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I attended a wedding reception recently and traveled around 3 hours for it. There were two couples, me, and another girl. I only knew one girl through a friend (couple 1), and I met the other couple for the first time. The girl in couple 2 seemed really obsessed with her boyfriend, and he was reciprocating too. On the way to the venue, 4 of us were sitting in the back seat in the order: guy, his girlfriend (couple 2), me, and the other girl. At one point while they were half asleep, his hand kind of touched mine, but I moved mine away immediately. I knew it was unintentional and didn’t think much of it, because things like that can happen when someone is asleep. He actually already had his hand wrapped around her when it happened, and she pulled his hand closer too. I could sense some possessiveness there. The guy and I barely even spoke. But the next day he sent me a follow request and messaged me saying I looked pretty in the saree. Later he told me not to tell his girlfriend because she would “create a ruckus.” That made me feel really weird because I had literally seen how obsessed and emotionally invested she seemed in him. I’m not interested in him at all and honestly just feel bad for her now. Should I tell her or stay out of it?

Also… why does this always happen to me? Why do I feel like I’m only ever lusted, but never genuinely loved?

I feel like i will never find a partner who is loyal. I don’t understand how men cheat this easily 😭🥲

Applicable to women too but i have only come across men cheating..

Hi everyone,

I have slightly bigger breasts and I often notice that the V-shaped bra lines in the front are visible through my t-shirts (even darker ones), which makes me feel quite uncomfortable and conscious.

Since I’ll be living in a hostel and attending college daily, I’m looking for a bra that is comfortable for all-day wear and does not show lines under clothes.

I would prefer non-padded bras, and budget-friendly options would be great. However, I’m open to slightly higher prices if the quality and durability are good.

Please share your recommendations or links

Can’t attach pictures here so am posting the link of my other post here… https://www.reddit.com/r/PataHaiAajKyaHua/s/zJiU2YCwFr

So, a guy made a post about something, and this girl started calling random people names in the comments. Another guy began arguing with her, and I just replied to him…BRO SHE’S DUMB

And boom this happened …also, other people agreed with me. Then she started replying with random things under my comment and even began DMing me.

I’m a good-looking, tall guy, so I don’t really have problems with casual dating or relationships. I didn’t care about what she was saying to me, but what if it had been someone who’s already struggling with dating cause he’s ugly…That kind of thing can really affect them.

It’s funny how girls say they don’t care about looks, but when they want to insult a man, the first thing they attack is his appearance

Crazy woman…it was fun tho🤙😝

I've (23 F) been dating my boyfriend (25 M) for 1.5 yrs. We connected instantly, fell in love. Have had our ups and downs. We both have worked on ourselves to make this relationship work and for eachother. There was a recent instance of him lying to me because he didn't want to hurt me. I am a very expressive happy bubbly girl. He is very patient calm reserved. We do bring out the best in eachother. But sometimes I feel like I can't forgive him for a few things he's done, i do act normal and fine but its a constant thought it my head that has built some resentment..we have talked about this as well.

i really just wanted to know if I'm wrong to feel like my basic needs aren't met. I communicate, express. He does too! I don't mean to sound ungrateful but I constantly feel like something is lacking. He has to be told what needs to be done..he needs to be taught how to communicate. For once I want him to just take the lead and drive the conversation or do something for me because he wants to.

 I also at times feel like he loves himself too much. Honestly I feel jealous. The way he can tell me no, the way he can prioritize every other thing about his day and schedule. I genuinely envy him. I don't think I can do it. It's been very difficult for me to say no i can't because I have this planned. It makes me angry that he puts everything else above me. He also never talks about himself badly, he was very insecure when we started dating but now I've become the insecure one!! We have had major trust break in past and we've been to therapy together for that, worked on it together..but recently I've been feeling like, i wouldn't need to teach my husband all this..i wouldn't need to beg my husband to do basic and bare minimum things. I really do love him but does he add value to my life?

