u/Greedy_List_4401

There’s an update to the situation. Not necessarily one that makes me feel any better.

https://www.reddit.com/r/cheating_stories/s/9uK5nrnRZ6

We argued yesterday. The reason was that I asked her to send me the chat again because I wanted to check if it was really true that she only talked to him once after telling me goodnight.

I forgot to mention this in my previous post: he used to text her sometimes late at night when he couldn’t sleep. There were messages exchanged after she had already told me she was going to sleep.

At first, she told me, “That never happened.” But when I compared the chats and showed her proof right in front of her, it suddenly became, “Okay, yeah, that one time.”

Yesterday I wanted to verify things again, but she completely shut down. We got into a fight, and in my anger I told her, “Either you send it within 5 minutes or I’m gone.” I’m not proud of that at all. I overreacted.

Later, I called her to try to sort things out calmly. My proposal was simple: she could just tell me honestly if there had been more than that one time, and afterward I would check the chat again only to see if it matched what she said.

At first, she didn’t even respond to that proposal. Only after I asked again did she say that this was her boundary.

But after I made that suggestion, a whole wave hit me. A wave of: “I’ve done everything.” “I didn’t do anything wrong.” “You’re the one thinking wrong.” “I’m right.” “I’m the victim here.” She also said that all of this is toxic and that she definitely isn’t toxic herself.

It felt overwhelming, like my feelings were automatically invalid and everything somehow became about her again.

What really bothered me is that I still can’t shake the feeling that it happened more than just that one time. And every time we argue about it, I feel powerless against her arguments.

This time though, part of me almost stopped caring during the conversation, because once again everything shifted back to being about her instead of addressing why I feel hurt in the first place.

Hello, I would like some outside perspectives on my relationship situation because I honestly don’t know anymore if I’m overreacting or not.

My girlfriend and I have been together for 5 years in a long-distance relationship (around 800km apart).

She has known a guy called John for about 2 years, and they have been in frequent contact for around 1.5 years.

At first, I actually tried to connect with him myself. I even invited him to a festival with us because I trusted her and wanted to be open-minded.

However, around April 2025, he started becoming more and more present in her life. He slowly became “the guy for everything.” If she wanted to go to a concert, he was suddenly the only option. If she wanted to do something else, again he was always the first and only person mentioned.

Then in December 2025 something happened that really bothered me:

On a Saturday she told me multiple times she was staying home and “having a quiet evening.” Later she suddenly went to the cinema with him. According to her it was spontaneous, but apparently by 11am it was already clear they would spend the day together. After the cinema they also went out for ice cream.

The next day she texted me saying she noticed it had bothered me. What confused me was: if she already noticed I was uncomfortable, why continue extending the date afterwards?

After that, we agreed that they would only do things in group settings. But even after that:

When someone asked if they would travel together by train to a group meetup, she reacted with a heart emoji after he agreed.

During another group meetup, she drove him home afterwards.

These are small things individually, but together they keep bothering me.

I repeatedly told her that I felt uncomfortable with the emotional closeness between them. Especially because some of the activities they planned together were things we used to do during our own early dating phase.

She always reassured me:

“He is just a friend.”

“There is nothing flirty.”

“You are overthinking this.”

In April 2026 I saw messages on her phone that honestly changed my perspective completely:

She called him “Süßmaus” (a cute/flirty nickname) after he said he wanted her attention.

She randomly wrote “You’re the best ❤️” when he didn’t reply for 5 minutes.

She wrote “thinking about you” when he asked what she was doing that evening.

I also found out they had planned to meet far more often than I knew. Usually I was only informed shortly before or after meetings happened.

They met for walks around 5 times, but apparently around 20 meetings were planned and then cancelled or replaced with phone calls.

They also planned movie nights together twice. Those only didn’t happen because, according to her, “my boyfriend will be here.”

When confronted, her responses became:

“It was stupid of me.”

“You need to see the context.”

“He talks like that with everyone.”

“He is just a friend.”

The difficult part for me is that in the past, whenever I brought this topic up, my feelings became the problem instead. I was labeled as jealous or insecure, and told that my anxiety was something I needed to work on.

After I saw the chats and finally stood my ground properly for the first time, she ended contact with him completely.

Now I honestly don’t know how to process all of this.

To me this feels very close to emotional cheating, especially because there was secrecy, emotional intimacy, minimizing, and shifting blame onto me whenever I expressed discomfort.

