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Hi everyone,

I’m currently taking a break from trying again after a second trimester loss. My next pregnancy will be considered high-risk, so I’m trying to be intentional about timing and stability, especially since a preventative cerclage is part of the plan. I also have PCOS, and in my previous journey the only thing that worked for me was stimulated cycles with Letrozole, I conceived on my 3rd stimulated cycle. That experience is also making me feel more aware that timing and treatment response can be unpredictable for me.

After my loss, I tried again for 3 cycles without success and reached a point where I felt emotionally and physically drained, so I paused. I’ve now completed 3 cycles on this break, and realistically I have about 2 cycles left before I originally planned to resume trying again

Here’s where things get complicated.

I have non-modifiable travel planned from late August to mid-October (about 6–7 weeks). I’ll have access to more advanced healthcare while away, which is reassuring, but it would not be with my usual doctor, and continuity of care especially for something like cerclage timing and monitoring is still a concern.

Timing-wise, if I start trying now (May) and conceive, I would be around:

16–18 weeks by late August (departure)

22–24 weeks by mid-October (return)

If I wait and try closer to August/September, then:

I would be around 4–10 weeks pregnant during travel, which feels like a much more fragile and uncertain phase. From what I understand, a preventative cerclage is typically placed around 12–14 weeks, which adds another layer ideally I’d want to be in a stable place with consistent medical follow-up during that window.

So I feel caught between competing priorities:

Starting now could mean being in a more stable second trimester during travel, and potentially having the cerclage placed before leaving but it also means entering mid-pregnancy while away from my usual care team

Waiting preserves control and continuity, but pushes everything further out, and emotionally that delay feels very heavy after already waiting and trying

What makes this even more complex is that with PCOS, I likely would need stimulated cycles again, and my past experience shows that even when it works, it can take multiple cycles so there’s no guarantee of immediate success anyway but who knows? It could also be right away on the first try!

So I feel stuck between two thoughts:

“Just try now and stop overthinking”

“Wait for the planned timing for safety and control”

Emotionally it’s getting harder instead of easier the closer I get to August, and I’m really struggling with the waiting even though I understand the practical reasons behind it.

Has anyone been through something similar, trying again after loss, PCOS/stimulated cycles, and needing to plan around travel and high-risk pregnancy care?

How did you balance timing vs control vs emotional readiness, especially when nothing feels like a perfect option?

Any advice or perspective would really help.

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Hi everyone,

I’m currently taking a break from trying again after a second trimester loss. My next pregnancy will be considered high-risk, so I’m trying to be intentional about timing and stability, especially since a preventative cerclage is part of the plan. I also have PCOS, and in my previous journey the only thing that worked for me was stimulated cycles with Letrozole, I conceived on my 3rd stimulated cycle. That experience is also making me feel more aware that timing and treatment response can be unpredictable for me.

After my loss, I tried again for 3 cycles without success and reached a point where I felt emotionally and physically drained, so I paused. I’ve now completed 3 cycles on this break, and realistically I have about 2 cycles left before I originally planned to resume trying again

Here’s where things get complicated.

I have non-modifiable travel planned from late August to mid-October (about 6–7 weeks). I’ll have access to more advanced healthcare while away, which is reassuring, but it would not be with my usual doctor, and continuity of care especially for something like cerclage timing and monitoring is still a concern.

Timing-wise, if I start trying now (May) and conceive, I would be around:

16–18 weeks by late August (departure)

22–24 weeks by mid-October (return)

If I wait and try closer to August/September, then:

I would be around 4–10 weeks pregnant during travel, which feels like a much more fragile and uncertain phase. From what I understand, a preventative cerclage is typically placed around 12–14 weeks, which adds another layer ideally I’d want to be in a stable place with consistent medical follow-up during that window.

So I feel caught between competing priorities:

Starting now could mean being in a more stable second trimester during travel, and potentially having the cerclage placed before leaving but it also means entering mid-pregnancy while away from my usual care team

Waiting preserves control and continuity, but pushes everything further out, and emotionally that delay feels very heavy after already waiting and trying

What makes this even more complex is that with PCOS, I likely would need stimulated cycles again, and my past experience shows that even when it works, it can take multiple cycles so there’s no guarantee of immediate success anyway but who knows? It could also be right away on the first try!

So I feel stuck between two thoughts:

“Just try now and stop overthinking”

“Wait for the planned timing for safety and control”

Emotionally it’s getting harder instead of easier the closer I get to August, and I’m really struggling with the waiting even though I understand the practical reasons behind it.

Has anyone been through something similar, trying again after loss, PCOS/stimulated cycles, and needing to plan around travel and high-risk pregnancy care?

How did you balance timing vs control vs emotional readiness, especially when nothing feels like a perfect option?

Any advice or perspective would really help.

Waiting to try

Hi everyone,

I’m currently taking a break from trying again after a second trimester loss. My next pregnancy will be considered high-risk, so I’m trying to be intentional about timing and stability, especially since a preventative cerclage is part of the plan. I also have PCOS, and in my previous journey the only thing that worked for me was stimulated cycles with Letrozole, I conceived on my 3rd stimulated cycle. That experience is also making me feel more aware that timing and treatment response can be unpredictable for me.

