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Has anyone bought any stones off etsy? They seem to have good deals but I’m worried that I could be buying fake stones. Any recommendations on etsy stone sellers?

I have a personal rate that date story.

This story starts before the date (I promise its relevant). When I was 19, I met my boyfriend at work who was 25, (I know breaks the Sean rule). We were dating for two years, still working at the same place. We worked in a store and everyone was of similar age. So we all hung out after work and had a little work-friend group going on. A new guy was hired, Ray (21), (yes this is his real name because fuck that guy) and was immediately accepted into the friend group. He started to hang out with all of us outside of work as a big group. I became close with Ray but nothing ever crossed the line. We only hung out in groups and topics of conversation always stayed appropriate. After a while I was getting the feeling that he was into me (more than just a friend). I didn’t have any proof because he never did anything that would make me feel that way. It was just a general vibe, and because of how much he would talk to me at work or by texting. Since he never did anything that crossed any lines; I ignored this feeling.

A few months go by everything was normal until he messaged me professing his feelings for me. Stating that he wants me to break up with my boyfriend and give him a chance. I shut this down immediately. I told him its not fair for anyone involved. I told him I didn’t feel the same way. But even if I did it wouldn’t be fair to break up with my boyfriend for him. It wouldn’t be fair to my boyfriend, it wouldn’t be fair to me, and it wouldn’t be fair to him. If I were to break up with my boyfriend, I would need time to heal and get over that relationship before starting a new one. Also, he would deserve a girlfriend who isn’t working through getting over feelings for another guy. I explained it this way to try to let him down easy and try not to hurt his feelings. Then I told him that I didn’t think it would be okay for me and him to continue the friendship. Everything was fine, he took it okay, but he did quit the job at the store- fair. He later moved to the next state over around 2 hours away for a better job.

Flash forward to a year later… My boyfriend and I had broken up, from other issues not because of Ray. I ran into Ray at a bar in my town and we reconnected. We started talking, and felt nice talking to him again. He asked me out on a date. Since I was single I though “why not, what can it hurt?” so I said yes.

Now the date….. Since he lived so far away, we decided I would sleep over at his house and drive home the next morning (big mistake). We went to a nice restaurant. After the dinner we walked around this little boardwalk area next to the river just talking and catching up. It was really nice, he was a gentleman, and we had a great time. Then we went back to his house. He tried to initiate s*x, and I said no. He took it well and didn’t seem agitated or angry at that moment. Everything was fine, we watched a movie, and fell asleep. The next morning, I drove home and was not ready for the messages I got after. He sent me about 10, PARAGRAPHS long messages, about how I am a stupid b!tch, ugly, a c-nt, and every horrible thing you can say to a woman. I replied with WTF, where is this coming from? He said he only asked me out on the date so I would have s*x with him, then he could ghost me to “get back at me for rejecting him last year.”

I stopped replying. A few months later he showed up at my job (new job he didn’t know I worked there) and started messaging me again. Boys HE SENT ME OVER 200 MESSAGES, CALLED ME 30+ TIMES AND LEFT VOICEMAILS!! I didn’t respond to a single one. All the messages were how much of a b!tch I am, to how much he loved me, to how I should give him a chance, then back to how much of a b!tch I am. They made no sense and were crazy. I ended up filing a temp restraining order. Since then, I moved countries so I don’t worry about him.

Anyone know why automods keep removing my post? I am trying to share a personal story and it keeps getting removed but it doesn’t go against community guidelines.

I have a personal rate that date story.

This story starts before the date (I promise its relevant). When I was 19, I met my boyfriend at work who was 25, (I know breaks the Sean rule). We were dating for two years, still working at the same place. We worked in a store and everyone was of similar age, so we all hung out after work and had a little work friend group going on. A new guy was hired, Ray (21), (yes this is his real name because fuck that guy) and was immediately accepted into the friend group. He started to hang out with all of us outside of work as a big group. I became close with Ray but nothing ever crossed the line. We only hung out in groups and topics of conversation always stayed appropriate. After a while I was getting the feeling that he was into me (more than just a friend). I didn’t have any proof because he never did anything that would make me feel that way. It was just a general vibe and because of how much he would talk to me at work or by texting. Since he never did anything that crossed any lines; I ignored this feeling.

A few months go by everything was normal until he messaged me professing his feelings for me. Stating that he wants me to break up with my boyfriend and give him a chance. I shut this down immediately. I told him its not fair for anyone involved. I told him I didn’t feel the same way. But even if I did it wouldn’t be fair to break up with my boyfriend for him. It wouldn’t be fair to my boyfriend, it wouldn’t be fair to me, and it wouldn’t be fair to him. If I were to break up with my boyfriend, I would need time to heal and get over that relationship before starting a new one. Also, he would deserve a girlfriend who isn’t working through getting over feelings for another guy. I explained it this way to try to let him down easy and try not to hurt his feelings. Then I told him that I didn’t think it would be okay for me and him to continue the friendship. Everything was fine, he took it okay, but he did quit the job at the store- fair. He later moved to the next state over around 2 hours away for a better job.

Flash forward to a year later… My boyfriend and I had broken up from other issues not because of Ray. I ran into Ray at a bar in my town and we reconnected. We started talking, and felt nice talking to him again. He asked me out on a date. Since I was single I though “why not, what can it hurt?” so I said yes.

Now the date….. Since he lived so far away, we decided I would sleep over at his house and drive home the next morning (big mistake). We went to a nice restaurant. After the dinner we walked around this little boardwalk area next to the river just talking and catching up. It was really nice, he was a gentleman, and we had a great time. Then we went back to his house. He tried to initiate sex, and I said no. He took it well and didn’t seem agitated or angry at that moment. Everything was fine, we watched a movie, and fell asleep. The next morning, I drove home and was not ready for the messages I got after. He sent me about 10, PARAGRAPHS long messages, about how I am a stupid bitch, ugly, a cunt, and every horrible thing you can say to a woman. I replied with WTF, where is this coming from? He said he only asked me out on the date so I would have sex with him, then he could ghost me to “get back at me for rejecting him last year.”

I stopped replying. A few months later he showed up at my job (new job he didn’t know I worked there) and started messaging me again. Boys HE SENT ME OVER 200 MESSAGES, CALLED ME 30+ TIMES AND LEFT VOICEMAILS!! I didn’t respond to a single one. All the messages were how much of a bitch I am, to how much he loved me, to how I should give him a chance, then back to how much of a bitch I am. They made no sense and were crazy. I ended up filing a temp restraining order. Since then, I moved countries so I don’t worry about him.