I'm going to work in a Swiss alpine hut for a few months at 1,800 meters. Would you bring the cat, or should I find another solution?
I got a cat 9 months ago. I wanted to get a cat for ages... and thought for ages about the ethical issue of "owning a cat" in this antropochene word, and for this reason never got one...until i "got a cat by accident", meaning that a cat of a friend of mine had kittens and they needed a shelther. I also kind of went around the ethical fact that i have been a vegan all my life and i now need to provide for a carnivorous pet (= closed an eye and i am buying the most earth conscious pet food - still animal made food).
Now i am facing the issue of castration.. everything i read and all the discussion with veterinarians and friends have been around what benefits this procedure will provide to us humans.. there is also supposed to be benefits for the cat, especially the life expectancy and he will not behave bad with female cats..
yet, i get all these discussions.. but i am stuck to the ethical dilemma.. I - as a human i get to decide for another species.. that does not get to have a say on it.. i do so, in order to make him fit to this human centric world.
Any perspective or input would be appreciated.
(Sorry for my english)
I’m 35 years old, a social anthropologist, and have been working as a social worker for eight years. I work part-time (80%) and don’t have children, but I still lead a life filled with recreational and athletic activities. I’m thinking of enrolling in an online university and starting a part-time bachelor’s degree in psychology. I’m motivated by the idea of delving deeper into the subject, gaining new skills, and perhaps pursuing a career that involves less bureaucratic administrative work, but where I can use my new skills to help people… and maybe even work as a freelancer. What makes me hesitate is that I don’t know if my life will change in the coming years and if I’ll still be able to stay motivated then. Has anyone had similar experiences? Is this crazy?
I’m 35 years old, a social anthropologist, and have been working as a social worker for eight years. I work part-time (80%) and don’t have children, but I still lead a life filled with recreational and athletic activities. I’m thinking of enrolling in an online university and starting a part-time bachelor’s degree in psychology. I’m motivated by the idea of delving deeper into the subject, gaining new skills, and perhaps pursuing a career that involves less bureaucratic administrative work, but where I can use my new skills to help people… and maybe even work as a freelancer. What makes me hesitate is that I don’t know if my life will change in the coming years and if I’ll still be able to stay motivated then. Has anyone had similar experiences? Is this crazy?
Ich bin 35 Jahre alt, Sozialanthropologin und arbeite seit nunmehr 8 Jahren als Sozialarbeiterin. Ich arbeite in Teilzeit (80 %) und habe keine Kinder, aber dennoch ein Leben voller Freizeit und Sport. Ich überlege, mich an einer Online-Universität einzuschreiben und ein Teilzeit-Bachelorstudium in Psychologie zu beginnen. Mich motiviert die Vorstellung, mehr über das Thema zu lernen, Kompetenzen zu erwerben und eventuell eine Karriere einzuschlagen, in der weniger bürokratische Verwaltungsaufgaben anfallen, sondern in der ich die neu erworbenen Fähigkeiten nutzen kann, um Menschen zu unterstützen...und maybe auch als Selbstständiger arbeiten. Was mich zögern lässt, ist, dass ich nicht weiß, ob sich mein Leben in den nächsten Jahren nicht ändern wird und ob ich meine Motivation dann noch aufrechterhalten kann. Hat jemand Erfahrung damit? Ist das Wahnsinn?
Hi everyone. I really need some outside perspective and advice because my anxiety is currently driving me nuts.
have been together for 2 years, our relationship is fine, and he is a very trustworthy person.
However, he is about to leave for an annual trip to a huge, traditional beer festival with a group of his guy friends. In these trips he would do what he doesn t during the year - drink copious amount of beer, smoke - behaving in a way that is inconsistent with his usual self.
Because of this, and because i associate these specific environments with people using heavy drinking as an excuse for lowered inhibitions and bad behavior. my brain is flooding me with an overwhelming fear of him acting inappropriately or that he is going to physically hurt himself.
The frustrating part is that I handled this much better last year). But this year, I feel completely overwhelmed.
Has anyone else dealt with this specific kind of anxiety when their partner goes on a heavy-drinking "boys' trip"? How to self soothe?
Hi everyone. I really need some outside perspective and advice because my anxiety is currently driving me nuts.
have been together for 2 years, our relationship is fine, and he is a very trustworthy person.
However, he is about to leave for an annual trip to a huge, traditional beer festival with a group of his guy friends. In these trips he would do what he doesn t during the year - drink copious amount of beer, smoke - behaving in a way that is inconsistent with his usual self.
Because of this, and because i associate these specific environments with people using heavy drinking as an excuse for lowered inhibitions and bad behavior. my brain is flooding me with an overwhelming fear of him acting inappropriately or that he is going to physically hurt himself.
The frustrating part is that I handled this much better last year). But this year, I feel completely overwhelmed.
Has anyone else dealt with this specific kind of anxiety when their partner goes on a heavy-drinking "boys' trip"? How to self soothe?
My father passed away when i was 18 years old, due to depression, alcohol abuse, and at the end cirrosis.
It was a decade ago.
