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Before everyone screams at me for not thinking of the wider picture, I think ghosting is acceptable if: You've never met in real life and the chat fizzled out or You feel threatened and there are safety concerns.

If you ghosting after meeting someone and its not one of these reasons, I'm sorry but you are emotionally immature.

I generally think its insulting to ghost someone after a date. I do understand that people take rejection badly (this goes for both men and women) but its bad to generalize everyone you meet and to hurt people in the process.

A simple "Hey, I am not feeling this connection" is all you need to say to give someone closure. Block them afterwards, but at least you know you did your part.

Spending hours with someone over multiple dates (more than 1) while telling them you want to see them again to just ghost them out of the blue is honestly a huge red flag itself and shows communication avoidance and immaturity. I ghosted people when I was like 19 and young and I learned that being respectful and considerate goes a long way. The "No one owes you anything" mindset needs to stop. When I am in my late 20's and people are still acting like they are 19 and can ghost and its just normalized now, shows me how bad the dating market had become.

I went on a third date with a girl the other week. We spent 3 hours together in a part of London. After 3 hours we needed to go home and she took the train. Her normal train was cancelled so I offered her a taxi, but she decided to take a few trains, even when she was a little anxious. She did not want me to go back as she lives with her parents.

I asked if she could let me know if she was home safe so I knew she was okay. She said she would 100% would and kissed me goodnight.

She never did and never messaged me again, which I don't care about, but find it a bit frustrating she did not even let me know she was home safe. Honestly as a man who goes on dates with ladies in the evening, I would like to know they get home safe if they go in a taxi or train.

As soon as I expressed my view on reddit that telling your date they you got home safe should be not met with silence, I get rushed with:

"I find it a performative request"

"So she said she'd let know she was home safe, and she didn't: have you called the police for a welfare check?"

I honestly wanted to know and would have taken her back or called a taxi if she wanted to. Is it really performance just to ask if your date would check in with a simple "All home safe thanks" after a late night date?

EDIT: She never messaged me back again. Never read my message or talked to me. The responses are from three ladies on reddit

I went on a third date with a girl the other week. We spent 3 hours together in a part of London. After 3 hours we needed to go home and she took the train. Her normal train was cancelled so I offered her a taxi, but she decided to take a few trains, even when she was a little anxious. She did not want me to go back as she lives with her parents.

I asked if she could let me know if she was home safe so I knew she was okay. She said she would 100% would and kissed me goodnight.

She never did and never messaged me again, which I don't care about, but find it a bit frustrating she did not even let me know she was home safe. Honestly as a man who goes on dates with ladies in the evening, I would like to know they get home safe if they go in a taxi or train.

As soon as I expressed my view that telling your date they you got home safe should be not met with silence, I get rushed with:

" I find it a performative request"

"So she said she'd let know she was home safe, and she didn't: have you called the police for a welfare check?"

I find it actually just fucking wild. If you honestly want to know if you date got home safe when they refused a taxi you seen as a performing loser who is fake and if you don't do anything I bet people would be like "You cold hearted prick" if anything happened.

You can not win anymore.

I feel like its shitty that after a date when you ask someone to let you know they are home safe they ghost you.

As a man who goes on a lot of evening dates I do honestly feel better if I know my dates get home safe I don't care if you do not want to see me again or did not feel the spark, I rather know you safe and its my one request to all my dates at the end of the evening.

After 3-4 hours together on date three, my date went home and due to it being late and her trains being cancelled and her needing to take another route, I asked her to let me know when she is home safe. She said "Of course I will"

Not only did she not, but did not even message me back.

Forget the ghosting and not wanting a date 4. I think its terribly rude not to let your date know you are home safe when they asked.

The person I am dating at the moment is comparing me to her friends boyfriends which I find really frustrating.

I planned a surprise day for her birthday, just came to a concert with her and booked a hotel for a holiday which she not paid for yet. She now just said that her friends boyfriends would plan a anniversary surprise and just tell their girlfriends to show up with a suitcase, which she hinting that she wants from me. She not done anything like this for me since we been dating.

I know its not malicious, but its 100% making me feel underappreciated.