Am I overreacting, or are my feelings justified?

Hello, I would like some outside perspectives on my relationship situation because I honestly don’t know anymore if I’m overreacting or not.

My girlfriend and I have been together for 5 years in a long-distance relationship (around 800km apart).

She has known a guy called John for about 2 years, and they have been in frequent contact for around 1.5 years.

At first, I actually tried to connect with him myself. I even invited him to a festival with us because I trusted her and wanted to be open-minded.

However, around April 2025, he started becoming more and more present in her life. He slowly became “the guy for everything.” If she wanted to go to a concert, he was suddenly the only option. If she wanted to do something else, again he was always the first and only person mentioned.

Then in December 2025 something happened that really bothered me:

On a Saturday she told me multiple times she was staying home and “having a quiet evening.” Later she suddenly went to the cinema with him. According to her it was spontaneous, but apparently by 11am it was already clear they would spend the day together. After the cinema they also went out for ice cream.

The next day she texted me saying she noticed it had bothered me. What confused me was: if she already noticed I was uncomfortable, why continue extending the date afterwards?

After that, we agreed that they would only do things in group settings. But even after that:

When someone asked if they would travel together by train to a group meetup, she reacted with a heart emoji after he agreed.

During another group meetup, she drove him home afterwards.

These are small things individually, but together they keep bothering me.

I repeatedly told her that I felt uncomfortable with the emotional closeness between them. Especially because some of the activities they planned together were things we used to do during our own early dating phase.

She always reassured me:

“He is just a friend.”

“There is nothing flirty.”

“You are overthinking this.”

In April 2026 I saw messages on her phone that honestly changed my perspective completely:

She called him “Süßmaus” (a cute/flirty nickname) after he said he wanted her attention.

She randomly wrote “You’re the best ❤️” when he didn’t reply for 5 minutes.

She wrote “thinking about you” when he asked what she was doing that evening.

I also found out they had planned to meet far more often than I knew. Usually I was only informed shortly before or after meetings happened.

They met for walks around 5 times, but apparently around 20 meetings were planned and then cancelled or replaced with phone calls.

They also planned movie nights together twice. Those only didn’t happen because, according to her, “my boyfriend will be here.”

When confronted, her responses became:

“It was stupid of me.”

“You need to see the context.”

“He talks like that with everyone.”

“He is just a friend.”

The difficult part for me is that in the past, whenever I brought this topic up, my feelings became the problem instead. I was labeled as jealous or insecure, and told that my anxiety was something I needed to work on.

After I saw the chats and finally stood my ground properly for the first time, she ended contact with him completely.

Now I honestly don’t know how to process all of this.

To me this feels very close to emotional cheating, especially because there was secrecy, emotional intimacy, minimizing, and shifting blame onto me whenever I expressed discomfort.

Am I overreacting, or are my feelings justified?

Hello, I would like some outside perspectives on my relationship situation because I honestly don’t know anymore if I’m overreacting or not.

My girlfriend and I have been together for 5 years in a long-distance relationship (around 800km apart).

She has known a guy called John for about 2 years, and they have been in frequent contact for around 1.5 years.

At first, I actually tried to connect with him myself. I even invited him to a festival with us because I trusted her and wanted to be open-minded.

However, around April 2025, he started becoming more and more present in her life. He slowly became “the guy for everything.” If she wanted to go to a concert, he was suddenly the only option. If she wanted to do something else, again he was always the first and only person mentioned.

Then in December 2025 something happened that really bothered me:

On a Saturday she told me multiple times she was staying home and “having a quiet evening.” Later she suddenly went to the cinema with him. According to her it was spontaneous, but apparently by 11am it was already clear they would spend the day together. After the cinema they also went out for ice cream.

The next day she texted me saying she noticed it had bothered me. What confused me was: if she already noticed I was uncomfortable, why continue extending the date afterwards?

After that, we agreed that they would only do things in group settings. But even after that:

When someone asked if they would travel together by train to a group meetup, she reacted with a heart emoji after he agreed.

During another group meetup, she drove him home afterwards.

These are small things individually, but together they keep bothering me.

I repeatedly told her that I felt uncomfortable with the emotional closeness between them. Especially because some of the activities they planned together were things we used to do during our own early dating phase.

She always reassured me:

“He is just a friend.”