I wanted to ask how do you measure that value? In what sense should your partner be adding value to your life? I don't know if we are compatible emotional intellect wise. I don't know if he is someone I can have deep philosophical random life discussions with. How can I decenter him while being in a relationship and work on myself? I want to be in this relationship but i don't want to abandon myself anymore.

To give you all a heads up, I'm 32M turning 33 in a few months. My wife is 30 yr old. It's been exactly one year since we got married and have been having problems right from the beginning.

About myself: I hail from an upper middle class family.Right from childhood, I'm used to living a certain standard of living and we could afford things although we had a simple living. The thing is I'm an emotional person and takes things literally, an introvert, never a fun person who other kids like to hang around. Already I had self esteem issues but I got bullied during my 11th and 12th grade (after SSC exams) which took an emotional toll and I fared very badly in exams. I further went into a shell and hardly had 1-2 friends during my engineering. Although in my mind, I thought highly of myself for my General Knowledge, Geopolitics, Politics etc knowledge. I couldn't find people with similar interests and people who could acknowledge me. So I thought to myself I belong nowhere. One thing led to another, I got involved in p*rn addiction, m*sturbation and totally lost grip on my life. I was just going with the flow.

Currently I work in Govt Job and got married last year to my wife. My marriage has been on a rocky boat. She is someone who is not matured I feel. Although she works in a private job in my town which doesn't pay much around 18k maybe. Still she expects me to pay for her clothing shopping. i buy for her sandals and shoes. she almost bought 3 in a year. Also, I had a spat with her mom regarding my wife not doing enough to keep house clean (keeping chairs, table, windows, toilet and bathroom clean). We have a maid who brooms and mops everyday. But her mother didn't say a single thing to her daughter. Instead ridiculed and mocked me for expecting her daughter to do it. Also my wife never made efforts to get along with my mom. They hardly talk to each other. I feel like she gives more importance to her family, and puts them on pedestral and even they take her side. There are some ugly things said by my mom to my wife. But it was in frustration because my wife has a habit of sensationalising and making things up.

Kindly advice what should I do ?

Just be clear I am 28M.

I wanted to know, would Indian woman be interested in a Indian male living internationally?

The context is - Hinge has a feature which allows yo swipe internationally as well, me being homesick + being single for a long time, thought of using this feature which raised the question would it work?

Can the *ACTUAL* woman reply. Need suggestions. Thank you in advance.

All qualities but face looks horrible. He has good house, car and can keep you like a princess. He believes in long term things. If yes give tips where can such a guy try his luck.

Hey everyone,

I’ve been noticing a pattern and I’m trying to make sense of it.

When I see posts from women that are clearly about sexting, they tend to respond very quickly when messaged, and are very much open to chatting. But when it comes to women posting in normal subreddits about “interested in someone for chat”, even when I reply to them in a respectful way, most of the time there’s no response, or the conversation doesn’t really go anywhere.

So it makes me wonder what’s actually going on.

Is it simply lack of interest in talking to random people? Why bother posting then?

Is it because of past experiences that make women hesitant to reply or continue conversations?

Or is it just that the kind of interaction I’m interested in, is not something people usually come here for?

I’m not judging anyone’s choices. People can do whatever they want. I’m just trying to understand the difference in behavior.

Personally, I’m just interested in friendly conversations. Like talking about daily life, sharing thoughts, maybe sending voice notes. Nothing vulgur or sexual in nature, but it feels surprisingly hard to get that here.

Would appreciate hearing honest perspectives, especially from women.

She must thrive on impulsive chaos and "main character" drama.

She must prioritize a curated status over being authentic.

She must despise intellectual depth for trends and luxury.

She must be short-tempered and prefer fights over talking.

She must use beliefs or spirituality strictly for the aesthetic.

She must act on explosive moods rather than logical reasoning.

She must view the relationship as a power struggle to be won.