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At 19, I didn’t expect that a relationship of over two and a half years ending would hit me this hard, but it completely broke me. She wasn’t just my girlfriend—she was my best friend, my comfort, and a huge part of my everyday life. Losing her didn’t just feel like a breakup, it felt like losing a part of myself. It got to the point where I had to start therapy, and after everything that happened recently, I even just started Lexapro because I’ve been struggling that much.

What makes it harder is that everything felt perfect for so long. We were close, comfortable, and genuinely happy. Then suddenly she said her feelings had faded and that she never fully recovered from our first breakup early on—even though that didn’t even feel like a real breakup to me. I was the one who initiated that first breakup, and I know that probably hurt her, but we stayed in full contact, nothing really changed, and things felt strong again after that.

Now it’s been over 25 days of no contact. We had planned to meet when she got back home, and she promised we would. But when the time came, she avoided it, saying she was busy with family and that maybe we could catch up later in the summer. Right after being put off like that, I finally reached a point where I needed more help and started medication because of how overwhelmed and depressed I’ve been.

Seeing someone who I had such an easy, natural friendship with suddenly talk to me so formally and treat me like a stranger has been one of the hardest parts. It feels cold and confusing, like I don’t recognize her anymore.

I’m trying to move forward now because I know I have to, but it’s hard not to feel like this ruined something in me. I was genuinely happy for a long time, and now it feels like I don’t even want to risk loving someone like that again if it can end like this.

At 19, I didn’t expect that a relationship of over two and a half years ending would hit me this hard, but it completely broke me. She wasn’t just my girlfriend—she was my best friend, my comfort, and a huge part of my everyday life. Losing her didn’t just feel like a breakup, it felt like losing a part of myself. It got to the point where I had to start therapy, and after everything that happened recently, I even just started Lexapro because I’ve been struggling that much.

What makes it harder is that everything felt perfect for so long. We were close, comfortable, and genuinely happy. Then suddenly she said her feelings had faded and that she never fully recovered from our first breakup early on—even though that didn’t even feel like a real breakup to me. I was the one who initiated that first breakup, and I know that probably hurt her, but we stayed in full contact, nothing really changed, and things felt strong again after that.

Now it’s been over 25 days of no contact. We had planned to meet when she got back home, and she promised we would. But when the time came, she avoided it, saying she was busy with family and that maybe we could catch up later in the summer. Right after being put off like that, I finally reached a point where I needed more help and started medication because of how overwhelmed and depressed I’ve been.

Seeing someone who I had such an easy, natural friendship with suddenly talk to me so formally and treat me like a stranger has been one of the hardest parts. It feels cold and confusing, like I don’t recognize her anymore.

I’m trying to move forward now because I know I have to, but it’s hard not to feel like this ruined something in me. I was genuinely happy for a long time, and now it feels like I don’t even want to risk loving someone like that again if it can end like this.

tldr hurt from 2.5 year relationship, had a planned meetup she avoided and put off, treated me like stranger on text, so mentally distraught for past month and half been going to therapy and started lexapro yesterday, how can i get through this

At 19, I didn’t expect that a relationship of over two and a half years ending would hit me this hard, but it completely broke me. She wasn’t just my girlfriend—she was my best friend, my comfort, and a huge part of my everyday life. Losing her didn’t just feel like a breakup, it felt like losing a part of myself. It got to the point where I had to start therapy, and after everything that happened recently, I even just started Lexapro because I’ve been struggling that much.

What makes it harder is that everything felt perfect for so long. We were close, comfortable, and genuinely happy. Then suddenly she said her feelings had faded and that she never fully recovered from our first breakup early on—even though that didn’t even feel like a real breakup to me. I was the one who initiated that first breakup, and I know that probably hurt her, but we stayed in full contact, nothing really changed, and things felt strong again after that.

Now it’s been over 25 days of no contact. We had planned to meet when she got back home, and she promised we would. But when the time came, she avoided it, saying she was busy with family and that maybe we could catch up later in the summer. Right after being put off like that, I finally reached a point where I needed more help and started medication because of how overwhelmed and depressed I’ve been.

Seeing someone who I had such an easy, natural friendship with suddenly talk to me so formally and treat me like a stranger has been one of the hardest parts. It feels cold and confusing, like I don’t recognize her anymore.

I’m trying to move forward now because I know I have to, but it’s hard not to feel like this ruined something in me. I was genuinely happy for a long time, and now it feels like I don’t even want to risk loving someone like that again if it can end like this.

At 19, I didn’t expect that a relationship of over two and a half years ending would hit me this hard, but it completely broke me. She wasn’t just my girlfriend—she was my best friend, my comfort, and a huge part of my everyday life. Losing her didn’t just feel like a breakup, it felt like losing a part of myself. It got to the point where I had to start therapy, and after everything that happened recently, I even just started Lexapro because I’ve been struggling that much.

What makes it harder is that everything felt perfect for so long. We were close, comfortable, and genuinely happy. Then suddenly she said her feelings had faded and that she never fully recovered from our first breakup early on—even though that didn’t even feel like a real breakup to me. I was the one who initiated that first breakup, and I know that probably hurt her, but we stayed in full contact, nothing really changed, and things felt strong again after that.

Now it’s been over 25 days of no contact. We had planned to meet when she got back home, and she promised we would. But when the time came, she avoided it, saying she was busy with family and that maybe we could catch up later in the summer. Right after being put off like that, I finally reached a point where I needed more help and started medication because of how overwhelmed and depressed I’ve been.

Seeing someone who I had such an easy, natural friendship with suddenly talk to me so formally and treat me like a stranger has been one of the hardest parts. It feels cold and confusing, like I don’t recognize her anymore.

