks just like his father and has some of his mannerisms. When he graduated and got a job I sold the house and changed my number. I only know that he'd been looking for me because he got in touch with my cousin and was asking her about my whereabouts. She's very close to me and only she knows my new address and contact info. I told her not to disclose anything to him and I'd reach back out to him whenever I felt ready. After all these years I'm still filled with resentment, anger, and grief. I'd like to heal and focus on myself. Am I wrong for making this decision?

What made you stop being abusive towards your loved ones in life?

I'm an American and today I was chatting with a German about Türkiye and it's ascension into EU. My German friend said Türkiye would disrupt the balance of power in the EU and introduce backwards conservative legislation which contradicts the liberal values of the EU. However there are several Christian countries in the EU that are way conservative than Turkiye. For example in Poland abortion is illegal and literal "LGBTQ exclusion zones". The EU prided itself on secularism and freedom of religion but in Slovakia Islam is not formally registered as a state religion and it's impossible to build a mosque there. Not to mention Hungary under Orban was literally going against the EU's interest by vetoing support to Ukraine which benefited Russia. From an economic standpoint only 5 out of the 27 EU member states have a larger economy than Türkiye. Many countries in the EU such as Romania, Bulgaria, Greece and Hungary are quite poor and very corrupt. Larger EU economies like Spain & Italy are struggling. Do Turks really see an upside to joining the EU anymore? Are Western countries just being hypocritical?

I read that there is no neutral word for "black person" in Arabic. All words currently used to describe black people translate to "slave" in English or is very unflattering. Is this true?

Which Caribbean countries are the most renowned for their flavored dishes and varied cuisine?

My gringa Italian Spanish teacher is kinda a Spain fan girl. She says in LATAM apart from the European influenced Southern cone all they eat is rice and beans. Personally I'd like to think such a huge region has diverse cuisine that can rival countries that always end up on the top 10 best cuisine lists. I also think there are probably many Michelin star restaurants that serve local cuisine. What countries have the richest culinary tradition?

What was the crime rate. Especially in major cities. How do they differ from today?

In india for example women wear Saris. Of course Western traditional clothing like shirts, shirts, jeans/pants and T-shirts have become commonplace in India and all over the world. I'm curious why the Chinese don't wear hanfu or some modernized variant of it.

As a poc do you feel you have to work twice as hard to gain the same level of trust, respect, and success in the West. I've noticed if you are a poc or have an accent people are less likely to respect your opinion or trust your advice in the work place or even pass you up for promotion etc. Even though it may be subtle. I have a male friend who struggles with this everyday even though he's the most qualified person at work. I know based on the demographics of this sub, many men of color on here may not want to voice their opinions or feel their concerns may be dismissed. So apologize in advance.

What's the Carribean nation that seems most closed off. Like no one knows what's going on there or they give off North Korea like vibes?

No one is perfect. No one should ever over react after being rejected. However, have you ever had an intrusive thought after being rejected?

I'm curious how Latinos who have been abroad to countries that are not the USA or Western Europe view these countries? How are they compared to LATAM? How's the culture, cuisine, infrastructure etc? Do you feel at home or is it a complete culture shock?

Edit: no malicious intent behind this post. Seems like people misunderstood and are overreacting tbh 😂 🍿

For context I'm a 20 y.o. in college and my neighbor's 15 y.o. daughter developed a crush on me. I honestly don't care & just ignored her as she's kinda like a little sister to me. Unfortunately she has sent me unsolicited n*des and explicit messages. Since she's underage it's kiddy p*rn. The only reason I even have her number is because her and my parents are close family friends and I used to drop off her and my 16 year old sister at school when her parents were out of town. I am cordial with her and have texted her before but it's always friendly and cordial and mostly related to me doing her family a favor, and her interactions with my younger sister.

When she knows i'm home from university she'll wear some revealing clothes or try to get me alone with her. I've tried to gently let her know I'm not interested and I'm not trying to hurt her feelings but she either doesn't get the message or thinks I'm playing "hard to get". She's not a bad kid, but this is not something I want to get caught up in. I'm afraid this whole thing will blow up and it'd be super embarrassing. What makes the situation more complicated is we've been alone before. I used to take them both home, as a favor to her parents and because her and my sister are friends. When my sister was in track and field and her cheerleading practice would end half an hour early and she'd sit in my car and we'd wait for my sister to come meet us. She is giving hints that if it doesn't go her way, she might make a big deal out of it. She's Daddy's little princess and her parents spoil her and let her get away with a lot.