“There is nothing flirty.”

“You are overthinking this.”

In April 2026 I saw messages on her phone that honestly changed my perspective completely:

She called him “Süßmaus” (a cute/flirty nickname) after he said he wanted her attention.

She randomly wrote “You’re the best ❤️” when he didn’t reply for 5 minutes.

She wrote “thinking about you” when he asked what she was doing that evening.

I also found out they had planned to meet far more often than I knew. Usually I was only informed shortly before or after meetings happened.

They met for walks around 5 times, but apparently around 20 meetings were planned and then cancelled or replaced with phone calls.

They also planned movie nights together twice. Those only didn’t happen because, according to her, “my boyfriend will be here.”

When confronted, her responses became:

“It was stupid of me.”

“You need to see the context.”

“He talks like that with everyone.”

“He is just a friend.”

The difficult part for me is that in the past, whenever I brought this topic up, my feelings became the problem instead. I was labeled as jealous or insecure, and told that my anxiety was something I needed to work on.

After I saw the chats and finally stood my ground properly for the first time, she ended contact with him completely.

Now I honestly don’t know how to process all of this.

To me this feels very close to emotional cheating, especially because there was secrecy, emotional intimacy, minimizing, and shifting blame onto me whenever I expressed discomfort.

Am I overreacting, or are my feelings justified?

Hello, I would like some outside perspectives on my relationship situation because I honestly don’t know anymore if I’m overreacting or not.

My girlfriend and I have been together for 5 years in a long-distance relationship (around 800km apart).

She has known a guy called John for about 2 years, and they have been in frequent contact for around 1.5 years.

At first, I actually tried to connect with him myself. I even invited him to a festival with us because I trusted her and wanted to be open-minded.

However, around April 2025, he started becoming more and more present in her life. He slowly became “the guy for everything.” If she wanted to go to a concert, he was suddenly the only option. If she wanted to do something else, again he was always the first and only person mentioned.

Then in December 2025 something happened that really bothered me:

On a Saturday she told me multiple times she was staying home and “having a quiet evening.” Later she suddenly went to the cinema with him. According to her it was spontaneous, but apparently by 11am it was already clear they would spend the day together. After the cinema they also went out for ice cream.

The next day she texted me saying she noticed it had bothered me. What confused me was: if she already noticed I was uncomfortable, why continue extending the date afterwards?

After that, we agreed that they would only do things in group settings. But even after that:

When someone asked if they would travel together by train to a group meetup, she reacted with a heart emoji after he agreed.

During another group meetup, she drove him home afterwards.

These are small things individually, but together they keep bothering me.

I repeatedly told her that I felt uncomfortable with the emotional closeness between them. Especially because some of the activities they planned together were things we used to do during our own early dating phase.

She always reassured me:

“He is just a friend.”

“There is nothing flirty.”

“You are overthinking this.”

In April 2026 I saw messages on her phone that honestly changed my perspective completely:

She called him “Süßmaus” (a cute/flirty nickname) after he said he wanted her attention.

She randomly wrote “You’re the best ❤️” when he didn’t reply for 5 minutes.

She wrote “thinking about you” when he asked what she was doing that evening.

I also found out they had planned to meet far more often than I knew. Usually I was only informed shortly before or after meetings happened.

They met for walks around 5 times, but apparently around 20 meetings were planned and then cancelled or replaced with phone calls.

They also planned movie nights together twice. Those only didn’t happen because, according to her, “my boyfriend will be here.”

When confronted, her responses became:

“It was stupid of me.”

“You need to see the context.”

“He talks like that with everyone.”

“He is just a friend.”

The difficult part for me is that in the past, whenever I brought this topic up, my feelings became the problem instead. I was labeled as jealous or insecure, and told that my anxiety was something I needed to work on.

After I saw the chats and finally stood my ground properly for the first time, she ended contact with him completely.

Now I honestly don’t know how to process all of this.

To me this feels very close to emotional cheating, especially because there was secrecy, emotional intimacy, minimizing, and shifting blame onto me whenever I expressed discomfort.

Am I overreacting, or are my feelings justified?

Hello, I would like some outside perspectives on my relationship situation because I honestly don’t know anymore if I’m overreacting or not.

My girlfriend and I have been together for 5 years in a long-distance relationship (around 800km apart).

She has known a guy called John for about 2 years, and they have been in frequent contact for around 1.5 years.