I’m trying to move forward now because I know I have to, but it’s hard not to feel like this ruined something in me. I was genuinely happy for a long time, and now it feels like I don’t even want to risk loving someone like that again if it can end like this.

From my perspective, everything changed really fast. We had been together for about three years, and she wasn’t just my girlfriend—she was my best friend and the person I was most comfortable with. Then suddenly, after a pretty small dispute, she said she needed a break. It felt out of nowhere. We were long distance at the time, but she said that wasn’t the reason things were ending. During that break, her energy shifted—she started getting colder, especially over text. Eventually it led to the breakup, which mostly happened over a long paragraph and then a call. What confused me was that over text she felt distant and almost emotionless, but when we actually talked on the phone, she got emotional. On that call she said her feelings had faded and that she never fully recovered from our first breakup a year ago, which I had pushed for, but when I asked her to explain, she couldn’t really give clear answers. She also said she’s felt like this for a while, which doesn’t make sense to me because there were so many times in the past few months where she seemed so in love and reliant on me. She said she doesn’t know about the future, but right now it’s over. She also talked about still being friends and hanging out in groups, but honestly we both know that’s not really realistic, especially given how things ended.

After that, we had about a 20-day no-contact period. During that time, she never reached out to me directly, but I know she was indirectly checking on me through mutual friends, which made it feel like she still cared on some level. We had even planned to meet when she got back home, and she promised we would. Now it’s summer and she is back, but when the time came, she suddenly pushed it off, saying maybe later in the summer, and avoided talking to me directly. When I reached out, her responses were cold and distant, and she wouldn’t call me back. I told her I wasn’t even trying to get back together and that I just wanted closure, but she didn’t respond to that either. Now it just feels like she’s a completely different person, and I’m left confused, hurt, and struggling to understand how everything flipped so fast. She’s always shied from serious talks and stuff and ik this would be an emotional convo. She tends to be avoidant but this is far from her usual self. Her friends don’t recognize this behavior at all and all of us are shell shocked at how she’s going about this. i am trying to move on now

\*\*TL;DR;\*\* : What do you think?

From my perspective, everything changed really fast. We had been together for about three years, and she wasn’t just my girlfriend—she was my best friend and the person I was most comfortable with. Then suddenly, after a pretty small dispute, she said she needed a break. It felt out of nowhere. We were long distance at the time, but she said that wasn’t the reason things were ending. During that break, her energy shifted—she started getting colder, especially over text. Eventually it led to the breakup, which mostly happened over a long paragraph and then a call. What confused me was that over text she felt distant and almost emotionless, but when we actually talked on the phone, she got emotional. On that call she said her feelings had faded and that she never fully recovered from our first breakup a year ago, which I had pushed for, but when I asked her to explain, she couldn’t really give clear answers. She also said she’s felt like this for a while, which doesn’t make sense to me because there were so many times in the past few months where she seemed so in love and reliant on me. She said she doesn’t know about the future, but right now it’s over. She also talked about still being friends and hanging out in groups, but honestly we both know that’s not really realistic, especially given how things ended.

After that, we had about a 20-day no-contact period. During that time, she never reached out to me directly, but I know she was indirectly checking on me through mutual friends, which made it feel like she still cared on some level. We had even planned to meet when she got back home, and she promised we would. Now it’s summer and she is back, but when the time came, she suddenly pushed it off, saying maybe later in the summer, and avoided talking to me directly. When I reached out, her responses were cold and distant, and she wouldn’t call me back. I told her I wasn’t even trying to get back together and that I just wanted closure, but she didn’t respond to that either. Now it just feels like she’s a completely different person, and I’m left confused, hurt, and struggling to understand how everything flipped so fast. She’s always shied from serious talks and stuff and ik this would be an emotional convo. She tends to be avoidant but this is far from her usual self. Her friends don’t recognize this behavior at all and all of us are shell shocked at how she’s going about this. i am trying to move on now though but still

From my perspective, everything changed really fast. We had been together for about three years, and she wasn’t just my girlfriend—she was my best friend and the person I was most comfortable with. Then suddenly, after a pretty small dispute, she said she needed a break. It felt out of nowhere. We were long distance at the time, but she said that wasn’t the reason things were ending. During that break, her energy shifted—she started getting colder, especially over text. Eventually it led to the breakup, which mostly happened over a long paragraph and then a call. What confused me was that over text she felt distant and almost emotionless, but when we actually talked on the phone, she got emotional. On that call she said her feelings had faded and that she never fully recovered from our first breakup a year ago, which I had pushed for, but when I asked her to explain, she couldn’t really give clear answers. She also said she’s felt like this for a while, which doesn’t make sense to me because there were so many times in the past few months where she seemed so in love and reliant on me. She said she doesn’t know about the future, but right now it’s over. She also talked about still being friends and hanging out in groups, but honestly we both know that’s not really realistic, especially given how things ended.

After that, we had about a 20-day no-contact period. During that time, she never reached out to me directly, but I know she was indirectly checking on me through mutual friends, which made it feel like she still cared on some level. We had even planned to meet when she got back home, and she promised we would. Now it’s summer and she is back, but when the time came, she suddenly pushed it off, saying maybe later in the summer, and avoided talking to me directly. When I reached out, her responses were cold and distant, and she wouldn’t call me back. I told her I wasn’t even trying to get back together and that I just wanted closure, but she didn’t respond to that either. Now it just feels like she’s a completely different person, and I’m left confused, hurt, and struggling to understand how everything flipped so fast. She’s always shied from serious talks and stuff and ik this would be an emotional convo. She tends to be avoidant but this is far from her usual self. Her friends don’t recognize this behavior at all and all of us are shell shocked at how she’s going about this.