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I was 22 when I had sex for the first time with my then boyfriend in 2021. The first two times were painful, and I had no clue that it was vaginismus. I stuck nothing down there before, so I did not anticipate the pain. I guess it was okay for me when we did it the fourth or fifth time. Thankfully, my ex was patient and understanding about it, so it felt less burdensome. I was not sexually active post-breakup. However, I was seeing someone a year back, and the same thing happened to me again. We were not able to have penetrative sex cos it just wouldn't go in, and even if it did, I was in dire pain. He was not at all supportive of this and thought I was making shit up to not have sex with him. We broke up recently, but now I'm actually stressed about not being able to have sex ever again.

Is it really vaginismus or is it something else? The recent guy said it felt like hitting a wall, and only his finger was able to go in (that too not fully). Pls help :(

I quit my job in Bangalore, India, after three years of working there cos of health reasons. I’m back in my hometown living with my parents now cos I couldn’t afford rent anymore. I’m looking for jobs in BLR once again now but I’m not sure whether to go there and continue my job hunt or move only when I have an offer in hand? I would require at least a month or two to relocate cos I need to find a place and check rent etc. what is the ideal thing to do? And how long do companies expect their employer to join them? Pls help

Born on - 20/06/98 in Chennai at 9:36pm. I left my job last year in august. Overall it was not a good period for me as well, mentally and emotionally. I am still looking for the right job, but not able to find any. What is causing the block? Major placements - Saturn- Moon in Aries sign conjunction in 4th house , Venus-Mars conjunction in Taurus, Sun-Mercury in 6th house in sign of Gemini, Jupiter in 3rd house Pisces. Lagna is Capricorn and Rashi is Aries. Please help 🙏🏻

I was seeing someone twice my age over the last one year and it has affected my mental health a lot.

It was great in the beginning. He showered me a lot of affection and attention. I felt like a chosen one. However, he did not and would not commit to me because I was younger than him and he was already dealing with separation and divorce.

But he kept me in a loop. When I would withdraw, he would try to pursue me and keep me around, by guilt tripping me and gaslighting me. And when I call him out on something or say something that triggers him , he becomes spiteful and resentful and gaslights me a lot about events so much so at one point i thought they happened. He falsely accused me of having a secret boyfriend behind his back, hated that I had friends to meet and basically having a life outside of our relationship. He would punish me in the most passive aggressive way by threatening to leave. And I would find myself begging him to come back. It was this push and pull dynamic and one day I snapped and called him out for using me. He was in a fit of rage that he said he would drag me to court if I spread lies about him.

It was insane. Idk what to do and how to really come out of it. I have kept all communication limited, but still the mental, emotional and verbal abuse was traumatic.

I got back into reading recently (many, many years) and I’m just not able to find the right romance novel to get me out of the reading slump :( everything feels generic and there’s not character or story that sticks to me. I’m not a fan of fantasy romance , but anything else works. I usually like the mysterious, brooding MC and naive FC tropes lol. Any suggestions?

I’m not (respectfully) interested in books like the Hating Game, People we meet on vacation etc. I like books with complex characters and relationships. Something similar to Normal People etc

I got back into reading recently (many, many years) and I’m just not able to find the right romance novel to get me out of the reading slump :( everything feels generic and there’s not character or story that sticks to me. I’m not a fan of fantasy romance , but anything else works. I usually like the mysterious, brooding MC and naive FC tropes lol. Any suggestions?

I’m not (respectfully) interested in books like the Hating Game, People we meet on vacation etc. I like books with complex characters and relationships. Something similar to Normal People etc

I’ve been in a situationship with this person for 1.5 years and he’s twice my age. I’m in my late 20’s and he’s in his later 40’s. It was great in the beginning. However, things got really messy. It felt like I had to fight for our relationship. He was never clear of where we stood. I met him while he was in the process of getting a divorce, but still, idk where I stand in his life.

