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I've only ever tried Astroglide, so I'm curious what you guys think. Is there stuff that's better for dildos vs. the real thing?

I feel like I never learned how to be in a relationship and now that I’m in my 30’s, it feels like I’m too independent to ever be in one.

I’m kind of upset seeing how straight people are able to freely date in high school, essentially gaining practice from such a young age.

I spent years and years in the closet, and now that I finally feel comfortable enough in my own skin, I feel like I’m too set in my ways to fully share my life with another person. I hate sleeping in the same bed with someone else, I start to resent my partners when they get too involved in my life. I hate that I feel that way, but it’s just how I feel. Any thoughts?

Despite being charismatic and having awesome different social circles and friends, all the strong feelings I’ve had for the guys I’ve met over the years were never reciprocated. Shooting my shots is self-defeating at this point and the constant ghosting, rejection and useless hope is actually embarrassing for my age. I’m in my 30s, not getting any younger or hotter. Now I’m listening to this 2007 song called Tattoo by Jordin Sparks and I’m in awe that a 17 year old sang such wise lyrics so beautifully with deep meaning that I have yet to fully integrate into my life.

Is this some kind of secret rule I am unaware of? I’ve noticed a pattern in myself of were I’m talking/getting to know a guy. After some time goes by I ask what the vibes are, such as do you want a fwb, or do you want more. Basically just asking what he wants out of whatever we have. I usually make it known in the least rudest way possible that I am unaffected either way by their choice, I just want to know what category to place them in. Funny enough, everytime I am met with a vague answer, (I never thought about it) and the crazy part is the guy usually starts acting funny towards me? As if they are mad I’m okay with us being nothing? Someone help me out!

You know when someone asks you this what the question will be: "are you gay?"

How do I answer this, because I'm not ready to out myself. I've told one friend and that's enough for now.

If I say yes, I'm out. If I say no, I lie. If I take too long to answer, it's a yes...