At first, I actually tried to connect with him myself. I even invited him to a festival with us because I trusted her and wanted to be open-minded.

However, around April 2025, he started becoming more and more present in her life. He slowly became “the guy for everything.” If she wanted to go to a concert, he was suddenly the only option. If she wanted to do something else, again he was always the first and only person mentioned.

Then in December 2025 something happened that really bothered me:

On a Saturday she told me multiple times she was staying home and “having a quiet evening.” Later she suddenly went to the cinema with him. According to her it was spontaneous, but apparently by 11am it was already clear they would spend the day together. After the cinema they also went out for ice cream.

The next day she texted me saying she noticed it had bothered me. What confused me was: if she already noticed I was uncomfortable, why continue extending the date afterwards?

After that, we agreed that they would only do things in group settings. But even after that:

When someone asked if they would travel together by train to a group meetup, she reacted with a heart emoji after he agreed.

During another group meetup, she drove him home afterwards.

These are small things individually, but together they keep bothering me.

I repeatedly told her that I felt uncomfortable with the emotional closeness between them. Especially because some of the activities they planned together were things we used to do during our own early dating phase.

She always reassured me:

“He is just a friend.”

“There is nothing flirty.”

“You are overthinking this.”

In April 2026 I saw messages on her phone that honestly changed my perspective completely:

She called him “Süßmaus” (a cute/flirty nickname) after he said he wanted her attention.

She randomly wrote “You’re the best ❤️” when he didn’t reply for 5 minutes.

She wrote “thinking about you” when he asked what she was doing that evening.

I also found out they had planned to meet far more often than I knew. Usually I was only informed shortly before or after meetings happened.

They met for walks around 5 times, but apparently around 20 meetings were planned and then cancelled or replaced with phone calls.

They also planned movie nights together twice. Those only didn’t happen because, according to her, “my boyfriend will be here.”

When confronted, her responses became:

“It was stupid of me.”

“You need to see the context.”

“He talks like that with everyone.”

“He is just a friend.”

The difficult part for me is that in the past, whenever I brought this topic up, my feelings became the problem instead. I was labeled as jealous or insecure, and told that my anxiety was something I needed to work on.

After I saw the chats and finally stood my ground properly for the first time, she ended contact with him completely.

Now I honestly don’t know how to process all of this.

To me this feels very close to emotional cheating, especially because there was secrecy, emotional intimacy, minimizing, and shifting blame onto me whenever I expressed discomfort.

Am I overreacting, or are my feelings justified?

Hello, I would like some outside perspectives on my relationship situation because I honestly don’t know anymore if I’m overreacting or not.

My girlfriend and I have been together for 5 years in a long-distance relationship (around 800km apart).

She has known a guy called John for about 2 years, and they have been in frequent contact for around 1.5 years.

At first, I actually tried to connect with him myself. I even invited him to a festival with us because I trusted her and wanted to be open-minded.

However, around April 2025, he started becoming more and more present in her life. He slowly became “the guy for everything.” If she wanted to go to a concert, he was suddenly the only option. If she wanted to do something else, again he was always the first and only person mentioned.

Then in December 2025 something happened that really bothered me:

On a Saturday she told me multiple times she was staying home and “having a quiet evening.” Later she suddenly went to the cinema with him. According to her it was spontaneous, but apparently by 11am it was already clear they would spend the day together. After the cinema they also went out for ice cream.

The next day she texted me saying she noticed it had bothered me. What confused me was: if she already noticed I was uncomfortable, why continue extending the date afterwards?

After that, we agreed that they would only do things in group settings. But even after that:

When someone asked if they would travel together by train to a group meetup, she reacted with a heart emoji after he agreed.

During another group meetup, she drove him home afterwards.

These are small things individually, but together they keep bothering me.

I repeatedly told her that I felt uncomfortable with the emotional closeness between them. Especially because some of the activities they planned together were things we used to do during our own early dating phase.

She always reassured me:

“He is just a friend.”

“There is nothing flirty.”

“You are overthinking this.”

In April 2026 I saw messages on her phone that honestly changed my perspective completely:

She called him “Süßmaus” (a cute/flirty nickname) after he said he wanted her attention.

She randomly wrote “You’re the best ❤️” when he didn’t reply for 5 minutes.

She wrote “thinking about you” when he asked what she was doing that evening.

