u/Admirable_Desk_65

I’m currently struggling with my studies and I feel really frustrated with myself. Right now, I can’t even focus properly for 1 hour. I procrastinate a lot, my phone screen time is very high, and my consistency is almost zero. I know this is a problem, and I genuinely want to change and become more disciplined.

The issue is that people around me and sometimes even I expect me to suddenly start studying 10–12 hours a day because my exams and career decisions are becoming serious. But realistically, jumping from almost no focus to very long study hours feels overwhelming and sometimes makes me feel like a failure when I can’t keep up.

I want to take a gradual approach: start small, build stamina slowly, reduce distractions like phone usage, and improve my routine step by step. However, I worry that this might look like I’m making excuses or not trying hard enough.

So, AITA for wanting to build discipline and study hours gradually instead of forcing myself to study 10–12 hours immediately?

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I’m looking for honest, realistic answers from people who actually managed to reach 10–12 hours of effective study per day.

Right now, I’m starting from a very low baseline. I struggle to focus even for 1 hour consistently. Most days I feel resistance toward studying, my phone screen time is very high, and I procrastinate a lot. My discipline and consistency are almost zero at the moment, but I genuinely want to change and build strong study habits.

I’m not expecting instant results — I just want to understand what a realistic timeline looks like for someone like me. Sometimes I see people online saying they study 10–12 hours daily, and it makes me wonder how long it actually took them to reach that level of stamina and focus.

For those who successfully built up to long study hours, I’d really appreciate if you could share:

- How many months did it take you to go from low focus to 8–10 or 10–12 hours per day?

- What was your starting point (for example, 0–1 hour, 2–3 hours, etc.)?

- Did you increase your hours gradually, or did you push yourself hard from the beginning?

- What were the biggest changes that made the most difference (reducing phone use, fixing sleep schedule, studying environment, exercise, etc.)?

- Did you face burnout or setbacks during the process? If yes, how did you recover?

- How many days per week did you study seriously?

- What advice would you give to someone who is starting from very low consistency but wants to become disciplined?

I’m trying to build long-term discipline and consistency, not just short bursts of motivation. Real experiences, timelines, and practical tips would help me understand what’s actually achievable.

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I want honest answers from people who actually study 10–12 hours effectively.

Right now, I struggle to focus even for 1 hour. I don’t feel like studying most of the time, and my phone screen time is very high. I procrastinate a lot and my consistency is almost zero. But I genuinely want to change and build strong discipline.

For those of you who successfully reached 10–12 hours of daily study, how many months did it take you to build that stamina and focus? Did you start small and gradually increase, or did you push yourself hard from the beginning?

Also, what were the biggest changes that helped you the most — reducing phone use, fixing sleep, studying environment, or something else?

I’m trying to understand what timeline is realistic for someone starting from a very low focus level.

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I’m feeling really confused right now. I’ve already taken 3 drop years for NEET, but I didn’t use them properly and honestly wasted a lot of time. Now I finally feel serious and motivated to study, but I’m also scared of wasting another year if things don’t work out.

Part of me wants to give NEET one last genuine attempt with full discipline, but another part of me thinks maybe it’s time to move on and choose a different career path instead of staying stuck.

Has anyone been in a similar situation after multiple drops? Do you think giving one last serious attempt is worth it, or is it better to accept the past and change direction now? qualifications

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I’m feeling really confused right now. I’ve already taken 3 drop years for NEET, but I didn’t use them properly and honestly wasted a lot of time. Now I finally feel serious and motivated to study, but I’m also scared of wasting another year if things don’t work out.

Part of me wants to give NEET one last genuine attempt with full discipline, but another part of me thinks maybe it’s time to move on and choose a different career path instead of staying stuck.

Has anyone been in a similar situation after multiple drops? Do you think giving one last serious attempt is worth it, or is it better to accept the past and change direction now? I want to do something now my qualifications .

