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Some background: I was born with complete agenesis of the corpus callosum (ACC), which means the structure connecting the two hemispheres of my brain is entirely absent. I also have central sleep apnea, and I’ve long suspected these are connected, like the nerves responsible for activating my diaphragm aren’t receiving full signal. I also had extended bedwetting as a child until around age 10, which I now believe was part of the same picture: underactivation of pelvic and autonomic neural pathways rather than anything structurally broken.

One consequence I never talked about much: I’ve had penile numbness my whole life. Sex wasn’t unpleasant, but I genuinely didn’t understand what the fuss was about. It could take hours to orgasm, sometimes I’d just give up. Partners seemed to enjoy it but I felt empty and disconnected from the experience.

Recently I’ve been getting seriously into weightlifting, deadlifts especially- and pelvic floor work. I’ve been in Madrid without my regular trainer so I’ve been improvising, including carrying my wife up stairs as a loaded carry.

Last night something shifted. Huge rush of blood to the pelvis, and for the first time in my life my penis wasn’t numb. I felt every sensation, every single one. I finally understood what people mean when they talk about sex being incredible.

My working theory: the heavy compound loading drove serious blood flow and mechanical activation into the pelvic region, combined with an acute testosterone spike, and essentially turned up the volume on pathways that were always there but chronically underlit, possibly due to the ACC-related autonomic irregularities I’ve had my whole life.

Has anyone else experienced reduced pelvic or genital sensation connected to neurological differences, and found physical training made a difference? Curious whether this resonates with anyone.

Thank you for taking to the time to read!

Hi guys

Two days ago I tore my frenulum not fully but the pain is somewhat exists.

I am scared on how it heals and how long it takes

What to do for it to heal 😭

Kindly help guys 🙏

While I don’t want to spark fear, I want to remind men that if you use a dating app, there is a very high chance your picture is being posted to your local private "Are We Dating The Same Guy" groups. Many men are doubtful or in denial that they're being posted. But I can assure you, it is happening at a mass. I ask, please bring awareness to this issue, tell your friends, and don't make it acceptable. Posting people’s pictures for mistakes they've made in the past for hundreds of thousands of people to see and judge is NOT okay. We don’t need to make this about gender. Humans will make mistakes, and sometimes they learn from them. I understand the argument as to why the groups exist, but if you've seen the comments and things being said, you'd understand the issue. Please report your local groups, protect men’s mental health. We are not for review!

I am a 38-year-old slim male. On March 31, 2025 I underwent a bilateral inguinal hernia repair (open technique with mesh). Apart from the expected pain during the first week after surgery, I have not experienced any mechanical pain afterward, meaning I have never felt pain directly caused by pressure on the operated area or by movement. Instead, I have always had discomfort (I repeat, never real pain) on the left side: under the surgical scar, inner thigh, etc. The right side has always been completely silent, so much so that sometimes I even forget I had surgery there as well. The discomfort on the left side is cyclical in its manifestations: a feeling of “presence” in the operated area, a pulsing sensation, and even (but only after several months) scrotal retraction with consequent testicular discomfort and partial erection, which suggests a cremasteric reflex. Voluntary erections and ejaculation are normal. Palpation of the testicles has never caused pain, nor have I noticed any abnormal masses. I often perform cough and pressure tests under the shower on the area: no bulge, no pain. I realize that compared to other stories I read online I am fortunate, but this recovery that never feels 100% is frustrating, also because the discomfort is unpredictable and alternating. I know it could be a nerve compression/irritation and that I should do an ultrasound etc., but I am afraid of finding out what might be there, which is why I keep postponing it haha.

So basically the last few years. I’ve been homeschooled and I do have friends and family I hangout a lot with, including my gf. But at times I feel empty I feel like nothing and it’s something I’ve been struggling with for some time man. Maybe it’s because I sit in my room for like 3/4 of my day doing schoolwork but I also doom scroll a lot. I like to work and make money but sometimes man I don’t wanna do it. I’ve been working out on and off yk have a few gains nothing much. I feel like I’m a little above average for like other dudes my age they all sit and play video games all day but I love to go out and play sports and go fishing. But even those things have just been not as interesting recently. Maybe it’s something to do with my phone man I gotta put it down and lock in. I stopped masturbating and watching porn and I’m proud of it. Maybe if I put my phone down more often I’ll have something to smile about. In these next 6 months I feel like I should enjoy life as a kid/teen before I gotta be an adult and take responsibility. Does anyone have any advice on what I should do? Also maybe some advice on what I should start doing to plan for my adult hood and marriage/ family? Or some things I could do to even just make my health better and have a healthy mind? Any advice helps guys thank you!

I’m 32 and had my circumcision done 3 weeks ago. I went for a low and tight style under local anaesthetic.

The procedure itself was quicker than I expected, but the recovery has been more uncomfortable than I anticipated. I’m still dealing with quite a bit of swelling, sensitivity at the scar line, and some tightness when I get erections. Sleeping is still tricky because any movement pulls on the stitches.

For guys who’ve had an adult circumcision:

How long did the worst of the swelling actually last for you?

When did you feel comfortable wearing normal underwear again?

How long until you could masturbate or have sex without pain or fear of splitting the stitches?

Did anyone have issues with the scar healing or tightness long-term?

Any tips that actually helped with the first 4 weeks?

I’m taking it easy, keeping it clean, and using the cream they gave me, but I’d love to hear real experiences from others who’ve been through it as adults. Thanks.

i am struggling with this question from long back.