I also found out they had planned to meet far more often than I knew. Usually I was only informed shortly before or after meetings happened.

They met for walks around 5 times, but apparently around 20 meetings were planned and then cancelled or replaced with phone calls.

They also planned movie nights together twice. Those only didn’t happen because, according to her, “my boyfriend will be here.”

When confronted, her responses became:

“It was stupid of me.”

“You need to see the context.”

“He talks like that with everyone.”

“He is just a friend.”

The difficult part for me is that in the past, whenever I brought this topic up, my feelings became the problem instead. I was labeled as jealous or insecure, and told that my anxiety was something I needed to work on.

After I saw the chats and finally stood my ground properly for the first time, she ended contact with him completely.

Now I honestly don’t know how to process all of this.

To me this feels very close to emotional cheating, especially because there was secrecy, emotional intimacy, minimizing, and shifting blame onto me whenever I expressed discomfort.

Am I overreacting, or are my feelings justified?

Hello, I made a post here yesterday. I realized that I need to organize and explain the story a bit better. I read some comments saying that she is toxic, and that really hit me hard—especially because, according to her, she had a toxic ex-partner and father.

My girlfriend and I have been together for 5 years in a long-distance relationship (around 800km apart).

She has known a guy called "John" for about 2 years, and they have been in frequent contact for around 1.5 years.

At first, I actually tried to connect with him myself. I even invited him to a festival with us because I trusted her and wanted to be open-minded.

However, around April 2025, he started becoming more and more present in her life. He slowly became “the guy for everything.” If she wanted to go to a concert, he was suddenly the only option. If she wanted to do something else, again he was always the first and only person mentioned.

Then in December 2025 something happened that really bothered me:

On a Saturday she told me multiple times she was staying home and “having a quiet evening.” Later she suddenly went to the cinema with him. According to her it was spontaneous, but apparently by 11am it was already clear they would spend the day together. After the cinema they also went out for ice cream.

The next day she texted me saying she noticed it had bothered me. What confused me was: if she already noticed I was uncomfortable, why continue extending the date afterwards?

After that, we agreed that they would only do things in group settings. But even after that:

When someone asked if they would travel together by train to a group meetup, she reacted with a heart emoji after he agreed.

During another group meetup, she drove him home afterwards.

These are small things individually, but together they keep bothering me.

I repeatedly told her that I felt uncomfortable with the emotional closeness between them. Especially because some of the activities they planned together were things we used to do during our own early dating phase.

She always reassured me:

“He is just a friend.”

“There is nothing flirty.”

“You are overthinking this.”

In April 2026 I saw messages on her phone that honestly changed my perspective completely:

She called him “Süßmaus” (a cute/flirty nickname) after he said he wanted her attention.

She randomly wrote “You’re the best ❤️” when he didn’t reply for 5 minutes.

She wrote “thinking about you” when he asked what she was doing that evening.

I also found out they had planned to meet far more often than I knew. Usually I was only informed shortly before or after meetings happened.

They met for walks around 5 times, but apparently around 20 meetings were planned and then cancelled or replaced with phone calls.

They also planned movie nights together twice. Those only didn’t happen because, according to her, “my boyfriend will be here.”

When confronted, her responses became:

“It was stupid of me.”

“You need to see the context.”

“He talks like that with everyone.”

“He is just a friend.”

The difficult part for me is that in the past, whenever I brought this topic up, my feelings became the problem instead. I was labeled as jealous or insecure, and told that my anxiety was something I needed to work on.

After I saw the chats and finally stood my ground properly for the first time, she ended contact with him completely.

Now I honestly don’t know how to process all of this.

To me this feels very close to emotional cheating, especially because there was secrecy, emotional intimacy, minimizing, and shifting blame onto me whenever I expressed discomfort.

I’m trying to figure out how to process a situation in my relationship and would really appreciate some outside perspectives.

My girlfriend has been in contact with another guy, which she initially described as “just a friend” with “no emotional or flirty intent.” However, over time I found out things that don’t match those statements:

She called him things like “Süßmaus” (a cute/flirty nickname)

Told him things like “thinking of you”

They planned movie nights together (which I didn’t know about)

She spent an entire day with him (cinema etc.) while telling me she was staying home

She sometimes told me she was going to sleep, but then continued texting him for 1–2 more hours

When I first brought it up, I was labeled as “jealous” and told I was overreacting. After I saw some of the messages, it changed to things like “it wasn’t meant that way” or “yeah, that was stupid.”

