r/bigboobproblems

I have a friend who is rough a G or H cup (us size) and she was complaining about back pain and i told her about how i was considering a reduction and asked if shes thought about it her. Her reply was "Yeah i want to, but my hubby would be so sad if I did" and i heard him in the back make a fake whine, and I GAGGED.

Ladies, if you are in pain, who the fuck cares what others think. And the fact that your husband/boyfriend or whoever isn't supportive and is only thinking of himself, dump that man and move on. If you told your S/O you are considering getting a reduction, the ONLY response should be supportive and not some bs about how it would ruin his fun or wtv.

Sorry but this made me extra irritated like who tf cares what your husband thinks. This is YOUR body, not his.

I’m a 25-year-old woman, 5’2”, 135 lbs, and a 36G. I have a trip to Portugal coming up, and shopping for cute summer clothes has been an absolute nightmare.

Why is every top backless now?? They offer zero support, so if you don’t have tiny boobs, forget it. I usually wear M but I constantly have to size up to L/XL just so my boobs fit, and then the rest of the top looks ridiculous on me. Same thing with bikinis - the only size that fits my chest is an XL, but then it’s way too loose everywhere else.

Hollister’s curvy line has honestly been my saving grace, but I’m still kinda sad because the styles in that collection aren’t nearly as cute as the rest of their stuff. And Zara? Absolutely not. I genuinely don’t know how anyone with even medium-sized boobs fits into their tops.

I just wish more brands understood that having big boobs doesn’t automatically mean you’re plus size. You can be petite/smaller and still have a larger chest.

A couple tops that actually worked amazingly for me though:
- Original Contour Optimum Halter Top from Aritzia
- Whisper Halter Top - Crepette from Aritzia

I bought both in a medium and they fit so well. They’re surprisingly supportive even without a bra. Definitely pricey, but honestly worth it.

unlike small or medium breasts which are considered natural/normal anatomy of the female body, large breasts can never just exist normally

big boobs are either oversexualized, like literally just existing with large breasts is asking for sexualization and fetishization, or insulted as gross, vulgar, ugly, inappropriate, unnatural (somehow some people believe large boobs are unnatural and "inhuman"), "unrealistic", "pornographic", "gooner bait", etc.

like art for example, statues of women in a museum with small or medium breasts are elegant and beautiful, but art of large breasts is suddenly lewd and sexual??

and it seems like some people , in wanting to fight against the sexualization of women, start bashing big boobs while not understanding it's literally misogyny because we are BORN with this

like why can't it just exist as a neutral variation like anything else? it's just sad

I'm not sure why but being "chic" is trending right now and I've seen a lot of people saying how small boobs are chic and using that as a reason for girls to be more confident about having a smaller chest. At the same time there's a "young ho" trend where girls do a dance where they're bouncing their boobs/chest.

This is just another example of how women with big boobs are seen as being more sexual and then girls with smaller boobs are treated with more respect and are seen as more classy and not sexualised (as much). It's really disappointing since these are trends started and participated in by women. I'm a student so a lot of my peers at university see similar videos/trends as me and I'd hate for any of them to perceive my body as inherently vulgar. Will the day ever come where our boobs are not overly sexualised and seen as unclassy ?

Took a picture where I was front and center with my swim team. It was right after warm up so yknow, the pool makes you cold.
Low and behold, as I log in to check grades, I'm greeting with a pic of me standing front and center in my swim suit, two BRIGHT headlights are staring right back at me. Fun times...

I’m a size small but I look so huge in regular sized or oversized clothes I get called frumpy or fat whenever I wear anything that doesn’t directly hug my body. and to make matters worse, I have an inverted triangle body shape where my upper body is wider than both my hips and my waist. So all of those recommendations still look odd on me. I WORK OUT EVERYDAY! AND IM A SIZE SMALL! yet in my photos posted online, everyone will call me thick or chubby looking. Oh and even though I look better in tight clothing I still look unevenly proportioned AND women are so mean to me because I will never be a waif thin, hourglass shaped “IT girl”.

The only time I look good is in the summer when I get to wear bras and corsets as tops with low rise shorts or pants. Or maybe a half-way tucked in oversized shirt with skinny pants to hide my top heaviness.

Those are the only two combinations that I will ever look good in. Not even A-Line dresses, usually recommended for triangle shaped women, look good on me. It just makes my whole body look even wider. I was 105 lbs the last time I wore an A Line dress and still no one would guess that I have a flat stomach underneath!!! I will NEVER think this shape looks good!! I’m sorry.

EDIT: I’m sorry if this post made anyone feel bad. That wasn’t my intention.

I just hate the fact that I exercise everyday and eat clean, but I’m not acknowledged for that hard work and discipline in the same way that a super thin woman or hourglass/pear shaped woman would. I’ve been bullied growing up despite always being physically fit. It’s frustrating to work hard on something and then on top of that people still mock you. I tell everyone that I meet I workout daily but they find it extremely hard to believe because of how I look. One time a guy asked me “Where are the results then?” When I told him I worked out everyday.

The point that I’m trying to make is that society has almost impossible standards for a woman to meet naturally. If you don’t meet these standards you’re just ignored or you endure a life of bullying. If you’re not an hourglass or a pear shaped woman then you’re basically ignored or fatshamed anyway, even while you’re healthy and sporty. Even in plus sized modeling, agencies will overly represent hourglass or pear shaped compared to other shapes of overweight women.

