I'm beginning my transition journey slowly but surely, and I wanna find inspo in other Asian guys who've gone through this. There's so many white dudes but not as many asians.
Where y'all at?
I feel like there's very few Asian transmascs/ftm out there.
When I try to find inspiration in beginning my transition journey it's mostly white dudes, which is great and I'm so happy I've found them, but the way scars heal, and not having white male privilege is a very real thing and that's when I remember and I then realize I ain't white, I'm short, and I'm well... Asian.
Are there any of you out there, my Asian homies? What's up!
I feel like there's very few Asian transmascs/ftm out there.
When I try to find inspiration in beginning my transition journey it's mostly white dudes, which is great and I'm so happy I've found them, but the way scars heal, and not having white male privilege is a very real thing and that's when I remember and I then realize I ain't white, I'm short, and I'm well... Asian.
Are there any of you out there, my Asian homies? What's up!
Thoughts. Sometimes I bind other times I don't out of discomfort.
Too straight for the gays, too gay for the straights
I don't know where else to post this as I'm kinda in-between rn. I'm having a hard time dating and I'm figuring out my gender and gender expression.
I'm right now she/they but I feel like how I'm dressing is matching more of a male appearance. I've been slowly realizing I might be trans in some flavor or another, and I'm in that weird transition phase with having terrible body dysmorphia and trying to dress more guy like but also still being in lesbian spaces and currently identifying as one.
Currently I'm very surfer boy aesthetic for casual and old money surf ish type for going out. Flip flops or vans, jeans or khaki like shorts, tshirt or button down with a cap, little jewelry. And then at night, trousers with a button down with a necklace and a few rings.
The nyc lesbians online have expressed I'm too tech bro in my outfits. I don't wanna change how I dress, but it's clearly not doing me any good for the dating scene. And it's hard because I just am not attracted to dressing with a bunch of rings and see thru shirts and a bunch of gothy makeup. Makes me feel really inadequate, ON TOP OF trying to figure my gender out and not being accepted into either grp (lesbian or trans atm).
I thought I was cis but I'm examining now my behaviors and how I dress and how I go about the world and that I may be trans or NB at the very least.
Any advice? I'm like going thru an identity crisis 😭🥲🥹
Too straight for the gays, too gay for the straights
Too straight for the gays, too gay for the straights
I don't know where else to post this as I'm kinda in-between rn. I'm having a hard time dating and I'm figuring out my gender and gender expression.
I'm right now she/they but I feel like how I'm dressing is matching more of a male appearance. I've been slowly realizing I might be trans in some flavor or another, and I'm in that weird transition phase with having terrible body dysmorphia and trying to dress more guy like but also still being in lesbian spaces and currently identifying as one.
Currently I'm very surfer boy aesthetic for casual and old money surf ish type for going out. Flip flops or vans, jeans or khaki like shorts, tshirt or button down with a cap, little jewelry. And then at night, trousers with a button down with a necklace and a few rings.
The nyc lesbians online have expressed I'm too tech bro in my outfits. I don't wanna change how I dress, but it's clearly not doing me any good for the dating scene. And it's hard because I just am not attracted to dressing with a bunch of rings and see thru shirts and a bunch of gothy makeup. Makes me feel really inadequate, ON TOP OF trying to figure my gender out and not being accepted into either grp (lesbian or trans atm).
I thought I was cis but I'm examining now my behaviors and how I dress and how I go about the world and that I may be trans or NB at the very least.
Any advice? I'm like going thru an identity crisis and hate myself for this flip flopping back and forth 😭🥲🥹
I absolutely love my family. They're all super supportive of me being lesbian and all that came with that.
But I'm worried as I figure my gender out and realizing I may be on the trans or nb and I don't know how to deal with telling my immediate family about pronouns and hrt and any of that if I do choose to come out.
I don't have a mom anymore and my dad means so much to me. My dad in particular was rlly nice about me being lesbian but I don't think he fully understands lesbianism let alone being trans. He dead names people sometimes, and mockingly used they/them when trying to explain about his best friends daughter dating a NB person.
I thought he was really open but maybe that's the line of his liberalism? I just don't know or feel comfy coming out, not that he'd do anything or disown me. But I feel like I'd loose the last part of myself in his eyes, his perfect princess. I know he already felt his world shatter a bit when I came out as lesbian cuz it wasn't what he had envisioned for me.
How do you go about telling family, and friends, and long time neighbors, etc. it seems scary and embarrassing. I don't know how to tackle this topic.
I absolutely love my family. They're all super supportive of me being lesbian and all that came with that.
But I'm worried as I figure my gender out and realizing I may be on the trans/nb and I don't know how to deal with telling my immediate family about pronouns and hrt and any of that if I do choose to come out.
I don't have a mom anymore and my dad means so much to me. My dad in particular was rlly nice about me being lesbian but I don't think he fully understands lesbianism let alone being trans. He dead names people sometimes, and mockingly used they/them when trying to explain about his best friends daughter dating a NB person.
I thought he was really open but maybe that's the line of his liberalism? I just don't know or feel comfy coming out, not that he'd do anything or disown me. But I feel like I'd loose the last part of myself in his eyes, his perfect princess. I know he already felt his world shatter a bit when I came out as lesbian cuz it wasn't what he had envisioned for me.
How do you go about telling family, and friends, and long time neighbors, etc. it seems scary and embarrassing. I don't know how to tackle this topic.