r/emotionalsupport

lungs and liver unable to determine primary as yet

devastated.

lived a normal life healthy and fit up until last 6 weeks.

got DVTs and PEs

then PET scan confirmed cancer :(

I'm 28 and to keep it brief -

I was taken by CPS from my birth parents at 8-months old. Though their visitation rights didn't last long, all memories I have from that are mortifying. By age 8, I was getting a knock on the door by police to tell me that my dad died by drug induced suicide. I had been estranged from my birth mom since I was roughly around 10 years old until she died from throat cancer 2 days before my 27th birthday. I struggle so badly with feeling like I don't belong anywhere, and especially when I try to integrate myself into a partners family. I am so hyper-vigilant and can see and feel that because I'm not blood, I am automatically treated differently and I'm not villainizing anyone for this, because on one hand I do get it, but on the other, I am fighting everyday to keep going because I feel so lonely. My extended family isn't much and they're mostly absent as well. My partner has suggested adult adoption but I'm weary about that. I'm so angry at my parents for doing this to me and I am fearful for the future because day-to-day feels so bleak and I can't imagine it getting much darker and surviving it. Can anyone else relate? Any advice? Anyone gone through adult adoption? Thanks so much.

I always think of school as of my safe space despite not I having any peers nor close companions to hang out with because of my standoffish nature. Being only child, I'm the one person my mother haves the closest relationship with.

We used to have arguments back to back but now I just want to cut them short, lessening the chances of ruinning her Mental health. Thus vents to me how she gets treated badly by my grandmother and co workers

Frequently I'm in this state of mind where anything besides academics seems foreign to me. When at school I feel like I suddenly gain energy, while home drains it. At school I actually feel like I’m doing stuff that having I have interest in a long time. At Home I just to stay inside, doomscrolling in my bed while she talks about my grandmother on the phone to my uncle.
I know it's immature to dismiss her problems when she has done so much for me. So I recommended her to see a therapist only to decline. I encouraged her to seek out some friends her age, was met with the response, “I only have one friend…you and that's all I need”.

When she said that I immediately felt guilty for everything that I had pissed me off before. And from then on I started to agree with everything that she wanted to say or do, slowly learning that as long as she’s happy that's all that matters. Recently learned this the hard way through argument surronding my class ring.

* Short Story (You skip if you want to)

*Towards the end of last year, 2026, An email was sent out to all Juniors to notify us to purchase our class rings before Feburary 2026 rolls around. It was 200-700 dollars, so I wasn’t planning on getting it due to not being a fan of rings in general. But my mother decided to buy it anyway, claiming how Grandmother never gifted her one.*

*When it was time to customize, Ive wanted the birthstone ruby (Representing my Late Aunt’s Birth month/favorite color) instead of rose quartz. But my mother go ahead to purchase with my birthstone instead. Saying that it makes no sense getting a different color. And while I was angry I need to remember to be grateful for the things I received since I know most parents won't do this for their kids.

I thought he was abusive. But maybe it’s not? Maybe I’m overreacting. Maybe I remembered it wrong or took it the wrong way. I honestly don’t even know. Every person I know is on his side and says I’m the crazy one. So it must be true right? Like when I lost my job and he resented me for not having money - shouldn’t he have every right to since I was leaving all the finances up to him (which is pretty shitty of me)? The verbal and emotional attacks - I know I probably pressed his buttons. The things he said during those fights? They are absolutely true. I do give up too easily. I can’t hold down a job. I’m probably going to lose my current job because I don’t have enough skill set to keep it. I do question if my intellect js actually low because things have happened more and more. Without me being smart enough to handle it. He cheated because I honestly wasn’t being a good wife. I wasn’t giving him the attention he needed. He only shoved me to the ground because during a fight it got pretty escalated and I was pretty close to him and I know fighting back is not always the always. He controls the finances now that he came into some money and I’m making my own money. He has every right to protect his cash as I am irresponsible and will just continue to ask him to buy me things. Maybe all of my pain and suffering is being caused by my own actions. I don’t know what’s going to happen with him and I. If no one else believes me then why should I believe me? He should have never wasted his time on me. I don’t trust my own perception of reality anymore. I don’t trust any friends or family as they all say I am just as bad as he is. I just want to get better so I can be a better wife to my husband.