Im going to talk to her about it, how often do your significant other compare you to other people.

Disclaimer: Not saying women do not have it harder in dating or men have it worse. Just saying that now a days, I feel like going on dates and dating as a whole seems a really rough deal for men.

I feel like dating has just become rougher and rougher in the last few years. As a guy, I am expected to plan pretty much every date (Which I don't mind doing and that has not changed much) , but it seems like most ladies do not like coffee/walks for the first date anymore. Suggesting a walk and a coffee is normally turned down or seen as a boring first date. This means I am always trying to think of an activity, place to go or drinks. Before someone says "I always suggest lowkey first dates with are cheaper" you would be surprised how many ladies either ghost or decline as they do not want to go for a walk, coffee or museum.

It just super expensive. Buying drinks or paying for an activity whenever you get a date is costing more and more. Some ladies do offer to buy the second round or go 50/50, but most of the time there no offer to pay anything. Im not complaining about paying, im just saying that it alot of investment on a stranger.

Some dates go bad or the feeling is not there, I get that. The issue I have is how many times the dates go really well, you get promised for future dates and then ghosted or sometimes rejected (Mostly you never hear from them again). It just sucks after planning, investing and feeling good about a date to be ghosted brutally afterwards knowing you wasted time, money and energy. Sure if this happens once or twice, I get it. It just seems more common these days.

I remember a time where dates used to be more lowkey, people used to be more open and the rejection text came through, but did not feel like whiplash from spending 4 hours laughing with someone in a bar.

To make it clear, there are some great mods out there who work very hard for free to ensure their platform and community is safe.

However, there are equally amount of mods who are on a weird power hungry crusader or just plain troll/bully people with zero consequences.

Its mad to me that reddit, a huge platform relies almost 100% on free help. I understand for reddit that is great, but for many people in the community its a shit show. These mods who are not paid, pretty much do the job for a power surge. I seen and heard cases of people banned just because the mod did not like your opinion. I have experience being muted when appealing an unfair ban as the mod could not answer my question of "Which rule did I break?" and decided to just lock me out. It like dealing with a giant toddler.

Just this week, I been shadow banded in a community where I was a top 1% . When asking for an appeal or reason the mode just said "No one asks this many pointless questions week after week month and month. Your views and questions are nonsense" I was literally asking advice on dating, in an dating advice reddit. When I asked what rule I had broken he just ignored me. Literally shadow banned for asking questions that the mod did not like, not for breaking rules. I also was top 1% and never had a warning. I also offered advice and support for other people over several years.

For me its a unpopular opinion as so many people try and defend these mods.

Doing this job for free does not mean you get a FREE pass to be a dick to people

Having power does not mean GO CRAZY.

You can literally show the reddit mods the code of conduct and they just go "So?" as they know reddit will do nothing. Reddit will literally not do anything to stop abusive mods unless they are breaking real life laws with police involvement.

It honestly baffling to me. mods often hide behind "Moderator Discretion" to avoid admitting they don't have a specific rule to back up a ban or shadow-filter.

Last week I finally went on a really lovely date with someone I actually clicked with. We had things in common, we shared a good laugh and I felt like there was a good mutual connection to continue things. She said she loved the date, agreed to a second, agreed a time and date for the second date and even put her number on my phone.

When we got home she messaged me and told me she was home safe and she had a great time. We talked for a few days.

She vanished then for 3 days straight, no reason or why. I asked if she was still on for Sunday and suddenly she remembered she had plans that day and asked to move it to Saturday instead. I thought, it was a bit odd as she checked, but things come up. I said thats fine and asked what time works best.

That was 2 days ago and still no answer. Going from "really keen" to "Luke warm" at best is confusing.

How can you tell if someone is busy vs someone who is just bread crumbing you?

Last week I finally went on a really lovely date with someone I actually clicked with. We had things in common, we shared a good laugh and I felt like there was a good mutual connection to continue things. She said she loved the date, agreed to a second, agreed a time and date for the second date and even put her number on my phone.

When we got home she messaged me and told me she was home safe and she had a great time. We talked for a few days.