There’s also a pattern where she first denies things (“that never happened”), and then later partially admits them (“okay, but only once”), which makes it hard for me to trust what’s true.

When I tried to set a boundary and said I can’t accept this kind of behavior, the conversation shifted into what I’ve done wrong over the past years, which felt unfair and unrelated to the current issue.

At this point, I feel like:

My trust has been damaged

My concerns are being minimized or deflected

I’m not getting clear, consistent honesty

She did react very emotionally when it became serious (crying for hours, being very attached), but I’m unsure whether that reflects real accountability or just fear of losing the relationship.

I personally feel like this crosses into emotional cheating, but she downplays it.

I’m struggling with:

Whether I’m overreacting or justified

Whether this is something that can realistically be rebuilt

How to deal with the lack of consistent honesty

Would really appreciate honest opinions.

Ich (m24) bin seit ca. 1–1,5 Jahren in einer Fernbeziehung.

Vor kurzem habe ich herausgefunden, dass meine Freundin über einen längeren Zeitraum (ca. 1,5 Jahre) mit einem Typen aus ihrem Umfeld (Uni/Freundeskreis) engen Kontakt hatte.

Dabei ging es nicht nur um normalen freundschaftlichen Austausch. Ich habe Dinge gesehen wie:

- Kosenamen („Süssbär“ etc.)

- Nachrichten wie „ich denke an dich“

- „du bist der Beste ❤️“

- geplante Treffen und Filmabende

- generell eine emotionale Nähe, die für mich klar über Freundschaft hinausgeht

Was mein Vertrauen zusätzlich belastet hat:

Es gab Situationen, in denen sie nicht ehrlich bzw. transparent war. Zum Beispiel ist sie einmal relativ spontan mit besagtem Freund ins Kino gegangen und hatte mir vorher gesagt, dass sie zuhause bleibt. Später habe ich herausgefunden, dass dieses Treffen eigentlich schon den ganzen Tag über geplant wurde.

Sie hat mir also etwas anderes gesagt, als tatsächlich passiert ist. Das hat bei mir stark am Vertrauen gekratzt, vor allem weil wir eigentlich abgesprochen hatten, uns mehr in den Alltag mitzunehmen.

Als ich sie auf den Kontakt mit dem anderen Typen angesprochen habe, hat sie zuerst gesagt, dass das „nicht so gemeint“ und „nicht flirtig“ war. Gleichzeitig hat sie aber auch zugegeben, dass es „scheisse von ihr“ war.

Für mich passt das nicht zusammen, weil das Verhalten für mich eindeutig nicht mehr freundschaftlich ist.

Ich habe dann eine klare Grenze gesetzt und gesagt, dass ich so etwas in einer Beziehung nicht akzeptieren kann. Die Situation ist daraufhin stark eskaliert (viel Weinen, Angst mich zu verlieren etc.). Am Ende hat sie den Kontakt zu ihm komplett abgebrochen. Jedoch zuerst war ich der Eiversüchtige und änstliche Typ der sich zu unrecht sorgen macht.

Seitdem verhält sie sich deutlich anders:

- sie zeigt viel mehr Einsatz

- macht Geschenke

- sagt Dinge wie „ich will dich nicht verlieren“, „ich liebe dich mehr als alles“

- verspricht, dass so etwas nie wieder passiert

Ich bin jetzt ziemlich hin- und hergerissen:

- Einerseits sehe ich, dass sie den Kontakt beendet hat und sich Mühe gibt

- Andererseits lief das Ganze über einen langen Zeitraum und wurde von ihr heruntergespielt

- zusätzlich ist mein Vertrauen durch solche Situationen (wie die Kino-Sache) generell angeschlagen

Ich habe mir erstmal Abstand genommen, weil ich das emotional sortieren muss. Dazu kommt, dass mein ADHS Kopfkino nicht gerade förderlich ist für die ganze Situation.

Meine Frage:

Wie würdet ihr das einschätzen?

- Ist das für euch schon emotionales Fremdgehen?

- Würdet ihr nach so etwas noch Vertrauen aufbauen oder eher einen Schlussstrich ziehen?

Edit wir sind 5 Jahre zusammen & das gym ist keine option für mich;)