Today i find myself spiraling, extremely anxious about my bf going to a boy's only trip, to an infamous beer festival, where he plans to get hammered.
I feel like i am usually good at regulating my emotions, and after years of therapy i am well aware of my anxious attachment style.
Yet, this is a new feeling for me, because i feel this anxiety of him hurting himself, or cheating, or crossing boundariws, which will make him evaporate for my life. He is an awesome guy, but even though i rationally know this, i am at this stage of anxiety, where i am miserable and my brain tricks me into thinking that the worst will indeed happen.
Could it be related to my childood history? I am trying to make sense of what is happening, to understand the process behind my thoughts, so that i could eventyally feel better.
Thank you
My father passed away when i was 18 years old, due to depression, alcohol abuse, and at the end cirrosis.
It was a decade ago.
Today i find myself spiraling, extremely anxious about my bf going to a boy's only trip, to an infamous beer festival, where he plans to get hammered.
I feel like i am usually good at regulating my emotions, and after years of therapy i am well aware of my anxious attachment style.
Yet, this is a new feeling for me, because i feel this anxiety of him hurting himself, or cheating, or crossing boundariws, which will make him evaporate for my life. He is an awesome guy, but even though i rationally know this, i am at this stage of anxiety, where i am miserable and my brain tricks me into thinking that the worst will indeed happen.
Could it be related to my childood history? I am trying to make sense of what is happening, to understand the process behind my thoughts, so that i could eventyally feel better.
Thank you
My father passed away when i was 18 years old, due to depression, alcohol abuse, and at the end cirrosis.
It was a decade ago.
Today i find myself spiraling, extremely anxious about my bf going to a boy's only trip, to an infamous beer festival, where he plans to get hammered.
I feel like i am usually good at regulating my emotions, and after years of therapy i am well aware of my anxious attachment style.
Yet, this is a new feeling for me, because i feel this anxiety of him hurting himself, or cheating, or crossing boundariws, which will make him evaporate for my life. He is an awesome guy, but even though i rationally know this, i am at this stage of anxiety, where i am miserable and my brain tricks me into thinking that the worst will indeed happen.
Could it be related to my childood history? I am trying to make sense of what is happening, to understand the process behind my thoughts, so that i could eventyally feel better.
Thank you
[F33] My boyfriend [M33] is going to a wild beer festival. I'm spiraling with anxiety over cheating and his physical safety. How do I cope?
Hi everyone. I really need some outside perspective and advice because my anxiety is currently driving me nuts.
My partner \[33M] and I \[33F] have been together for 2 years, our relationship is fine, and he is a very trustworthy person.
However, he is about to leave for an annual trip to a huge, traditional beer festival with a group of his guy friends. In these trips he would do what he doesn t during the year - drink copious amount of beer, smoke - behaving in a way that is inconsistent with his usual self.
Because of this, and because i associate these specific environments with people using heavy drinking as an excuse for lowered inhibitions and bad behavior. my brain is flooding me with an overwhelming fear of him acting inappropriately or that he is going to physically hurt himself.
The frustrating part is that I handled this much better last year). But this year, I feel completely overwhelmed.
Has anyone else dealt with this specific kind of anxiety when their partner goes on a heavy-drinking "boys' trip"? How to self soothe?
[F33] My boyfriend [M33] is going to a wild beer festival. I'm spiraling with anxiety over cheating and his physical safety. How do I cope?
Hi everyone. I really need some outside perspective and advice because my anxiety is currently driving me nuts.
My partner \[33\] and I \[33\] have been together for 2 years, our relationship is fine, and he is a very trustworthy person.
However, he is about to leave for an annual trip to a huge, traditional beer festival with a group of his guy friends. In these trips he would do what he doesn t during the year - drink copious amount of beer, smoke - behaving in a way that is inconsistent with his usual self.
Because of this, and because i associate these specific environments with people using heavy drinking as an excuse for lowered inhibitions and bad behavior. my brain is flooding me with an overwhelming fear of him acting inappropriately or that he is going to physically hurt himself.
The frustrating part is that I handled this much better last year). But this year, I feel completely overwhelmed.
Has anyone else dealt with this specific kind of anxiety when their partner goes on a heavy-drinking "boys' trip"? How to self soothe?
Hi everyone. I really need some outside perspective and advice because my anxiety is currently driving me nuts.
My partner [33] and I [33] have been together for 2 years, our relationship is fine, and he is a very trustworthy person.
However, he is about to leave for an annual trip to a huge, traditional beer festival with a group of his guy friends. In these trips he would do what he doesn t during the year - drink copious amount of beer, smoke - behaving in a way that is inconsistent with his usual self.
Because of this, and because i associate these specific environments with people using heavy drinking as an excuse for lowered inhibitions and bad behavior. my brain is flooding me with an overwhelming fear of him acting inappropriately or that he is going to physically hurt himself.
The frustrating part is that I handled this much better last year). But this year, I feel completely overwhelmed.
Has anyone else dealt with this specific kind of anxiety when their partner goes on a heavy-drinking "boys' trip"? How to self soothe?