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My boyfriend has been preparing for competitive exams for the past 5 months, and his exams are now just 10 days away. I know he has been under a lot of stress during this time. Earlier in our relationship, he used to give me a lot of attention, write long paragraphs, and be very emotionally available. But during his preparation, that changed, and I started feeling like something was missing.

I’ll admit that I didn’t support him as well as I should have. I often picked fights over small things because I felt emotionally neglected. Over time, he became more irritated and started responding with rude and harsh words.

Today we had another argument, and he told me that I destroyed his studies, that these 5 months were wasted because of our fights, and that I never understood his pain. He also said he should have left instead of giving me 12 hours a day for my “baseless attention.”

Now I feel really guilty and confused. I know I made mistakes by fighting during an important time for him, but his words also hurt me a lot.he said sorry for his harsh behaviour but told me I never understood him and I was the only person he trusted and loved this much and got pain in return. He told me he wanted love and support all I gave him those nakhrein , ghussa and fights . Idk how to handle all this he might breakup with me

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My boyfriend has been preparing for competitive exams for the past 5 months, and his exams are now just 10 days away. I know he has been under a lot of stress during this time. Earlier in our relationship, he used to give me a lot of attention, write long paragraphs, and be very emotionally available. But during his preparation, that changed, and I started feeling like something was missing.

I’ll admit that I didn’t support him as well as I should have. I often picked fights over small things because I felt emotionally neglected. Over time, he became more irritated and started responding with rude and harsh words.

Today we had another argument, and he told me that I destroyed his studies, that these 5 months were wasted because of our fights, and that I never understood his pain. He also said he should have left instead of giving me 12 hours a day for my “baseless attention.”

Now I feel really guilty and confused. I know I made mistakes by fighting during an important time for him, but his words also hurt me a lot.

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My boyfriend has been preparing for competitive exams for the past 5 months, and his exams are now just 10 days away. I know he has been under a lot of stress during this time. Earlier in our relationship, he used to give me a lot of attention, write long paragraphs, and be very emotionally available. But during his preparation, that changed, and I started feeling like something was missing.

I’ll admit that I didn’t support him as well as I should have. I often picked fights over small things because I felt emotionally neglected. Over time, he became more irritated and started responding with rude and harsh words.

Today we had another argument, and he told me that I destroyed his studies, that these 5 months were wasted because of our fights, and that I never understood his pain. He also said he should have left instead of giving me 12 hours a day for my “baseless attention.”

Now I feel really guilty and confused. I know I made mistakes by fighting during an important time for him, but his words also hurt me a lot.

AITB for causing stress during his preparation, or is he being too harsh by blaming me for ruining his studies?

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My boyfriend has been preparing for competitive exams for the last 5 months and has been under a lot of stress. Earlier, he used to give me a lot of attention, write long paragraphs, and be very emotionally present. But during this preparation phase, he became more focused on studies and less attentive.

I’ll admit that I didn’t support him as much as I should have. I kept fighting with him over small things, and because of that, he became irritated. Sometimes he says rude or harsh words when he’s frustrated, and recently he said that his last 5 months were wasted like this because of all the fights between us.

Now his exams are in 10 days, and I’m still getting upset over small issues. I feel guilty and worried that I made things worse during an important phase of his life.

AITA for not supporting him properly and continuing to argue with him during his exam preparation?

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My boyfriend uses the word “saala” very frequently in daily conversations, like “saala yeh” or “saala woh.” Today he said, “tum log saala jaao yaha se,” and it sounded a bit rude to me.

He is currently under a lot of stress because of his career and exams, so I’m wondering if this is just a habit or frustration, or if it reflects disrespectful communication.

Am I overreacting for feeling uncomfortable with him using the word “saala” so often, or is this considered normal language?he also sometimes said me in the anger and says it's a slang commonly used in their 😭 city and people don't take it as defensive . Pata hai aaj kya hua