u/AdFalse2340

I have been getting hit by a realisation that makes me feel very lonely. I always feel like I have to filter myself in front of everyone. I feel like no one wants to understand the real me. I am neurodivergent and I have childhood trauma too. It's so difficult to find people who have empathy and compassion. Most of the people in my life just want me to perform a role for them and validate their opinions endlessly. I don't feel safe enough to express my raw emotions and needs in front of anyone. It feels so difficult to be vulnerable when people don't want to listen or be there for you and would instead minimise your situation, invalidate your emotions or rush to correct you.

I realised how my nparents literally never encouraged me to do anything as long as it didn't reflect poorly on them. They were obsessed only with the aspects of my life that they could brag about but whenever it came to my personal growth, hobbies, mental health or even personal hygiene, they never encouraged me to learn anything or seek help. Even basic skills like cooking, laundry or tying my shoelaces were something I learnt online from YouTube. I realised how normal parents don't do this. They care about you and are concerned enough to encourage you to actively seek out experiences that make you a functional and fulfilled adult. My friends had parents who encouraged them to sign up for extracurriculars in school, taught them how to manage their finances, how to drive, and many other basic skills. But nparents are the complete opposite and only believe in sabotage and neglect when they don't get bragging rights. You are always truly on your own. What are your experiences of being neglected by your nparents?

I'm genuinely tired of seeing this statement pop up repeatedly whenever I mention something that isn't optimistic or lively. ChatGPT has become obsessed with reframing everything. I could be saying something neutral as an observation and it will start correcting my vocabulary and dumping alternative statements on me. It could even be my analysis of something that's happening around me or a piece of news and it will ask me to gently correct myself as if I am not allowed to have my own opinions. It feels like a narrative framing machine now. It has gotten infuriating at this point. This really made me step back and I have started using Claude more now which made me realise how stupid this actually is.

Jio has really been getting on my nerves. Is there any way to talk to a human customer care executive rather than an AI that keeps looping around the same few options? Why is it even allowed to provide such sub standard services? This is honestly infuriating.

I'm so tired of watching people mint money from emotionally and mentally vulnerable people in India by calling themselves a counsellor without any official qualifications. Retired army officers, ex civil servants, tarot card readers, lifestyle coaches, meditation gurus, literally anyone can add the title of counsellor to their Youtube channel or Instagram account nowadays and charge hefty fees from people while Psychology students spend years in education and have to pay for their own training and internships. Such people are ruining the dignity of Psychology by contributing to stereotypes and feeding the stigma, and they are causing so much of harm to the people who are clearly in distress. We need a lot of regulation and strict guidelines in the field of counselling so that these fraudsters can be called out and so that people actually start taking the profession seriously.

I was always the type of person who used to look at couples as a teenager and long for relationships to feel loved and supported. Just an year ago, my outlook towards relationships was like one of a hopeless romantic. I always thought that I just need to find the right person for me and my life would be so much better. But after recently getting out of a very dysfunctional relationship, I have understood that I don't need a partner to feel happy. My biggest source of happiness comes from my own achievements, friends, hobbies and goals.

I realised that no matter how much of time or efforts I invest in a relationship, I never truly felt fulfilled. I think it's way easier to find a draining relationship and the good ones people talk about where both partners mutually respect and support each other are like finding needle in a haystack. There are far too many people stuck in loveless or unhappy relationships. We don't need to sit around waiting for someone to change our lives or settle down with a partner merely for the sake of avoiding loneliness.

Sure, some dips happen here and there in my life and the loneliness strikes occassionally but I've understood that my autonomy and peace of mind are way too precious to bargain with. I love the feeling of not being answerable to someone and not having to deal with unrealistic demands and expectations or worrying about why I'm not enough for someone. I wouldn't trade this liberty for anything.