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My ex did nothing, not a damn thing around the house and demanded me to do it all. If I didn’t there was hell to pay. If he even had an inkling that I was relaxing he would be demanding something of me despite him spending 95% of his life glued to the couch.

Now that I left (I’ve been gone for a couple years now) I can’t seem to get the motivation to clean. Shared spaces are clean but my own personal space like my room or car, forget it. It’s like now that I can be messy I am just a slob. Am I alone in this? I don’t want to be a slob forever but there is something cathartic about just making a mess and leaving it there. I don’t feel like it’s depression though. I’m actually in a good place in every other aspect.

How are you managing mornings? It’s a complete and utter shit show. Every. Single. Day.

Most of the day we get on fine and then everything goes to shit again around 7 pm which is fine because we have the extra time to manage that we don’t have in the morning. But the mornings are killing us.

I know it’s within the lower “normal” range. We just left urgent care and after 3 breathing treatments and a steroid my 12 y/o was at 95. They told us we were good to go but then as we’re walking out the doctor asks if I was sure we were comfortable leaving and now I’m second guessing because she asked.

I have an FRO in place and have for ~3.5 years. The order states that we are to have communication through a parenting app only about the children. That is being followed, however, every few days I am being asked about seeing the children despite him only being ordered a 1 hr facetime call 2x per week.

If I do not respond or give him the same response that I always do which is I am not comfortable facilitating anything but supervised visitation at this time (he was offered supervised visits by the court but has refused them) he starts in on 1 of 3 rants:

1- how immature it is going to look when he takes it back to court and the judge sees that I refuse to coparent with him
2- he immediately starts in on how he is going to go file a motion for refusing to communicate with him despite following exactly what the order says which is FT 2x per week for 1 hour.
3- that I am blocking him from having a relationship with his kids and I am a tyrant, etc.

I just am curious at what point this goes from roughly following the order to ok I am now being harassed.

My kids teacher frequently tells them she doesn’t get paid enough to deal with their nonsense. I know it’s common knowledge (and I agree) that teachers do not get paid enough for everything they deal with. She’s a newer teacher and making on the lower end for our district (~80k) which compared to other areas is not a bad salary but that’s not really the point. She’s constantly discouraging any kid who says they want to be a teacher telling them not to do it, they don’t make money, etc. It’s certainly NOT a job that I could do and it definitely takes a special kind of person to be a good teacher but this just rubs me the wrong way (among other issues).