it’s me 22 F and my bf 24 M we have been together for a little over a year i honestly don’t even know if this was a good title and i don’t really know where to start but here it is.

i woke up this morning to my bf saying “im gonna put it in your butt” at like 7 something in the morning i was fine with it i didn’t complain it just hurt a lot he finished and went to the bathroom than came back to bed he saw that i was upset but i honestly didn’t want to talk about it bc it’s a problem that really hurts me and there’s honestly no point in “complaining” about it anymore might as well deal with it bc nothing will ever change and he proved that bc once i did tell him what was up he ignored me bc it would start an argument and he needed to go back to sleep bc he has work at 10 am so i basically just cry by myself and now im looking for something i honestly don’t know what i want out of this other than someone to listen and hopefully understand.

i don’t think my bf finds me attractive and this is why i think so. he doesn’t compliment me really he will occasionally like “hellos beautiful” or call me cutie or something but when i get done with my hair which takes a while bc i have curly hair he rarely compliments it or says anything but i understand he doesn’t have to compliment me consistently but just a little more would be nice.

another thing is he doesn’t want to please me sexually or that’s how it seems bc i am telling him what i would like done to me so so many times and im barely getting anything it but im doing a lot of things out of my comfort zone. like for example i was a virgin before my bf little to no experience so never gave someone head, had sex, i hadn’t even made out with anyone. im still not used to giving head idk if im good at it my bf seems to enjoy it but he could be lying im not sure and im always asking what i can do to be better at it always asking for feedback with everything sex head all of it.but it still makes me gag and i throw up after giving him head often and he tells me “ill get used to it” “exposer therapy” all these things that i find a little rude to say. having sex still hurts bc im still not used to it but i push through it.i do all of that and im happy to do it i WANT to be the one who does those things but he doesn’t want to do things back to me. he basically pressures me into giving him head but i keep begging him to give me head im begging him to play with my boobs give me hickeys kiss my back play with me down stairs I HAVE TO BEG AND I STILL DONT GET IT. yk what i stand corrected he has been trying to give me hickys and holding my boobs occasionally. but what kind of girlfriend has to beg there boyfriend for these things it makes me feel desperate disgusting and ugly. i stopped eating i only eat like once a day bc my ed is coming back bc i wanna be thinner bc maybe i wont have to beg anymore. i thought if i stopped asking so much he would finally do it but it doesn’t matter if im begging or if i never ask for it he will not do it.

Had a tough breakup, was rekindling relationship with ex on December 2025, she went for a family vacation. On New Years she bombards me with texts breaking up with me at 4:00 am telling me she has to prioritize herself or shes gonna lose it and wants to study abroad and do her thing. We try in the period of 3 months to rekindle that relationship which always ends in ghosting and mixed signals saying shes not ready and is scared of having a relationship with me even though she doesnt wsnt to lose me and misses me.

After no contact for like a Month she calls me at the Middle of the Night on a Sunday, I dont pick up but text next morning what’s up. She asks me for bank advice, I answer politely but thats it. This threw me off a lot, why she is always victimizing herself after seeing reposts of her but looks for me anyways.

Shes called me three times late at night drunk but instantly regrets it. First time I picked up she was horny and regretted the call I told her my real feelings and that I wanted to share my changes with her she avoided that and said sorry for the drunk call. She did that two more times I ignored her and she blocked my artistic accounts on instagram .Last week we had a conversation and she asked me if i was dating anyone, and told me jokingly that someone else-broke her heart again and said jk.

Im so confused finally I unblocked her to show peace she blocked me back and word around the grapevine is she is having a long distance relationship with a foreigner. No contact since and I feel as there is no hope jn the future because of her distractions, people, studying abroad for six months.

She was so special to me and I feel she cheated a trying man. Ive had a lot of breakups but this one is eating me alive, please help.