u/Due_Audience_6439

Need advice on healing with narcissistic mom

Hey guys, I’m stuck with my parents for another few months before I leave for college and it’s been unbearable. I’ve never felt worse. My mom is 52 years old and she is at her narcissistic peak but started using some manipulative tricks such as pretending to be super nice and understanding just to bring me closer and then stab me in the back. I’m too lazy to give examples but I have borderline personality disorder and I’ve been in DBT for around 2 months now. The second she gets slightly annoyed with the way I breathe she tells me how she’s disappointed and not seeing any progress and they are wasting their money or my bullshit.

I was silent most of the time (I trained myself not to speak cuz it feeds her) but she managed to turn it into an abusive one sided fight. She called me a whore (I’m aroace wtf) and started slamming her door multiple times as loud as she can that she even broke some wood off of it. She “forbid” me from looking at her the way I did and started saying some random stuff I didn’t understand about worms, soup and shit?? I’m as confused as you are but overall it was scary how crazy she looked. She broke some other stuff from her room and just started screaming alone there things like “die” and “fuck you why were you even born”.

I’m honestly scared to go to bed and even more scared of locking my door because I just know she will accuse me of making her worried cuz she would think I did something to myself.

I walk on eggshells every day. I can’t talk about my feelings, achievements, ANY past events (she will deny it happened even if she’s wasn’t the villain there), how much I love certain musicians or even worse my friends (she gets jealous) or that my therapist agreed with me that her behavior is not normal.

I genuinely don’t know what to do. I have some sexual trauma too from sexual exposure at a really young age that some days just takes over me and I can’t do anything and that’s when she becomes the worst possible version of herself.

I also keep telling myself that they are not my parents and actually are just two assholes paying my rent or something, but the attachment still keeps coming back and words hurt.

Guys if any of you have dealt with something like this I will accept any advice. I will also talk to my therapist about this but I would like to hear other experiences!

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u/Due_Audience_6439 — 8 hours ago

Advice on coping with a narcissistic parent

Hey guys, I’m stuck with my parents for another few months before I leave for college and it’s been unbearable. I’ve never felt worse. My mom is 52 years old and she is at her narcissistic peak but started using some manipulative tricks such as pretending to be super nice and understanding just to bring me closer and then stab me in the back. I’m too lazy to give examples but I have borderline personality disorder and I’ve been in DBT for around 2 months now. The second she gets slightly annoyed with the way I breathe she tells me how she’s disappointed and not seeing any progress and they are wasting their money or my bullshit.

I was silent most of the time (I trained myself not to speak cuz it feeds her) but she managed to turn it into an abusive one sided fight. She called me a whore (I’m aroace wtf) and started slamming her door multiple times as loud as she can that she even broke some wood off of it. She “forbid” me from looking at her the way I did and started saying some random stuff I didn’t understand about worms, soup and shit?? I’m as confused as you are but overall it was scary how crazy she looked. She broke some other stuff from her room and just started screaming alone there things like “die” and “fuck you why were you even born”.

I’m honestly scared to go to bed and even more scared of locking my door because I just know she will accuse me of making her worried cuz she would think I did something to myself.

I walk on eggshells every day. I can’t talk about my feelings, achievements, ANY past events (she will deny it happened even if she’s wasn’t the villain there), how much I love certain musicians or even worse my friends (she gets jealous) or that my therapist agreed with me that her behavior is not normal.

I genuinely don’t know what to do. I have some sexual trauma too from sexual exposure at a really young age that some days just takes over me and I can’t do anything and that’s when she becomes the worst possible version of herself.

I also keep telling myself that they are not my parents and actually are just two assholes paying my rent or something, but the attachment still keeps coming back and words hurt.

Guys if any of you have dealt with something like this I will accept any advice. I will also talk to my therapist about this but I would like to hear other experiences!

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u/Due_Audience_6439 — 20 hours ago

Dealing with a narcissistic mom

Hey guys, I’m stuck with my parents for another few months before I leave for college and it’s been unbearable. I’ve never felt worse. My mom is 52 years old and she is at her narcissistic peak but started using some manipulative tricks such as pretending to be super nice and understanding just to bring me closer and then stab me in the back. I’m too lazy to give examples but I have borderline personality disorder and I’ve been in DBT for around 2 months now. The second she gets slightly annoyed with the way I breathe she tells me how she’s disappointed and not seeing any progress and they are wasting their money or my bullshit.

I was silent most of the time (I trained myself not to speak cuz it feeds her) but she managed to turn it into an abusive one sided fight. She called me a whore (I’m aroace wtf) and started slamming her door multiple times as loud as she can that she even broke some wood off of it. She “forbid” me from looking at her the way I did and started saying some random stuff I didn’t understand about worms, soup and shit?? I’m as confused as you are but overall it was scary how crazy she looked. She broke some other stuff from her room and just started screaming alone there things like “die” and “fuck you why were you even born”.

I’m honestly scared to go to bed and even more scared of locking my door because I just know she will accuse me of making her worried cuz she would think I did something to myself.

I walk on eggshells every day. I can’t talk about my feelings, achievements, ANY past events (she will deny it happened even if she’s wasn’t the villain there), how much I love certain musicians or even worse my friends (she gets jealous) or that my therapist agreed with me that her behavior is not normal.

I genuinely don’t know what to do. I have some sexual trauma too from sexual exposure at a really young age that some days just takes over me and I can’t do anything and that’s when she becomes the worst possible version of herself.

I also keep telling myself that they are not my parents and actually are just two assholes paying my rent or something, but the attachment still keeps coming back and words hurt.

Guys if any of you have dealt with something like this I will accept any advice. I will also talk to my therapist about this but I would like to hear other experiences!