He says there’s no future for us cos I’m young and will eventually get married to someone and move on with my life. But then he always comes back for my attention and affection. Plus he’s sort of controlling and possessive. I sort of felt like if he wasn’t the centre of my attention, he would get passive aggressive and would block me or threaten to leave me.

We had a huge argument in the recent past which made me not speak to him for a month or two. Then finally he reached out and I decided to keep things cordial and not get too involved again. And we don’t talk everyday now, but I still feel like I’m attached and wondering why isn’t he reaching out to me?¿ cos he pursued a lot to get me talk to him again…

I know this relationship is toxic… but why am I still attached to him… i deserve better :( any idea why?

I got back into reading recently (many, many years) and I’m just not able to find the right romance novel to get me out of the reading slump :( everything feels generic and there’s not character or story that sticks to me. I’m not a fan of fantasy romance , but anything else works. I usually like the mysterious, brooding MC and naive FC tropes lol. Any suggestions?

I’ve been in a situationship with this person for 1.5 years and he’s twice my age. I’m in my late 20’s and l in his later 40’s. It was great in the beginning. However, things got really messy. It felt like I had to fight for our relationship. He was never clear of where we stood. I met him while he was in the process of getting a divorce, but still, idk where I stand in his life.

He says there’s no future for us cos I’m young and will eventually get married to someone and move on with my life. But then he always comes back for my attention and affection. Plus he’s sort of controlling and possessive. I sort of felt like if he wasn’t the centre of my attention, he would get passive aggressive and would block me or threaten to leave me.

We had a huge argument in the recent past which made me not speak to him for a month or two. Then finally he reached out and I decided to keep things cordial and not get too involved again. And we don’t talk everyday now, but I still feel like I’m attached and wondering why isn’t he reaching out to me?¿ cos he pursued a lot to get me talk to him again…

I know this relationship is toxic… but why am I still attached to him… i deserve better :( any idea why?

I’ve been in a situationship with this person for 1.5 years and he’s twice my age. I’m in my late 20’s and he’s in his later 40’s. It was great in the beginning. However, things got really messy. It felt like I had to fight for our relationship. He was never clear of where we stood. I met him while he was in the process of getting a divorce, but still, idk where I stand in his life.

He says there’s no future for us cos I’m young and will eventually get married to someone and move on with my life. But then he always comes back for my attention and affection. Plus he’s sort of controlling and possessive. I sort of felt like if he wasn’t the centre of my attention, he would get passive aggressive and would block me or threaten to leave me. And even if he did- he would always come back?¿ Like he said he can’t commit to me but still wanted me around?

We had a huge argument in the recent past which made me not speak to him for a month or two. Then finally he reached out and I decided to keep things cordial and not get too involved again. And we don’t talk everyday now, but I still feel like I’m attached and wondering why isn’t he reaching out to me?¿ cos he pursued a lot to get me talk to him again…

I know this relationship is toxic… but why am I still attached to him… i deserve better :( any idea why?

So I left my previous workplace in Aug 2025 without an offer and it was super toxic. I decided to take a break for a couple of months before job hunting. But I had to travel to my hometown and a lot in those months and I couldn’t find time to look to jobs.

I finally found time in March 2026 and I’m actively searching ever since. Fixed my resume with ATS checker. I target about 2-3 solid applications a day and reach out to the founder/HR of that company. Networked with people in and out of LinkedIn. Still… nothing. Tried looking for freelance work , that didn’t also work out. Is there something I’m not doing or doing wrong? Ready to give up if I don’t land anything in the coming months. 🥺

So I left my previous workplace in Aug 2025 without an offer and it was super toxic. I decided to take a break for a couple of months before job hunting. But I had to travel to my hometown and a lot in those months and I couldn’t find time to look to jobs.

I finally found time in March 2026 and I’m actively searching ever since. Fixed my resume with ATS checker. I target about 2-3 solid applications a day and reach out to the founder/HR of that company. Networked with people in and out of LinkedIn. Still… nothing. Tried looking for freelance work , that didn’t also work out. Is there something I’m not doing or doing wrong? Ready to give up if I don’t land anything in the coming months. 🥺