u/HasegawaAkane

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I'm Chinese. I know it's strange to emphasize this, but under the pressure of our education system, I'm used to oppressing myself with countless standards.

I always thought that everyone couldn't concentrate just like me. After having communication with my friends, I found that not everyone is like that and there might be a pathological reason.

I have always been a top stuent, but my performance in college was not ideal, which made me very depressed and anxious, and I have been receiving psychological treatment. Recently, I was officially diagnosed with ADHD. The counselor told me that I must be very smart and have strong willpower to get to this point. When I heard this, I burst into tears in an instant, because I have always made countless times more efforts than ordinary people to concentrate, but I don't know why I am always distracted and can't learn.

But after I was diagnosed, I seemed to be slack. Thanks to the psychological counselor's understanding of my struggle and affirmation of my ability, I seem to be able to accept the fact that I can't always concentrate. But I have an interview on the weekend, and I can't concentrate and make me very anxious. My mood has been jumping between anxiety and irritability, which makes me unable to enjoy life with peace of mind and concentrate on study.

What should I do? I really hope I can take medicine, but if I am diagnosed with ADHD in China, my job search will be affected. I am very conflicted now.

I’m a native Chinese speaker from China with degree in Literature and Education, so I know both Classical Chinese and Modern Mandarin. I can also hold daily conversation in English pretty comfortably.
I’m planning to visit the US soon to see my boyfriend, who is Mexican-American grew up speaking English but speak Spanish at home. I’d love to either get my Spanish off the ground so I can actually talk to his family, or push my English to the level.(｡･ω･｡)

I've always wanted to raise a piglet, but I'm worried that my parents won't like pigs that are too big. At the same time, I also like pure-colored babies.🥹🐽 I want some popular science or suggestions about pig species. I’d appreciate it

tl;dr: My boyfriend claims all 7+ of his exes were abusive toward him, and I’m wondering if this is a red flag or something I should take seriously.

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for a while now, and something has been bothering me. Whenever his past relationships come up, he describes every single ex-girlfriend as having been abusive or toxic toward him. As far as I know, he’s had at least 7 exes, and he’s 32.

I want to be a supportive partner and I absolutely believe that men can be victims of abuse — that’s not my issue at all. But something in the back of my mind is making me pause. Is it statistically realistic for every single relationship someone has been in to be abusive?

He’s super smart and sometimes even being a bit arrogant about things, I’m thinking could this be a way of framing the narrative so he’s never accountable for anything that went wrong?

I genuinely care about him and I’m not looking to villainize him. I just want to make sense of what I’m feeling. Any perspective would really help.