My partner has always told me he would never leave me no matter what that he’s here to stay. He would even say that if I tried to leave he would always find me and stalk me(not in a creepy way). Well he is breaking up with me and we’ve been through this before and I just don’t know if I should take it seriously bc of the things he’s told me or what I should do.
27f 33m What should I do if someone you are in a relationship with tells you to leave them alone when they’re trying to break up with you, is it better to just give them space and once it’s been a few days try to get them to stay or should I keep trying to get them to stay with me now even though he wants me to leave him alone? I know this sounds so desperate but I need him and he’s everything to me and I can’t lose him so I want to try to make everything work. we’ve had the same fight over and over and over again and I haven’t really changed but this is lighting a fire under my ass. Idk what to do. For some back story we’ve been together for three years and we’ve fought a lot of things like me not cleaning the house, I put all the financial burden on him, I make him unhappy anymore and I’m not fun and that all I do is bitch and whine and nothing is ever good enough and he’s tried like hell to make this work but I refuse to. He tells me I’m a bad partner and he can’t depend on me. Which is all true I haven’t been the best and when I try to change I revert back to who he doesn’t like and I just want to be someone he wants again. He just keeps telling me he can’t give me another chance and that he’s moving on and I should too and that I’m
Single and he’s single but idk if it’s out of anger. Thursday we were arguing a little bit and he didn’t really come home till probably almost 5am. Friday we argued a little bit but he seemed annoyed but also was okayish but he stayed at work to help his friend and didn’t come home till 5am. Saturday he was very short with me and didn’t come home till we were about to leave for a trip at 730am. On the other hand we went to an amusement park this past weekend and Sunday he came home at 730am like I said and he told me he was done he couldn’t do it and then we left for our trip and the whole morning he wanted nothing to do with me but towards the end of the day he was sharing food with me and talking a tiny bit to me. I was giving him hand massages in lines and when we got him I gave him a back massage. Monday morning he let me lay with him. I went home Monday for lunch to try to talk to him and he wanted nothing to do with me again. He didn’t come home that night till 330am and still wanted nothing to do with me. Tuesday before I left for work I gave him a hug and he was still sleeping but I came home on lunch that day and he let me lay with him again he seemed anxious while we were cuddling but I also was so idk if it was tension or what and he gave me a hug a quick one but he sighed before he did and gave me a squeeze. Now it’s Wednesday and he hasn’t reached out to me yet even though I texted him telling him I am going to respect him and leave him alone and I can be the person you fell in love with and I won’t procrastinate anymore and then I’m going to leave it like that and hopefully this weekend we can work something out. I have his location still and he’s still at his friends house. I just have a feeling he’s not going to come home tonight either. If he does come home is it better if I just leave him alone still instead of trying to force myself onto him and trying to talk?
27f 33m What should I do if someone you are in a relationship with tells you to leave them alone when they’re trying to break up with you, is it better to just give them space and once it’s been a few days try to get them to stay or should I keep trying to get them to stay with me now even though he wants me to leave him alone? I know this sounds so desperate but I need him and he’s everything to me and I can’t lose him so I want to try to make everything work. we’ve had the same fight over and over and over again and I haven’t really changed but this is lighting a fire under my ass. Idk what to do. For some back story we’ve been together for three years and we’ve fought a lot of things like me not cleaning the house, I put all the financial burden on him, I make him unhappy anymore and I’m not fun and that all I do is bitch and whine and nothing is ever good enough and he’s tried like hell to make this work but I refuse to. He tells me I’m a bad partner and he can’t depend on me. Which is all true I haven’t been the best and when I try to change I revert back to who he doesn’t like and I just want to be someone he wants again. He just keeps telling me he can’t give me another chance and that he’s moving on and I should too and that I’m
Single and he’s single but idk if it’s out of anger. Thursday we were arguing a little bit and he didn’t really come home till probably almost 5am. Friday we argued a little bit but he seemed annoyed but also was okayish but he stayed at work to help his friend and didn’t come home till 5am. Saturday he was very short with me and didn’t come home till we were about to leave for a trip at 730am. On the other hand we went to an amusement park this past weekend and Sunday he came home at 730am like I said and he told me he was done he couldn’t do it and then we left for our trip and the whole morning he wanted nothing to do with me but towards the end of the day he was sharing food with me and talking a tiny bit to me. I was giving him hand massages in lines and when we got him I gave him a back massage. Monday morning he let me lay with him. I went home Monday for lunch to try to talk to him and he wanted nothing to do with me again. He didn’t come home that night till 330am and still wanted nothing to do with me. Tuesday before I left for work I gave him a hug and he was still sleeping but I came home on lunch that day and he let me lay with him again he seemed anxious while we were cuddling but I also was so idk if it was tension or what and he gave me a hug a quick one but he sighed before he did and gave me a squeeze. Now it’s Wednesday and he hasn’t reached out to me yet even though I texted him telling him I am going to respect him and leave him alone and I can be the person you fell in love with and I won’t procrastinate anymore and then I’m going to leave it like that and hopefully this weekend we can work something out. I have his location still and he’s still at his friends house. I just have a feeling he’s not going to come home tonight either. If he does come home is it better if I just leave him alone still instead of trying to force myself onto him and trying to talk?
27f 33m What should I do if someone you are in a relationship with tells you to leave them alone when they’re trying to break up with you, is it better to just give them space and once it’s been a few days try to get them to stay or should I keep trying to get them to stay with me now even though he wants me to leave him alone? I know this sounds so desperate but I need him and he’s everything to me and I can’t lose him so I want to try to make everything work. We’ve been together for three years and we’ve had the same fight over and over and over again and I haven’t really changed but this is lighting a fire under my ass. Idk what to do
27F 33M Just a little back story I’ve been in a relationship for three and a half years now with an amazing person. Unfortunately I’m an idiot and I have ruined things. We have had the same fight for the past three years about how I don’t ever help with anything I accuse him of cheating when I know he’s not, I don’t show any real interest in anything like him or going out and doing stuff, I never clean our house it’s always a mess, I put on all the finical burden on him, I put all my problems on him and all of it has been true and I’ve been telling him I’ll change and then i will for a couple days and then I just revert back to doing all of those things again. Well this past week he told me he was done and actually this time and he told me he’s tried over and over and over again and gave me chance after chance after chance to fix it and he just doesn’t care anymore and doesn’t want to give me another try. I’ve been improving myself and this happening right now is making me do it even more so that I can show him I’m improving my actions. He hasn’t been coming home from work he works second shift so he gets off work at 11 and he doesn’t come home till the next day at like anywhere between 3am-7am even later sometimes. I’m just confused though bc he changed his photo on TikTok to just him. Facebook still has the header of us though I’m assuming bc he doesn’t use it often. But I still have his location, when he is home and I ask to cuddle he cuddles with me and if I ask for a hug he’ll sigh but he’ll give me a hug it’s quick one but he gives me one. I just don’t know what to do I know it’s too late and I should just leave but I can’t let myself. He’s everything to me and I don’t want to lose him forever. Idk I literally am so at loss for what to do at this point bc I’ve begged for him to stay like the most exhausting amount and he won’t budge. Idk what to do Has anyone been through something like this and how did you handle it?