I’ve just been really triggered lately with all of the weather changes and struggling to find outfits, doesn’t help that I scrolled across that viral post of Leni Klein where people were body shaming her calling her a “Titty-Cow” despite her abs showing in her photos. There was also a similar post about Sydney Sweeney on Euphoria, although not as vulgar and mean. I know I shouldn’t let things like this trigger me but it is true that people are always so mean about this body type.

So i was living my peaceful B Cup life until my body at 19 decided that a DD is the way to go. And im 21 now but people are WEIRD! (Shout out to the bra size subreddit it saved my back omg)

I while i do feel validated by ladies with simmilar issues as me, i so notice some with other figures are not. I dont mind when my close friends comments on my larger size, thats funny since were close. But what starts to throw me off is other women commenting on it, saying things like "they arent *that* big" (Did i ask? I was just saying jogging hurts my chest) i generally did start to get more unasked comments about my chest now that theyre more prominent.

And dont get me started on men. Have they always been this shameless? Like one dude trying to say no wonder my bmi is on the higher side im short with big boobs. Okay?...weird thing to comment on. Also some of them just stare shamelessly. Its also painfully uncomfortable how sexuallited big chests are.

Also being told i present them, so no wonder people stare. I am wearing a tight top. Because i do not want to appear bigger then i am....how is that presenting them?

So uh yeah that all sucks. Do yall ladies relate? :')

Maybe I'm just foolish, but I thought that being pregnant was the ONE time I'd find clothes made for very large boobs. Nope. Not even most nursing bras come in my size. I did manage to find Hot Milk, so I've ordered from them and will see how it goes.

Meanwhile, I'm only at 18 weeks and I'm at least a cup size bigger and struggling with finding bathing suits and other clothes that might actually fit my top. Does anyone have any sources for maternity clothes that actually work for giant boobs with a smaller band? What did y'all do when you were pregnant? What did you like to wear once the bump got big?

Any advice is greatly appreciated!

I’ve been noticing how insane the bra price gap is lately. Some are only $20–30, while others hit nearly $100 or even more. Like Panache, Elomi, Freya I look at is sitting at $70+ now.

I feel like I’ve definitely had a spending downgrade the past couple years, plus I’m just disappointed with so many overhyped bra styles now.

When I was still relying on my parents for allowance, I’d splurge on expensive bras without a second thought. Now I overthink every purchase and really weigh if it’s actually worth the money.

Curious what price range everyone here normally sticks to? Anyone else feeling this pain?

I finally gave in to clear straps for spaghetti strapped dresses, but how do you pull it off with open backed ones?

I sometimes think of my boobs has half a planet each. So if you could take them off the chest and stick them together they would form a globe.

Now the reason I think this is not just cause they look like big old floppy half circles.

It is because the equator is hot and humid, and the closer you get the poles the colder they are.

My underboob will be steaming hot but meanwhile, my nips are up there at the poles standing at attention and FREEZING cold to the touch.

There is my little boobs are fun and weird thought.

Because society tends to sexualize large chests I noticed that media with the most consistent representation of women with larger chests is in pornography. This isn’t really surprising to anyone who has ever been on the internet, but I noticed recently that the over representation of larger chests in pornographic media and the underrepresentation in anything else has actually effected my psyche.

First, characters with larger chests are already rarely seen on screen. For the characters that are portrayed they are always over sexualized or have their bodies commented on. Besides Crazy Ex-Girlfriend, I don’t know of any conventional media formats that consistently portrays large chested women in a positive light and not just the butt of a joke. In pornography, actresses with larger chests are clearly fetishized, but desired none the less.

This realization really fucked with my self esteem in my teenage years, especially as a woman of color. Women of color are already underrepresented and over sexualized in media. Having the only “positive” representation of your race and body type be in pornography can do real harm to young women. When I was younger I used to watch porn not because I liked it, but because the people on the screen actually looked like me. I just wish that there was more truly neutral media of larger chested women that don’t address our bodies at all.

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Does anyone have any advice on where to shop to find cute swimsuits for a larger cup? I’m 18, just graduated high school, and all my friends have these super cute bikinis, but all the ones I find online for my cup size are not half as cute, I feel like they’re made for older women. Literally nothing wrong with that but I am still a teenager and I want to feel like one 😭😭. So does anyone know any websites that have cute bikini tops for bigger sizes?

I did the bra calculator and am finding a couple of bras that fit very well, and some makers that think "Meh, let's short this by a cup size".

Anyway, I measured out as a 48J/50I. And when you talk about bras this big, it's all utility. Nothing is pretty, or sexy, heck no. Push them things up and strap them in. You get a wide range of colors though, of white, black, and beige. I don't know why they think that big girls don't need frill.

I'll head this off at the pass, no I didn't look at Polish bras. They require me to go homeless to afford one.

End rant.

For context I’m a 38 I in US sizes and 38 G UK (I think)
I feel like I have to treat them like a baby if I want them to last. They’re so expensive in my size. At this point I might as well rock it to sleep. If I was a D or DD I’d probably never hand wash and just throw in washer cause I could easily buy one at marshals or something.
(I’m also on the lower income)