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u/Due_Audience_6439 — 20 hours ago

Advice on coping with a narcissistic parent

Hey guys, I’m stuck with my parents for another few months before I leave for college and it’s been unbearable. I’ve never felt worse. My mom is 52 years old and she is at her narcissistic peak but started using some manipulative tricks such as pretending to be super nice and understanding just to bring me closer and then stab me in the back. I’m too lazy to give examples but I have borderline personality disorder and I’ve been in DBT for around 2 months now. The second she gets slightly annoyed with the way I breathe she tells me how she’s disappointed and not seeing any progress and they are wasting their money or my bullshit.

I was silent most of the time (I trained myself not to speak cuz it feeds her) but she managed to turn it into an abusive one sided fight. She called me a whore (I’m aroace wtf) and started slamming her door multiple times as loud as she can that she even broke some wood off of it. She “forbid” me from looking at her the way I did and started saying some random stuff I didn’t understand about worms, soup and shit?? I’m as confused as you are but overall it was scary how crazy she looked. She broke some other stuff from her room and just started screaming alone there things like “die” and “fuck you why were you even born”.

I’m honestly scared to go to bed and even more scared of locking my door because I just know she will accuse me of making her worried cuz she would think I did something to myself.

I walk on eggshells every day. I can’t talk about my feelings, achievements, ANY past events (she will deny it happened even if she’s wasn’t the villain there), how much I love certain musicians or even worse my friends (she gets jealous) or that my therapist agreed with me that her behavior is not normal.

I genuinely don’t know what to do. I have some sexual trauma too from sexual exposure at a really young age that some days just takes over me and I can’t do anything and that’s when she becomes the worst possible version of herself.

I also keep telling myself that they are not my parents and actually are just two assholes paying my rent or something, but the attachment still keeps coming back and words hurt.

Guys if any of you have dealt with something like this I will accept any advice. I will also talk to my therapist about this but I would like to hear other experiences!

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u/Due_Audience_6439 — 20 hours ago

Coping with narcissistic mom

Hey guys, I’m stuck with my parents for another few months before I leave for college and it’s been unbearable. I’ve never felt worse. My mom is 50+ years old and she is at her narcissistic peak but started using some manipulative tricks such as pretending to be super nice and understanding just to bring me closer and then stab me in the back. I’m too lazy to give examples but I have borderline personality disorder and I’ve been in DBT for around 2 months now. The second she gets slightly annoyed with the way I breathe she tells me how she’s disappointed and not seeing any progress and they are wasting their money or my bullshit.

I was silent most of the time (I trained myself not to speak cuz it feeds her) but she managed to turn it into an abusive one sided fight. She called me a whore (I’m aroace wtf) and started slamming her door multiple times as loud as she can that she even broke some wood off of it. She “forbid” me from looking at her the way I did and started saying some random stuff I didn’t understand about worms, soup and shit?? I’m as confused as you are but overall it was scary how crazy she looked. She broke some other stuff from her room and just started screaming alone there things like “die” and “fuck you why were you even born”.

I’m honestly scared to go to bed and even more scared of locking my door because I just know she will accuse me of making her worried cuz she would think I did something to myself.

I walk on eggshells every day. I can’t talk about my feelings, achievements, ANY past events (she will deny it happened even if she’s wasn’t the villain there), how much I love certain musicians or even worse my friends (she gets jealous) or that my therapist agreed with me that her behavior is not normal.

I genuinely don’t know what to do. I have some sexual trauma too from sexual exposure at a really young age that some days just takes over me and I can’t do anything and that’s when she becomes the worst possible version of herself.

I also keep telling myself that they are not my parents and actually are just two assholes paying my rent or something, but the attachment still keeps coming back and words hurt.

Guys if any of you have dealt with something like this I will accept any advice. I will also talk to my therapist about this but I would like to hear other experiences!

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u/Due_Audience_6439 — 21 hours ago

Coping with narcissistic mom

Hey guys, I’m stuck with my parents for another few months before I leave for college and it’s been unbearable. I’ve never felt worse. My mom is 52 years old and she is at her narcissistic peak but started using some manipulative tricks such as pretending to be super nice and understanding just to bring me closer and then stab me in the back. I’m too lazy to give examples but I have borderline personality disorder and I’ve been in DBT for around 2 months now. The second she gets slightly annoyed with the way I breathe she tells me how she’s disappointed and not seeing any progress and they are wasting their money or my bullshit.

I was silent most of the time (I trained myself not to speak cuz it feeds her) but she managed to turn it into an abusive one sided fight. She called me a whore (I’m aroace wtf) and started slamming her door multiple times as loud as she can that she even broke some wood off of it. She “forbid” me from looking at her the way I did and started saying some random stuff I didn’t understand about worms, soup and shit?? I’m as confused as you are but overall it was scary how crazy she looked. She broke some other stuff from her room and just started screaming alone there things like “die” and “fuck you why were you even born”.

I’m honestly scared to go to bed and even more scared of locking my door because I just know she will accuse me of making her worried cuz she would think I did something to myself.

I walk on eggshells every day. I can’t talk about my feelings, achievements, ANY past events (she will deny it happened even if she’s wasn’t the villain there), how much I love certain musicians or even worse my friends (she gets jealous) or that my therapist agreed with me that her behavior is not normal.

I genuinely don’t know what to do. I have some sexual trauma too from sexual exposure at a really young age that some days just takes over me and I can’t do anything and that’s when she becomes the worst possible version of herself.

I also keep telling myself that they are not my parents and actually are just two assholes paying my rent or something, but the attachment still keeps coming back and words hurt.

Guys if any of you have dealt with something like this I will accept any advice. I will also talk to my therapist about this but I would like to hear other experiences!

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u/Due_Audience_6439 — 21 hours ago