After my loss, I tried again for 3 cycles without success and reached a point where I felt emotionally and physically drained, so I paused. I’ve now completed 3 cycles on this break, and realistically I have about 2 cycles left before I originally planned to resume trying again

Here’s where things get complicated.

I have non-modifiable travel planned from late August to mid-October (about 6–7 weeks). I’ll have access to more advanced healthcare while away, which is reassuring, but it would not be with my usual doctor, and continuity of care especially for something like cerclage timing and monitoring is still a concern.

Timing-wise, if I start trying now (May) and conceive, I would be around:

16–18 weeks by late August (departure)

22–24 weeks by mid-October (return)

If I wait and try closer to August/September, then:

I would be around 4–10 weeks pregnant during travel, which feels like a much more fragile and uncertain phase. From what I understand, a preventative cerclage is typically placed around 12–14 weeks, which adds another layer ideally I’d want to be in a stable place with consistent medical follow-up during that window.

So I feel caught between competing priorities:

Starting now could mean being in a more stable second trimester during travel, and potentially having the cerclage placed before leaving but it also means entering mid-pregnancy while away from my usual care team

Waiting preserves control and continuity, but pushes everything further out, and emotionally that delay feels very heavy after already waiting and trying

What makes this even more complex is that with PCOS, I likely would need stimulated cycles again, and my past experience shows that even when it works, it can take multiple cycles so there’s no guarantee of immediate success anyway but who knows? It could also be right away on the first try!

So I feel stuck between two thoughts:

“Just try now and stop overthinking”

“Wait for the planned timing for safety and control”

Emotionally it’s getting harder instead of easier the closer I get to August, and I’m really struggling with the waiting even though I understand the practical reasons behind it.

Has anyone been through something similar, trying again after loss, PCOS/stimulated cycles, and needing to plan around travel and high-risk pregnancy care?

How did you balance timing vs control vs emotional readiness, especially when nothing feels like a perfect option?

Any advice or perspective would really help

Hi everyone,

I’m currently taking a break from TTC after a second trimester loss. My next pregnancy is considered high-risk, so I want more control and stability before trying again, especially with plans for a cerclage in the future.

After the loss, I tried for 3 cycles with no success and ended up feeling really exhausted emotionally and physically. On top of that, I have a non-modifiable trip planned for August.

I’ve already managed 3 full cycles during this break, and I only have about 2 cycles left before I plan to resume TTC.

The problem is the closer I get to restarting, the more impatient I feel. My mind keeps racing in different directions. Part of me thinks that if I start trying now, I might not even be successful until the “right timing” anyway for the cerclage in a future pregnancy, so maybe I could just start now.

But at the same time, I also worry, what if I do get pregnant straight away? Then I would be dealing with timing issues, travel, and everything else I’m trying to plan around.

So I feel stuck between two thoughts:

“Just try now and stop overthinking”

“Wait for the planned timing for safety and control”

Emotionally it’s getting harder instead of easier the closer I get to August, and I’m really struggling with the waiting even though I know there are practical reasons for it.

Has anyone been through something similar taking a TTC break after loss but struggling more the closer you get to restarting? How did you manage the impatience and the mental back-and-forth?

Any advice would really help.

Hi everyone,

I’m currently taking a break from TTC after a second trimester loss. My next pregnancy is considered high-risk, so I want to have more control and stability before trying again.

After the loss, I tried for 3 cycles with no success, and I ended up feeling really exhausted emotionally and physically. On top of that, I have a non-modifiable trip planned for August. I’ve already managed to go through 3 full cycles during this break, and I only have about 2 cycles left before my planned pause ends.

The problem is the closer I get to restarting TTC, the more impatient and emotionally restless I feel. I keep thinking about just trying again this cycle, and it’s becoming really hard to push that urge aside. Part of me knows waiting is the right decision because of my travel and wanting better control for a future pregnancy, but emotionally it’s getting harder instead of easier.

Has anyone been through something similar, taking a planned TTC break after loss but struggling emotionally as you get closer to restarting? How did you cope with the waiting, especially when the urge to try again felt so strong?

Any advice would really help.

Hi everyone,

I’m currently taking a break from TTC after a second trimester loss. My next pregnancy is considered high-risk, so I want more control and stability before trying again, especially with plans for a cerclage in the future. After the loss, I tried for 3 cycles with no success and ended up feeling really exhausted emotionally and physically. On top of that, I have a non-modifiable trip planned for August. I’ve already managed 3 full cycles during this break, and I only have about 2 cycles left before I plan to resume TTC. The problem is the closer I get to restarting, the more impatient I feel. My mind keeps racing in different directions. Part of me thinks that if I start trying now, I might not even be successful until the “right timing” anyway for the cerclage in a future pregnancy, so maybe I could just start now. But at the same time, I also worry, what if I do get pregnant straight away? Then I would be dealing with timing issues, travel, and everything else I’m trying to plan around.

So I feel stuck between two thoughts:

“Just try now and stop overthinking” “Wait for the planned timing for safety and control”

Emotionally it’s getting harder instead of easier the closer I get to August, and I’m really struggling with the waiting even though I know there are practical reasons for it. Has anyone been through something similar, taking a TTC break after loss but struggling more the closer you get to restarting? How did you manage the impatience and the mental back-and-forth?

Any advice would really help.