r/TMPOC

I was at Olive Garden and this dude came up to our table and when I asked for a drink he said “yes ma’am” and I mentally corrected him and thought “it’s sir”

anyone else do this

I hate that I have to question if people are interested in me because I have a baby face and look 15, or if they’re interested because I don’t pass, or if they’re interested because they think I’m handsome. It makes me feel so fucking insecure. It makes me feel like people just don’t actually find me attractive at all. I just wish I looked my age. Getting told you look 15 by someone you find attractive is embarrassing as hell. I’m so upset. I’m 20. I’ve been on T for like 7 months. Which is just starting out, but it’s still frustrating going outside and just being seen as a Black teenage girl.

I go on dating apps and so much of the time older creepy men are interested in me because I look so young. It makes me feel so unattractive and ugly. It makes me feel like a monster.

HAS ANYONE TRAVELED OUTSIDE THE US WITH GENDER X ON A PASSPORT AND COME BACK OKAY????? Whilst under this current administration?!?!!! Asking Caribbean folks ESPECIALLY!

Am a trans man with gender X on our passport. Because that’s literally the best description for our “sex”. We believe, for ourselves and our part/alters, we are inherently anti-binary.

M is cute. Could have been Maricon from birth. Or Multi-Spirited.

F is nice too. Fagguete from birth is not bad.

But X is most accurate.

Need to travel 🧳to visit some extended family and resolve some stuff. If anyone has been able to dip and come back unscathed. Lemme know.

We still need our top surgery.

So we need able to come back in one peace ✌️.

Thanks 😊

It's been a long time since my last cut and my first time my barber dapped me up 🤸🏽

Hi - I’m just curious on which is cheaper. I wanna start HRT. unfortunately my family does not know about my identity and will not support me. So I have to go uninsured, and do this all on my own.

If anybody could share their experience with either provider or both, I’ll greatly appreciate it.

I have a job while in school still, so I really want to get gender affirming care but still have the income to support myself.

I hate when I'm enjoying something and then people start attaching gender to it. I got one of those limited edition Jack in the box bag charms from a regular at my job and really liked it. She came another day to give out more and was talking about how she only got them for the girls because she didn't have enough, and was real strict about only giving them to the women at work.... I'm not really that exited about it anymore.

I'm not really out or perceivably trans so it is what it is, but also it sucks.

It's hard.

4 years on T. Strange day today.

First, I thought someone called me "Miss" outside a shop. Was super confused and wondered if I'd misheard. He wasn't making eye contact and I don't get misgendered at all.

Then, the mother of a new student I tutor kept calling me "she". I corrected her, and she said it was because of her language skills. English isn't her first language, and some languages don't have gendered pronouns. She's also very Christian, and my name is a masculine Bible name, so she should know I'm male. But she doesn't call her son "she". So...

I had to just walk home and deal with the confusion and upset. I was interested to find that I cared less than I used to. Whether or not people see me correctly doesn't change who I am. But it does change how I feel in public, and how I feel at work, and how I feel in new environments. And that counts for a lot.

It's exhausting, and we have limited power to change it. I see a lot of advice going round ftm subs about how to act and dress, but the truth is that there's only so much you can control. And there's also only so much you can know. Maybe a tenth of the public thinks I'm a woman. Who knows.

It's hard to accept that when you don't feel happy with where you're at yet. There's a lot I still want to change about my body.

But I know I'm not a "she", and I knew that before everyone else could see it.

So screw the public

Hi, I am 20 yrs old and I’m looking for a new name! (He/she prns please)

im half black/ half white, I look exactly like my black parent but lighter skinned.

I’d like a name that’s of west African descent(?) and sounds nice in English, or something similar?. I was only raised by said parent for most of my life and my past names have been….very European/white, as my example of trans people where always white guys on the internet when I was young. but as I’m an adult I’m looking for a more permanent name that connects me with my culture.

I can’t go to my parent as they’re unsupportive of my transition and all of my friends are outside my culture.

The ones I’ve had in the past have either been to fem or too masc seeming for me, looking for something distinctly unisex

If anyone has any ideas that’d help a ton! Thanks

(TLDR: looking for a unisex name)

Wassup group?! 39 yr old black transman in Northern Cali. New here. Where the fellas at? Anyone interested in talking and or texting sometime. Hmu drama free. Lets connect.