r/gay

I’m 19, almost two months out of a year long relationship. For that year, basically my only friends were my boyfriend at the time and his small group of friends. Now that we’re split up I realized I don’t have much of a social life. I’ve had effectively no social interactions outside of work since the breakup. There’s not much to do in my town if you’re under 21 anyway. The only times I leave the house are to go to work, get food, or go to the store. I feel like I’m going stir crazy.

I live in a suburb about 45 minutes outside of Nashville, Tennessee. I was thinking about going to Play, since it’s popular and only 18+. My issue is the only times I’ve ever been were with my ex and his friends, and even then I was still really awkward and had a tendency to wall flower. I can’t imagine how I’d be just by myself. Especially without alcohol. I’m trying to decide if it’d be worth it to go alone.

I am a late 30s pre-surgery trans man, who is interested in men. it's been about 2 years since my divorce (ex-husband left because I found out I am slowly going blind), and I am finally actually interested in starting to date again.

I recently saw that there is a local daring event for gay men, and was considering going, but I am honestly on the fence on if it would be inappropriate or lead to problems. I mean, I am a single gay man who gets "sir"d by strangers here in TX, so I clearly pass and am in the target group. However, I don't have the bits so I'm worried that I will be deceiving the other guys there.

What do y'all think? should I stick to dating apps where I can disclose that I am trans in my profile? Should I wear a little trans flag pin?