u/Desperate-Teach4909 — reddlx

Should I study for an exam I know I’ll fail or should I wait for make up session and focus on the next exams in a month ?

Yeah so everything’s on the title. Make up session is in a month. I have plenty of other exam to study tho that are weighing much more in the final grade that I’m gonna focus on.

I’m conflicted because in a day you can’t catch up 4 month and 90 pages. So I feel like I shouldn’t bother and just try to rest up until I start again for the second session. But also, I’m like what if I can have a passing grade or something not too mediocre ? What do I do ?

TLDR : I fucked up my year and I need to retake my exams. I have one last exam with only one day left to study. Should I study or just redo it during make up session ?

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u/Desperate-Teach4909 — 4 days ago

▲ 2 r/Advice

How does one make friends that also want to spend time with you ?

Hello, I’m 20. And I have..close to no friends if the title wasn’t obvious.

The issue is, a lot of the « friends » I make aren’t aiming for as much closeness as I do. I like to hangout often (even for groceries id hang out it literally doesn’t matter what we do) and talk nearly every day. But I feel like above age 15 nobody wants that anymore or has time for it.

I get nervous around potential friends because I’m like, how do we get closer ? It doesn’t seem like anyone wants to. I guess « casual » friendship isn’t really my thing.

How do you figure out if someone wants to be your friend and how do you turn acquaintances into friends ? I don’t dare getting closer to any acquaintance I might have because I feel like I’m out of line, I want to go quick to hangout together and all but it doesn’t look like if I tried they’d be up for it. How do you do it without being awkward ? Thanks.

Oddly enough relationships are easier for me but not friendship because I feel like I’m too much while in romantic relationships I can set myself free

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u/Desperate-Teach4909 — 4 days ago

▲ 111 r/BoyDinnerDiaries

I realized I’m NOT someone I’d like to date.

Pizza, cucumber, sauce and eggy (it’s all yolky on the inside).

First post kinda nervous!

I(20) tried to think of myself objectively. This is not about looks, I’m not objective when it comes to that.

It’s just, personality wise. I don’t think I’d date someone like me. I slack up on everything. Even hygiene. I’m gross, depressed I don’t take care of myself, I’m not active, I don’t do anything outside of college, I overreact, I’m hot and cold, insecure, indecisive. I have very little going on for me. Of course like everyone else I’ve got qualities but not exactly outstanding.

A lot of people say they feel like they don’t know who they are and want to leave a relationship to find themselves again, only to be whisked away by the next best thing. Been there done that.

I think the person I want to be is the person I’d like to date. But I can’t date someone and become that person it would be creepy. That’s also why I end up envying my partners. I can’t imagine my ideal lover being interested in someone like me.

I’m alone now and I’m not sad about it but I’m sad about what I am. I’m not what I want for in someone. I feel like it’s telling, right? If I looked for someone “at my level” it wouldn’t be the good kind. Feels jarring.

I’m also making this post because I realised the last people I attracted, meanwhile I didn’t date them, seemed to possess, a lot of my bad traits.

I’m looking for older guys inputs here, have you guys got this figured out ? Or does it keep going longer into adulthood, this feeling of inadequacy ?

u/Desperate-Teach4909 — 5 days ago

▲ 2 r/venting

Yeah got broken up with. The same person who said « I can’t believe you’ve always been the one who’s gotten dumped, if it were me I’d never do this ». I’m so tired.

All my friends leave me. Maybe I’m a high attention person.I always want to hangout with them but they’re all too busy when I try. When I speak to friends I’m always the one who’s initiating and texting and enjoying them. It never feels like that for me.

Lovers leave me too. Three exes at 20. Some say lm too cold but I’m just trying to stay normal to not overwhelm anyone. I’m tired. I never even had sex because I don’t trust people to not leave me when they get what they want. I’m a sad sad guy.

How do you guys keep going knowing everyone leaves? I can’t cope with this. It hurts. I wish nobody left. I wish nothing changed ever. I want to stay friends forever. I want to stay with someone forever.

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u/Desperate-Teach4909 — 9 days ago

▲ 11 r/screamintothevoid

I miss you so much sweetie. I have to stay cold because if I don’t we’re gonna go right back to a relationship but yeah. I really started to like you. Not that I disliked you before, you just knew I couldn’t say I love you that soon. Still won’t say it but I really do miss you. I should’ve known the distance you put wasn’t just because you’ve been struggling with burnout but also because you were planning to end this. Unfortunately since you broke up once with me, I don’t think I can ever trust you won’t leave me again so no rekindling is possible. But yeah. Just wanted to say I already miss you. It’s breaking my heart to have to be this cold when you’re asking to stay good friends but I have to. I need to protect my heart,I’m much more sensitive than you think.

We’ve been broken up for less than 24h and instead of messaging you I decided to write down every time I missed you :

I miss you
I miss you
I miss you I wanna hug you
I miss you so much
I miss you so bad it hurts
I miss you and I want to be with you badly
I miss you so bad I want to cry
I miss you really.
I miss you and I feel empty without you
I miss you and wish we could touch
I miss you and I wanna have you for myself.
I miss you really badly and it kills me to not be able to text you
I miss you so bad you have no idea
I miss you my heart hurts really bad when I can’t talk to you
I miss you so freaking much why won’t you reply to me anymore ? Do you hate me?

I’m starting to spiral frankly but thankfully you’re not seeing any of this mess. Kiss kiss.

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u/Desperate-Teach4909 — 10 days ago

▲ 77 r/depressionmeals

Welcome to my pity party. I cannot pinpoint a single thing I enjoy in life. I hate everything but mostly me, then I hate people. My last attempt was in January. What is there is to life I should enjoy enough to stay ? I’m 20 and it was my 7th attempt. I often wish to get a deadly illness so I can just give up. When someone asks me how I’m doing I just switch up the topic to them so they’d just forget about me. I don’t wanna bother my ldr bf about this, he’s got enough on his plate. Dealing with someone actively suicidal is terrible weight to put on someone’s shoulders.

May one day everyone give up the expectations they put on me and let me quietly disappear.

Update : I did fail my exam, and was tearing up the whole time. At least I stayed until the end. I could’ve cheated but I didn’t want a diploma I didn’t deserve. At war with my mind during the whole time but I finished it.

u/Desperate-Teach4909 — 18 days ago