She vanished then for 3 days straight, no reason or why. I asked if she was still on for Sunday and suddenly she remembered she had plans that day and asked to move it to Saturday instead. I thought, it was a bit odd as she checked, but things come up. I said thats fine and asked what time works best.

That was 2 days ago and still no answer.

Not sure if she did not like me or was unsure why she gave me her number, texted me for a bit and suggested moving the date to a date sooner? Im really confused and not sure if this is bad manners, bread crumbing or ghosting?

I was pretty sure the whole thing was "The story will continue when we take the fight to Death wing himself in the miniset" as said by Cora in the expansion trailer.

The miniset is all about fixing things after deathwing was defeated.

I am a bit confused lol

Im getting really burnt out with people who suggest more dates yet seem to be pretty disrespectful afterwards.

I went on a date last week with a lady. Overall I would say it was one of the best dates been on. It lasted 2 hours, seemed like we shared alot in common and by the end of the day she said "Yeah I would say yes to a second date, let me check my calendar" She told me she was free Sunday, put her number in her phone herself and said thank you and see me next week.

We talked for a few days and then out of nowhere she stopped.

I asked if we still on the date. She said "Unfortunately I forgot I had my parents coming that day, we can go out Saturday?"

And then again another 2 days of silence.

I am so burnt out of dates going well and then afterwards getting bread crumbed and ghosted. I rather get a rejection or a clear message that is not just "Silence and a few messages just to keep me as an option"

Is this common?

It just really dishearting that in-between all the no connections and no shows, you have dates with people who just waste your time and play with feelings.

Its so bad when you had a date someone and book other plans you end up getting ghosted. Then people go "Well its just 1 date, she owes you nothing, get over it". I feel like no matter if its 1 date or 100 dates, You should always be respectful. A polite decline is worth a lot more than people realise.

You don't unlock respect like a video game achievement after date 5. You should always give people the same respect you want. I hate when people try and give the ghoster 100 reasons why its okay for them to behaviour that way, all while trying to gaslight you into thinking wanting basic communication is toxic.

I went on a great date on Thursday (Well I thought it was). Many green flags, she put her number on my phone, told me she would be up for a second date, checked her calendar and told me she got home safe to thank me for a nice evening. Since Saturday no text, ghosted me. All I want is just communication and honesty.

I can't think of any circumstance when ghosting someone when you've organised a date isn't incredibly lazy and disrespectful. It takes almost no effort to text someone and say I can't make it, at that point the reason can be pretty much whatever because yes it's perfectly fair to change your mind about a date. So unnecessary to waste their time though

It just so exhausting these days

Its so bad when you had a date someone and book other plans you end up getting ghosted. Then people go "Well its just 1 date, she owes you nothing, get over it"

I feel like no matter if its 1 date or 100 dates, You should always be respectful. A polite decline is worth a lot more than people realise.

I hate when people try and give the ghoster 100 reasons why its okay for them to behaviour that way, all while trying to gaslight you into thinking wanting basic communication is toxic.

You don't unlock respect like a video game achievement after date 5. You should always give people the same respect you want.

I went on a great date on Thursday (Well I thought it was). Many green flags, she put her number on my phone, told me she would be up for a second date, checked her calendar and told me she got home safe to thank me for a nice evening.

Since Saturday no text, ghosted me.

All I want is just communication and honesty. these games of "Im all in" and then "Im all out" is just exhausting.

I can't think of any circumstance when ghosting someone when you've organised a date isn't incredibly lazy and disrespectful. It takes almost no effort to text someone and say I can't make it, at that point the reason can be pretty much whatever because yes it's perfectly fair to change your mind about a date. So unnecessary to waste their time though

Its so bad when you had a date someone and book other plans you end up getting ghosted. Then people go "Well its just 1 date, she owes you nothing, get over it"

I feel like no matter if its 1 date or 100 dates, You should always be respectful. A polite decline is worth a lot more than people realise.

You don't unlock respect like a video game achivement after date 5. You should always give people the same respect you want.

Just toxic so many people defending ghosting after the first date or two as normal and okay when they know that if they had a good first date, they would be upset.